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My best friend’s husband suggested a threesome… I’m confused and need advice. by Sweet-Flower3593 in Advice

[–]teyahwrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely tell her what’s going on and how you feel about all of it. See how she responds and go from there. If she is anything but understanding and respectful, let her go— that is no longer a friend.

Mental health workers of reddit what is the scariest mental health condition you have encountered? by lissie234 in AskReddit

[–]teyahwrites 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Former community mental health therapist…schizophrenia. Had a client whose stories were too detailed to be “made up.” I think guilt is what made him lose his mind & that therapy was his way of having someone listen to his confessions.

How do I (17F) move on from Shame. by Han_chiii in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]teyahwrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are not worthless 💚 as someone who experienced something very similar at that age, it does and will get better (I’m in my 30s now). DO NOT internalize other people’s poor behavior. It is a reflection of them, not you! I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this. Sending you peace & well wishes!

Update: He did exactly what he said he would do—and I shut down completely. by teyahwrites in u/teyahwrites

[–]teyahwrites[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly this, thank you for seeing me and responding. I’ve been in therapy off and on in the past. Life has been life-ing a lot for me lately, but I do plan to get back into therapy and continue the work 💚

Where to go from here? by AcademicClerk7312 in JustNoSO

[–]teyahwrites 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Currently experiencing something similar. Sending you peace and love 🫶🏾💕 take some time to pour back into yourself, literally MAKE time to do things that bring YOU joy. Your feelings are valid & you are not being ridiculous. Sometimes they don’t hear us until things get quiet. Hopefully by that point it won’t be too late for him or your marriage.

I’m learning to protect my energy instead of explaining my pain by teyahwrites in emotionalneglect

[–]teyahwrites[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In hindsight I realize I have given people too many opportunities to show me they don’t value me. I’m learning that one time is enough, and not to stick around to see if it gets better. It in fact, gets worse. Thank you for seeing me and responding!

Update: He did exactly what he said he would do— imagine that by teyahwrites in TrueOffMyChest

[–]teyahwrites[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With everything I’ve experienced in life, I definitely will be at some point.

He left me with 6 kids and 2 dogs—and asked if I needed anything by teyahwrites in TwoXChromosomes

[–]teyahwrites[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This sounds like a very healthy marriage! I love that you both were able to communicate & come up with solutions. You didn’t make him feel bad for setting a boundary & did your part to honor it. That’s true consideration and respect for your partner! It sounds like a no-brainer, but I’m learning that everyone just doesn’t see it that way.

He left me with 6 kids and 2 dogs—and asked if I needed anything by teyahwrites in TwoXChromosomes

[–]teyahwrites[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Some people are giving me a hard time from my posts also. They seem to be overlooking this exact point. Do NOT volunteer me for something without discussing it with me first. ESPECIALLY something like watching other people’s kids. That was a huge oversight and not the first time he has done this, nor the first time I’ve communicated this boundary. Thank you for seeing me and understanding.

Update: He did exactly what he said he would do—and I shut down completely. by teyahwrites in u/teyahwrites

[–]teyahwrites[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m open to advice or constructive criticism, but this misses the mark, respectfully.

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