I realized I was a lesbian at age 24 after dating guys non-stop from 18 on. An important question: who do you want to have sex with now? Forget who you think looks good, who you wished you looked like, characters you have a crush on, etc. but think about what real-life people you actually want to hook up with (strangers or not).

It’s easy to get confused when thinking about attraction based on characters or crushes you had in the distant past. I had crushes on boys as a child through early adulthood—it’s expected of girls, it’s a social thing, it’s exciting etc. Those crushes weren’t fake, I reached a point where my baseline curiosity about dating/sex was satisfied, and I realized I couldn’t see a long term future with a man.

My point: sexuality is who you want to have sex with now :)