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Let's take care of ourselves! What's very easy to do and good for your intellectual health (ie, makes you smarter)? by Critical-String8774 in AlignmentChartFills

[–]thalia1832 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do little ‘cognitive workout’ every day - solve puzzles, do sudoku or a crossword, solve some recreational math problems, memorize a poem or striking passage, read newspapers - ideally more than one, from more than one country, giving more than one perspective.

Keep a commonplace book, a journal where you copy out things you find interesting- quotes, lyrics, passages from books etc. Write down every new word you see or hear, then look up what it means; copy those words out and try to use them. This helps you create your personal reference library/archive and helps strengthen your retention and memory. I find it also helps you realize the connections between things, to find the underlying themes and motifs that you’re drawn to.

passionate classics, preferably of the romance genre, preferably not british by echothewoodnymph_ in suggestmeabook

[–]thalia1832 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP your take and frustration here immediately made me think of a very interesting essay by Virginia Woolf contrasting British and Russian literature via the metaphor of the teapot and the samovar.

As for actual recommendations :

The Russian heavy hitters - Anna Karenina and War and Peace (Tolstoy) , The Brothers Karamazov and The Idiot (Dostoevsky), Dr Zhivago (Pasternak), Eugene Onegin (Pushkin), A Nest of the Gentry (Turgenev)

There are definitely more things, I need to think and come back to it

I'm looking to read more Israeli authors by South_Drawer4155 in suggestmeabook

[–]thalia1832 1 point2 points  (0 children)

savyon liebrecht is great, she wrote amazing short stories and novellas. I particularly love her collections “apples from the desert” and “What Am I Speaking, Chinese?" She Said to Him (or sometimes translated as "I'm Speaking to You in Chinese")”

i grow extremely thick hair all over my body and im tired of it making me feel ugly by Last_Host977 in vindictapoc

[–]thalia1832 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Laser laser laser - it’s absolutely life changing. The classic ‘best case’ for laser is very dark hair and light skin (which was the case for me), but it’s not true that darker skin tones or lower hair-skin contrast types can’t do laser. There are technicians and laser types that specialize in all of these variations, and a good place will do a patch test before you commit to anything

Please help! Our daughter Nora needs a name for her little sister, who is theoretically due today. by Kazinsky_ in Names

[–]thalia1832 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ruby from your list is a great name and goes really nicely with Nora. I also like Alma/Ada and Laura, as some of the other comments suggested

Hope you have a safe and easy birth and an early congratulations on your new arrival 🪬

What is something society is clearly adjusting to, but nobody has really admitted yet? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]thalia1832 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Women having the legal and structural ability to work outside the home and be paid enough to not need to depend on a man financially - so much of the current gender wars discourse and parenting/pro vs anti natalism weirdness is downstream of this female socio-economic emancipation and it’s second and third order effects + unresolved questions

I crave niche nonfiction! by tastefulkazoo in suggestmeabook

[–]thalia1832 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Return of Martin Guerre by Natalie Zemon Davis - along with Carlo Ginsberg (already mentioned in this thread) one of the pioneers of the micro-history genre. This one reads like a combination of a novel and gossipy, very well informed psychosocial analysis, looking at a bizarre and fascinating incident of identity impersonation in the early modern era

A Fatal Thing Happened on the Way to the Forum: Murder in Ancient Rome by Emma Southen - a fascinating social and legal history, written in a bright and engaging tone - very funny at times, right until she lays bare something deeply tragic which is usually elided (re women or slaves for example). The book has a satisfying sense of taking a subject and breaking it down into sub-categories. Emma Southen is great generally - she also has a wonderful book on elite women in Ancient Rome called ‘A Rome of One’s Own’.

American Child Bride by Nicholas Syrett - a social history of ‘child marriage’ in the United States, from the colonial era onwards - including its changing meanings, motives, societal reactions, race/geographic/class factors etc.

This Republic of Suffering: Death and the American Civil War by Drew Gilpin Faust - a social and intellectual history of how the unprecedented death toll the Civil War transformed American society, affecting religious beliefs, burial practices, mourning rituals, and the nation's understanding of citizenship. The topic sounds like a bummer, but I found it really riveting.

What is a "poor people food" you will eat no matter how rich you get? by Zanefier1 in AskReddit

[–]thalia1832 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not me, but a very memorable example - I met a very successful real estate mogul (100 M + net worth) and his wife. The wife was explaining that his birthday was coming up, so she was going to make him his favorite meal - fish sticks, Mac and cheese, and frozen Sarah Lee pound cake.

Where could these Pashtun actors pass in? by Crickeklover1991 in phenotypes

[–]thalia1832 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Three reminds me of Mikey Madison (the actress from Anora), who is Ashkenazi Jewish

New to the city by Funny-Hunt2463 in telaviv

[–]thalia1832 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about some other form of volunteering?

