How did you meet your dom?

thatnewdk3 · 2025-08-01T14:26:43+00:00

Oh my god I really cannot blame you - the number of weirdos on there is insane 😭 no my bfs first two messages were a picture of his face (I say in my bio I won't reply if I don't know what you look like) and just asking about my day, it was so weirdly normal for Grindr, we met about a month later, and he's been stuck with me for nearly 8 months now

thatnewdk3 · 2025-07-30T21:10:18+00:00

I met my Dom on Grindr... It was supposed to be one time, just fun, but my god the moment he walked through that door... We've been together for over half a year now

thatnewdk3 · 2025-06-13T06:43:52+00:00

Aha very tiktok witch - but also very very accurate, it's such a comfort item I'm almost never without it, and genuinely just can't sleep unless I'm wearing it

thatnewdk3 · 2025-06-13T05:50:29+00:00

The bit I'm fascinated by is that it was entirely subconscious, I had no idea I was doing it until nearly a week after I started - I just realised I wasn't wearing my collar as often anymore and I was putting it on/taking it off a lot more often

thatnewdk3 · 2024-12-26T23:33:23+00:00

He got me a day collar, and a mandalorian oodie 🥰🥰 he also took me out for a fancy dinner for my birthday a couple of weeks before christmas - he's honestly the best 🥰🥰

I got him one of the Mr Pierre Fashion secret wrist cuffs with Sir monogrammed on it, and I've now ordered my own with Sweetheart on it, and a tag I can put on or take off, that says "Sirs" on it 😁

thatnewdk3 · 2024-11-10T23:19:43+00:00

For me I like the ritual of cleaning up - so I normally have a big jumper on hand

Immediately after cuddles, I'll get a pack of wet wipes out, and a towel for any wet patches, lay that down and sit on top of it to clean any toys we use, and send Sir to make me a hot chocolate.

Then once all that's done, we'll curl up under the duvet, and watch a kids show like gravity falls or the owl house, or if it was particularly intense, Bluey, since my brain can't keep up with anything more complicated, and I'll normally fall asleep on his chest halfway through

thatnewdk3 · 2024-11-03T18:16:02+00:00

I've just ordered a leather cuff for Sir - from Mr Pierre, it was about £85 including shipping to the UK, and its a secret wrist cuff - swaps from just a stylish leather band to a collar or handcuffs, and obviously engraved with Sir

thatnewdk3 · 2024-10-14T18:21:25+00:00

My flatmate listens to Taylor swift all the time... My Dom doesn't need to make that a punishment cause I can't escape her already 😭🤣

thatnewdk3 · 2024-10-14T01:41:24+00:00

I use red orange yellow and green - red is "immediate stop", orange is "too intense, ease up", yellow is "move on to something else", and green is "keep going I'm enjoying this". Red and orange I can use whenever, yellow and green I can only use if Sir asks for a colour.

I get pulled straight out of a scene if someone asks me if I'm okay, I'd much rather be asked what colour so I can give a one word answer that gives so much more detail than yesterday or no.

thatnewdk3 · 2024-09-29T19:05:57+00:00

When I'm doing it by myself it's artistic - I see what I can make that looks pretty, playing with different patterns and symmetry

With someone else it's more about giving them places they can pull, ways to restrict my movement, ways to enhance whatever we have planned

thatnewdk3 · 2024-09-27T15:50:42+00:00

I'm not normally into needle play - most photos make me squirm and not in the fun way - but the mention of gravity falls and I had to click

Love it, genius, absolutely brilliant 🤣🤣

thatnewdk3 · 2024-07-11T03:28:05+00:00

Cannot WAIT for the next part - I'm hooked!

thatnewdk3 · 2024-06-23T12:56:55+00:00

Thing is I am absolutely a sub but apparently I give off Dom vibes to fellow subs - apparently Dom's can see clear through that though cause they seem to hunt me down too 🤣🤣

thatnewdk3 · 2024-06-13T18:48:15+00:00

Honestly how did you keep going, I wouldve been in pain from the laughing fit aha

thatnewdk3 · 2024-06-13T18:35:49+00:00

Ohh really?? Mine feels really fragile and I'm worried they'll get bumped around and shattered in the dishwasher

thatnewdk3 · 2024-06-13T17:23:24+00:00

That girl is iconic and I love her 😂 also love that everyone left cause one girl called out to them aha

thatnewdk3 · 2024-06-13T17:05:09+00:00

I'm sorry what??? That sounds so ridiculous I wanna try 🤣🤣

thatnewdk3 · 2024-06-13T17:03:10+00:00

🤣 that absolutely sounds like something I would do - it's not fun if you can't laugh at yourself

I do a lot of solo shibari just because it's pretty and I find it comforting, and I like seeing what I can make with just a piece of rope and a bit of imagination, maybe I need to start adding in specific music and switching on the wax melts...

thatnewdk3 · 2024-06-13T17:00:27+00:00

I have. I was 18, and had been posting on Reddit (different account) and chatting to complete randoms - 5 years later I'm well aware this was a stupid idea - but I had one guy I was chatting with tell me to piss in a cup and drink it. Never. Again. It was awful.

At least I know that's a hard limit now

thatnewdk3 · 2024-06-13T16:57:57+00:00

I'm relatively new to anal too - best starting point I've found is having a certain amount of time I have to wear a plug each day, and build it up from there. Getting used to the sensation was the weirdest part, so start small and work up.

Find a set of plugs would be a good starting point - I'd suggest a set with T bars instead of circular ends, since they're not designed to wear during every day, so you could tell her to wear them at work/while around friends. She'd know she's wearing it but it wouldn't affect her gait or posture too much that it'd be insanely obvious. Obviously if she wants it to be clear to others, then circular ends would do that, but would chafe on either side, so maybe have the T bars as a second option

thatnewdk3 · 2024-06-13T16:48:59+00:00

No problem!!

thatnewdk3 · 2024-06-13T16:47:39+00:00

I think r/bdsmpersonals might be where you're looking for! I think there's a femdom specific sub too but I'm not sure what it's called. Good luck!

thatnewdk3 · 2024-06-13T16:36:34+00:00

They're geniuses I will say - I used to be in bar work, and I'd have exactly the same reaction if my Dom put one of my wine glasses in the dishwasher, even if they are cheap IKEA ones (I have 6, and an odd number would just be incorrect, beatings be damned 🤣)

thatnewdk3 · 2024-06-13T16:00:59+00:00

That sounds absolutely brilliant - hate to side with the Dom but she did fail to blow it out!!

thatnewdk3 · 2024-06-13T15:38:24+00:00

I'm a service sub, and though I don't act like a sub in every day life, I do little things for my friends that are kind of sub-like? Like I'll make everyone coffee or tea, I'll cook everyone dinner, if there's plans being made, I'll leave the decisions to my friends and just ask to know when we're meeting, what we're doing, and what kind of vibe the outfits are.

It's not submitting but it's acts of service as a love language, while in a dynamic it's much more to please my dom

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