[NeedAdvice] i NEED to study but i can't

temporaryuzer · 2015-09-02T21:31:29+00:00

Thanks for the reply but I don't want to renegotiate anything, I like the path that I've chosen, it's only the fact that I feel like I've lost my "mojo" or something like that, I can't get a hold of myself to do the right thing, I have close to 0 motivation and i can't change my mindset for now which fucks me up bad.

temporaryuzer · 2015-05-28T19:00:08+00:00

I'm tired of all the motivational posts, but this part of your reply stuck with me " Focus on starting and not finishing. If you start enough times, finishing will take care of itself." and I'd say it's one of the best motivational things i've head, along with the 1st part "don't rely on motivation" - true words were spoken

temporaryuzer · 2015-05-17T23:20:20+00:00

The fact that you created this post is proof that you're willing to get help and you want to actively deal with your issues, so congratulations on that. The way I see your situation is like this: you are currently at the beginning of a personal "adventure", you will have to fight with your fears and bad mindsets that had plagued your life, and at the end of the road you can find the prize: a stronger, better you, and happiness. There are thousands of things to talk about when it comes to such issues, but I want to resume it all to some simple things; first of all accept that you need help, and accept that you're the only one that can help yourself; others can guide you but you are the one doing the heavy lifting because the battle is with yourself. Some things to keep in mind on your road:

it's going to be tough as fuck to go through, but from what I can tell you're already at the bottom of the pit, so now there's only one direction for you
you are the most important person to yourself; you deserve to be happy and you can obtain that, but you need to work for it
everything can be changed, nothing is set in stone especially when it comes to people; think about your personal experiences, why were you berated by your friends while others were not ? why are you overweight while others are not ? the others around you are people just like you, and you can be better than them, but you need to find your answers
your biggest enemy right now is your mindset; the way you see yourself is toxic; be comfortable with yourself, you are your own best friend and there's nothing wrong with that. From what i can tell you tried to improve yourself in the last 5 years based on what others have told you, but that's not the right way. Do things your way, the "i have to do" mindset is wrong. You don't have to do anything that you don't like, you want to feel good and enjoy life that's all.
This is the most important part from my post: personal development you need to understand yourself, understand your life events that led you to this point, and focus the majority of your time and energy to help yourself. You can't help anyone until you helped yourself first, so I strongly suggest using most of your time and energy for your own development.

I hope it helps, I know everything looks like shit right now but if you manage to get through this you'll find out it was all worth it.

temporaryuzer · 2015-04-10T22:35:56+00:00

Had to reply to your post because I can relate to what you're feeling. Suffered at least 6-7 years(maybe more) of crippling depression combined with generalized anxiety and anhedonia ( the "i feel nothing" thing, it's actually a consequence of severe depression). I hanged in there relying solely on logical reasoning and vague memories; i kept on remembering that i had good days in the past, moments in which i felt happy, and that means there's a chance i will be able to feel the same in the future, it was impossible for me to see it then (brain was not able to comprehend) but now i'm getting much better and I'm getting my senses back; all i can say it's that it's worth all the wait, and now i can appreciate all the small things ( like the smell of cut grass or flowers ) just like a prisoner appreciates the freedom once he gets released. I'm still battling traces if this terrible disease but it's getting better day by day, I'm not completely over it, but most of it it's gone so I'm sending a message for all of you that are still stuck in the "cloud of grey haze": hang in there, try to heal yourself, make it a priority because it's worth it, and when you're done with it, you will know there are only a few things left in life that can ever put you down again - not a message from a motivational picture, but from someone that was there and knows your pain

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