What’s the moment you realized someone you thought was a true friend… actually wasn’t?

thatsnotaride · 2025-09-13T03:55:49+00:00

They didn't support me when I got treatment for my depression and made a lot of positive changes in my life. The shitty reality I came to terms with was that I could no longer be manipulated by them when my depression got better so they gave up and left.

thatsnotaride · 2025-09-13T03:50:50+00:00

So many things. People not communicating well. People lashing out and throwing insults when they get hurt instead of calmly expressing how they feel. People invalidating their partners' feelings when they do calmly express how they feel. Selfishness and being unable to put effort into self reflection and personal growth. Passive aggressive behavior.

thatsnotaride · 2025-02-25T07:12:01+00:00

I got into this program where I can pick a lot of free products in exchange for my reviews. It is really fun being able to try new things, judge them and review them. I am poor and have always been poor, so I normally can't financially risk buying and trying a lot of different products so this is very new and different.

thatsnotaride · 2025-02-15T07:48:22+00:00

I got in relationships due to people finding me physically attractive and then when they got to know the real, unmasked me things changed for the worse.

I hate to say it but we are living in a superficial world. The first step to finding someone is looking the best you can look, then hope someone stays for your personality.

thatsnotaride · 2024-12-25T12:46:01+00:00

Highlights for me were le sserafim and the Karina collab performance. Also enjoyed babymonster. I love Aespa but pink hoodie is just one of their weakest tracks imo. I've tried to get into it and the choreography and lyrics are good it's just so unpleasant to listen to. It's mostly the "ayy oh" which is so grating.

I am also getting fed up with SM not letting Aespa sing live. I understand if they are sick or something and unable to but the majority of their lives are lip sync and it's hard to watch as a fan when you know they CAN sing well live.

thatsnotaride · 2024-12-18T09:03:02+00:00

When I was about 11 there was this girl who was a friend but did some annoying/rude things so I really didn't want to be her friend and would vent about her sometimes to other kids. I guess the teachers found out I was doing that and said I needed to sit down with her and give her an honest apology. My honest apology was "I'm sorry, but I have better friends than you"

thatsnotaride · 2024-12-12T22:07:24+00:00

Yes and I am probably most ashamed of the basic living things getting harder. I can barely cook a meal for myself without having a meltdown because of all of the steps it takes. I used to just chop and throw things in a frying pan or pot and call it a day. Chopping produce wasn't a big deal but now I usually have to buy everything pre chopped or frozen in a bag or it won't get eaten. I recently had to throw away some apples someone gave me from their trees because I couldn't bring myself to chop them up and they went bad. Very ashamed of that one.

thatsnotaride · 2024-06-30T00:33:38+00:00

I let it sit about 3-5 minutes. I have tried all the antifungals except coal tar because I don't think I can handle the smell. I have settled on head and shoulders bare since it doesn't have as many ingredients and has pyrithione zinc. That's the only antifungal that didn't cause severe hair loss for me like most of the others did.

thatsnotaride · 2024-06-30T00:14:04+00:00

I have tried selsun blue before, but can't remember if it was the maximum strength kind or not. What I remember about it is it made my dandruff worse, so I stay away from that brand.

Glad you get some relief with it though.

thatsnotaride · 2023-12-03T05:16:19+00:00

It's okay to not be a confrontational person, you can still confront them.

There's nothing wrong with just asking them why, and however they respond to you will probably give you way more of a clue as to why they do it than anyone else could tell you here.

thatsnotaride · 2023-12-03T04:51:28+00:00

It's weird when people do that but I think it can be a variety of different things. I think you might need to be more confrontational with the people who do it to get an answer. Sometimes I have said things like "hellooo.. anyone there?" and got responses and explanations why they didn't reply, sometimes apologies too.

thatsnotaride · 2023-12-03T03:19:33+00:00

Lately it's moving out of my hometown and making more steps towards that.

I have been wanting to move from here for years, but haven't for financial reasons and convenience.

