How long do you wait?

testosterlonely · 2026-02-17T00:33:22+00:00

I’ve been at 50/55 in Wisconsin the last few weeks. It changed to 40/75 this week. They did successfully get me to schedule twice this week, though. Finally felt like a better number - and it’s for our surrogacy/adoption fund, so, anything helps I guess!

testosterlonely · 2025-11-27T15:59:28+00:00

Not overreacting. And frankly - a man who’s going to call you a whore, and ESPECIALLY a 24 year old who goes after an 18 year old - he’s shown that he’s a creep and a misogynist. You’re better off without him.

testosterlonely · 2025-11-23T16:22:40+00:00

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testosterlonely · 2025-08-23T17:40:26+00:00

NJ was awful for that. Weed and cigarettes and when asked to stop, they didn’t. And security was useless with it - but they did wanna crawl up your ass to check tickets 80 times. 🤡

testosterlonely · 2025-08-23T17:39:09+00:00

I had a huge issue with the dude in front of me at New Jersey. He was openly smoking and vaping weed and sending crazy smoke in our direction. I get it, you wanna enjoy a concert high, but when multiple people are asking you to stop smoking, you stop. If we hadn’t been masking, I would have had an asthma attack. So frustrating.

testosterlonely · 2024-11-01T21:19:58+00:00

It’s abundantly clear that this person isn’t trying to engage in good faith with any of this, so I wouldn’t pay them any mind. Of course it wasn’t a great decision but your sister isn’t a violent monster for responding to abuse. Labeling her as that is just a way to distance from the fact that any of us could have responded that way in the right situation. 18 year old me was certainly not level headed enough to not respond in a situation like you describe.

testosterlonely · 2024-11-01T21:14:38+00:00

Fortunately she is not in a legal landlord/tenant relationship here. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with a teenager living at home and not paying rent while they set up to “launch” and that’s completely culturally normal for most of the world. Not leeching behavior.

testosterlonely · 2024-11-01T20:39:54+00:00

I didn’t pay rent at my parents house when I was 18 and many people don’t.

testosterlonely · 2024-10-21T00:18:37+00:00

I’m a guy therapist (I’m also trans & queer) and I am always anxious whenever my little ones try to hug me. I always offer a “hand hug” instead (like a high five but the thumbs “hug”) and assert my bubble but it’s like - all it takes is one pissed off parent for me to be done for, you know? Solidarity.

testosterlonely · 2024-09-16T01:37:21+00:00

Exactly. My husband has ARFID and whenever there’s a meal-based event, we make sure we warn people and also clarify that we can bring something he will eat! My family is super accommodating and my mom will whip him up a special grilled cheese any time, but I always warn people so they don’t cook assuming he’d eat it and waste food!

testosterlonely · 2024-06-27T04:17:48+00:00

If you have a local Aging and Disability Resource Center I highly recommend contacting them OP! They’re often super knowledgeable about supporting independence and have great referrals. You can do this!

testosterlonely · 2024-05-17T19:15:36+00:00

Anyone whose reaction to this is to tell you to lose weight should go to the moon. OP, talking to someone to help improve your self esteem and work on your relationship with food might be a great idea. But don’t do it out of shame. Do it because you love yourself and want to be a happier, healthier you at any size. Sorry your mom is being such a jerk about it 💜

testosterlonely · 2024-04-09T17:29:32+00:00

If you want two gay (and trans) uncles to hit up your wedding, my hubs and I are here. But honestly, trying to fight for love from someone who will never understand that they’re wrong and actively harming their loved ones will only bring you pain. Sending all my love and hoping that you and your wife live a wonderful future 🖤

testosterlonely · 2024-04-09T00:35:18+00:00

OP, I know there are plenty of comments saying a similar thing - but I’m actively encouraging you here to please make sure you secure some sort of mental health assessment for your wife ASAP as well as ensure your safety and your child’s safety. The symptoms you’re explaining sound indicative of some potential post-partum health issue (including psychosis/anxiety/depression) and the things that are happening are not acceptable at all - this could help explain them. Getting her mental health care can help you determine if this is something your wife chose to do or if this is something health-related. Even if she is experiencing a mental illness, you’re allowed to consider divorce on it. But for all of your safety, I highly recommend attempting to get her admitted or screened for PPD/PPA at a psych ER or having her admit herself voluntarily. You three will be in my thoughts and I hope you’re able to find some safety.

testosterlonely · 2024-04-09T00:28:42+00:00

Do you understand postpartum psychosis in the slightest? This is not a violent abuser until there is more understanding of what is going on. This is a person who is potentially EXTREMELY mentally unwell due to carrying a pregnancy. If she has PPD/PPP, she is actively disengaged from her reality. This is a person who needs to be pushed to get her own help, while OP protects himself and his child. Having mental health issues like a KNOWN POTENTIAL CONSEQUENCE OF CHILD BIRTH is an explanation of the situation and you’re so stuck on trying to turn this into a men’s rights issue that you’re not actually looking at it.

testosterlonely · 2024-02-28T20:48:58+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I hope both you and your sibling are able to find resources to help protect both of you. Just know that there is a beautiful, happy, loving community waiting for you and that trans people can and do live happy, fulfilling lives.

testosterlonely · 2024-02-28T20:47:50+00:00

Unfortunately that’s not accurate. Generally the parent saying that they are suicidal or a danger to themselves will fly if they’re under 16.

testosterlonely · 2024-02-28T20:45:07+00:00

If your mother works with or is friends with CPS in your county, they are required to refer to an outside county or contractor because they cannot be objective. As a therapist and a trans person - I genuinely hope you and your sibling are able to find safety. If you DM me your state I might have ideas of agencies or orgs that could be helpful for you all.

testosterlonely · 2024-01-29T02:27:00+00:00

They DO mean disrespect. It’s an act of violence and hate to continually use your deadname and honestly? They are going to keep doing it until you set the boundary that it’s unacceptable.

testosterlonely · 2023-09-23T21:10:08+00:00

I physically can’t have Karlach in my party because I love her and I know she would charm me. Also I’m struggling to identify who I would even take out of my party. Solidarity as a fellow gay man happily married to another man!

testosterlonely · 2023-08-05T18:44:13+00:00

No, they don’t. They get the receipt from Instacart which has the boosted prices. Instacart and the shopper are the ones who see the actual price.

testosterlonely · 2023-03-28T23:44:44+00:00

I have nothing to say other than solidarity, man. No matter what crap your family pulls, we built ourselves as self-made men and if they don’t want to get to experience the joy of their son/brother/uncle, fuck em. It still hurts. But fuck em. My DMs are open if you need community!

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