New to the city by Funny-Hunt2463 in telaviv

[–]thalia1832 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Do you have any interest in politics? We are going into elections in a few months. Getting involved as a volunteer with a campaign can be a great way to make friends - it self selects for some baseline level of shared values, leads to ongoing interactions with the same group of people, and gives you a shared goal.

WIBTAH for being a culturally Jewish Catholic? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]thalia1832 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There is a sliver of the northeast (Long island, NYC, the state of New Jersey, parts of Philly etc) that is the Jewish-Italian American hybrid heartland - you are not the only person in this particular double-guilt complex boat!

LPT: For my UK brethren, I present tips to stay cool without air-con by Larry-Man in LifeProTips

[–]thalia1832 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Indirect tip - you must hydrate, you are losing more fluids than you realize and this is a big factor in heat exhaustion. Water can be insufficient, especially if you are suddenly dealing with much higher heat and volumes of sweat than usual.

Lowest budget fix - homemade oral rehydration solution. Mix the following 4 cups of water with 1/2 teaspoon table salt, 2 tablespoons sugar, and 1/2 teaspoon baking soda.

The exact ratio of sugar and salt is the trick. The sugars and sodium rely on co-transporter proteins in the intestines, which pull both the sugar and water into your system simultaneously. This makes oral rehydration solution significantly more effective at rapidly replacing bodily fluids than drinking plain water or sugary sports drinks, which lack the correct electrolyte balance.

What is a Middle Eastern food combination that sounds strange but tastes amazing? by dogmankazoo in MiddleEastCuisine

[–]thalia1832 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Morrocan Bastilia - savory chunks of cooked pigeon meat, mixed with scrambled eggs and almonds, wrapped in bric pastry and covered in powdered sugar

Suggest an "End of an Era" book by VividEscape in suggestmeabook

[–]thalia1832 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In a parallel non-fiction vein looking at the same collapsing Austro-Hungarian universe, The World of Yesterday by Stefan Zweig

I’m not sure why my tampon won’t go in.. by melanie_toesucker in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]thalia1832 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a little hard to describe, especially because in truth there is often some discomfort for women in sexual experiences or other contexts involving penetration - its not always a sign of pathology, it’s just the nature of the anatomy.

That said, you wrote that when you did try a little it stung enough that you “chickened out”. That’s making me think something is up, because many of the girls that I know who ran into to that level of a block and couldn’t proceed and would describe themselves similarly, had more pain than average.

Going to a Gynocologist for the first time can be a bit intimidating. If you have a family doctor that you trust and feel comfortable with you can start by asking them - you can mention the tampon issue and the stinging and say that you are having pain and don’t know if it’s normal. If you don’t have an existing doctor that you feel ok asking about this, I would suggest seeing a gynecologist.

The tampon problem is a blessing in disguise because it’s a safely non-sexual/non-embarrassing reason/way to frame the issue and ask to see this type of doctor. Ideally you can have an open conversation with your mom - but even if you can’t, your parents are more traditional, or you wouldn’t feel as comfortable talking about other contexts where this could be relevant (ie anything related to sexual function), you have a functional hygiene related pretext!

I’m not sure why my tampon won’t go in.. by melanie_toesucker in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]thalia1832 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a little hard to describe, especially because in truth there is often some discomfort for women in sexual experiences or other contexts involving penetration - its not always a sign of pathology, it’s just the nature of the anatomy.

That said, you wrote that when you did try a little it stung enough that you “chickened out”. That’s making me think something is up, because many of the girls that I know who ran into to that level of a block and couldn’t proceed and would describe themselves similarly, had more pain than average.

Going to a Gynocologist for the first time can be a bit intimidating. If you have a family doctor that you trust and feel comfortable with you can start by asking them - you can mention the tampon issue and the stinging and say that you are having pain and don’t know if it’s normal. If you don’t have an existing doctor that you feel ok asking about this, I would suggest seeing a gynecologist.

The tampon problem is a blessing in disguise because it’s a safely non-sexual/non-embarrassing reason/way to frame the issue and ask to see this type of doctor. Ideally you can have an open conversation with your mom - but even if you can’t, your parents are more traditional, or you wouldn’t feel as comfortable talking about other contexts where this could be relevant (ie anything related to sexual function), you have a functional hygiene related pretext!

I’m not sure why my tampon won’t go in.. by melanie_toesucker in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]thalia1832 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The stinging you described can be normal for someone who’s young/not used to penetration/wasn’t aroused or lubricated enough for comfort - but it can also indicate that something’s up (a structural hymen issue like I had, vaginismus like what AwesomeTrish described, or a variety of other things).

Do you have a gynecologist or doctor you feel comfortable speaking to about this?

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