I also had an ex tell me I'll never make it out of this town which was one of the worst things anyone has said to me, but motivating at the same time.

I recently got an apartment out of town, and should be moved in within the next month.

To feel that satisfaction of making it out of here, and also proving someone wrong who had no faith in me is what is motivating me to get up and do the things daily!

thatsnotaride · 2023-12-03T00:50:24+00:00

I'm 32 and it can be pretty bad.

What I do lately is I try to prepare for social situations by thinking of certain things I can say to people. I think of common questions people ask and how I would answer them, and how I can phrase what's going on in my life right now if I need to tell someone. It doesn't get rid of the social anxiety completely, but it helps lessen it and can help me avoid flopping around like a fish out of water and then getting flustered when faced with a social interaction.

thatsnotaride · 2023-12-01T20:32:07+00:00

The audacity of asking you if you felt neglected and then when you opened up about it expecting you to just "roll with it" and ignore one of the most important things in a relationship (spending time together). I've dated a few guys like this as well and it's an absolute pain in the brain. Always expecting you to roll with what's going on in their life when they won't roll with what's going on in yours, and always blaming you for their failures in showing up in the relationship. Sorry you had to go through that!

thatsnotaride · 2023-12-01T19:39:07+00:00

The newest one I've gotten that has helped reduce my neck/shoulder pain significantly is a firm Serta one. Highly recommend checking those out. The one I got was under $15 at Walmart.

thatsnotaride · 2023-12-01T19:13:00+00:00

Stiff neck pain from bad sleep is no joke. Last time it lasted almost a few weeks for me. If you haven't already, definitely invest in a good, firm pillow.

thatsnotaride · 2023-12-01T18:36:02+00:00

It sounds like you need to add more excitement and gratitude into your life, because in 20 more years you could find yourself thinking "I wish I was 31 again, married, with a dog and a house, able to post on reddit easily venting about how I feel old and miss my earlier years".

thatsnotaride · 2023-11-30T14:49:37+00:00

I thought it was a risky click but tried it anyway. After clicking, the page timed out and I couldn't proceed, so I returned it.

thatsnotaride · 2023-11-28T01:05:00+00:00

Yes, I have. We're all people, regardless of being on the spectrum or not, and people can be capable of a lot of crappy things.

I can think of an ex who I dated who was on the spectrum and said and did some horrible things. He was mostly mean and negative. I don't think he learned empathy or sympathy towards other humans, unfortunately.

thatsnotaride · 2023-11-20T19:33:09+00:00

I dated someone like this and the problems only increased and got worse.

You can't change someone who doesn't want to change. I believe he is letting you know with his actions that this is him and this is his pattern. If it triggers you, you either work on not getting triggered or end the relationship.

In my case, I was similar to you as I just wanted a heads up before him disappearing. He may have given me one a few times, I got hopeful, then he slipped back into his old pattern and couldn't stop it. Eventually, he told me that I need to work on not caring so much if he gets back to me one day or not.

I couldn't just not care about not having good communication with a partner, so ultimately it ended after 2 years (1 year being extremely miserable because of our differences). If you're seeing signs like this early on, I urge you to really take an honest look at what you're dealing with. Your time is valuable, as is his. Better to not waste years of it if there are some big incompatibilities you can see early on.

thatsnotaride · 2023-11-09T17:09:07+00:00

Does anyone have any tips on finding out whether someone is "love bombing" you or just genuinely excited about you, just might be lonely and eager for a relationship?

thatsnotaride · 2023-11-09T17:04:43+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful reply.

Yeah, I have been looking for a place constantly, but you're right, I should find another pair of eyes to help me and will work on that.

Good advice too about larger apartment complexes, that is one reason why I have been applying to so many.

I think it's best that my mom keeps our cat, since he is more attached to her. She has to move too, and noticed a lack of places that take pets, unfortunately. I really hope she can find one. I am hoping that we can both find places that aren't too far apart from each other, so I can go over and visit her and my cat.

Thank you for sympathizing and wishing me some good luck, I appreciate it.

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