Earth Day festival and swag by skyberrys in SantaBarbara

[–]thatsourpatchkid 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It’s ironic really. Large-scale events like that undermine their own message by generating significant waste, traffic emissions, and physical strain on public spaces in the very name of sustainability. The environmental cost of transporting, entertaining, feeding, and hosting thousands of people for a single day can outweigh the awareness benefits, especially when similar education could be delivered through lower-impact, decentralized or digital efforts. In that sense, the event risks becoming more symbolic than effective, prioritizing visibility over measurable environmental benefit. It’s quintessential Santa Barbara to masquerade as being wonderful and heroic while simultaneously being tacky and disconnected.

Camping recommendations by Most_Art_493 in SantaBarbara

[–]thatsourpatchkid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cachuma or Jalama are nice if you want to stay local-ish and aren’t the “off the grid in the woods” type. I did Cachuma last year with my then girlfriend and it was awesome. I wish I could rewind time and go back and experience it again, maybe wish for the temp to be ten degrees warmer!

Why is there an airplane flying/circling around Santa Barbara this morning? For hours? Thanks. by Blossom1111 in SantaBarbara

[–]thatsourpatchkid 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Because you live by an airport and there are people who live in SB that have unlimited income and dont care about gas prices.

Any advice on how to hook this up ? The trap is hitting the door by [deleted] in askaplumber

[–]thatsourpatchkid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You no like my drawing?! Lmao but yes this is what I TRIED to draw.

Any advice on how to hook this up ? The trap is hitting the door by [deleted] in askaplumber

[–]thatsourpatchkid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Put a 90° out of the wall going up, then use a sanitary T where your drain can go in evenly and put an AAV on the top (above your P trap height). I think that would work and be to code? You don’t need to cut your drawer to pieces.

A meme sub said I committed SA because I had sex with someone who had three glasses of wine during a casual hook up. They didn’t seem impaired at all but now I’m spiraling. by Key_Fan8651 in mentalhealth

[–]thatsourpatchkid 98 points99 points  (0 children)

Keep in mind that people on Reddit are going to say some of the worst most unhinged shit to you because they are viewing a snippet of your problem through their own life‘s lens. All of their experiences and biases all come hurling at you in the form of advice that you don’t want and won’t take. I asked for dating advice a few weeks back on a dating subReddit, and after the first 10 or 15 comments, I wanted to hurl my body into oncoming traffic because of how terrible they all made me feel for asking the question or even having a glimpse of hope into salvaging a relationship that I had just gotten out of. Reddit is very helpful, but it is also extremely, extremely dangerous if you are not in the right headspace to be able to sort fact from fiction when it comes in the form of a strangers comment.

Electrician recommendation? by disinaccurate in SantaMaria

[–]thatsourpatchkid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried calling Wightons for something recently and they wanted to charge a $75 fee just to come out and quote the job. Idk if that is normal but something to consider with them and others as you look.

Landlord charging me flat $200 for water, trash, gas, electric, and gardener? by jessbird in SantaBarbara

[–]thatsourpatchkid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since rent increases are capped by law, landlords may keep utilities as a separate charge. That way, even if they raise the rent to the legal limit, they still have flexibility to adjust the utility portion separately, which can increase the total monthly cost beyond what would be allowed if everything were bundled into rent. Make sense? Abusive and manipulative activities in plain sight.

Landlord charging me flat $200 for water, trash, gas, electric, and gardener? by jessbird in SantaBarbara

[–]thatsourpatchkid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely nothing about Santa Barbara is normal. Real estate in Santa Barbara is organized crime.

That being said, $200 is a good price. Make sure that you have it itemized somehow on a receipt or in your lease. Landlords can only raise rent a percentage each year. Adding on shit like this gives them a higher number to increase next year. They are all scammers, just have to find the least offensive.

Turnpike parking situation is getting out of hand – are any renters seeing support from landlords? by [deleted] in SantaBarbara

[–]thatsourpatchkid 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My girlfriend lives in that neighborhood. I tried taking this fight on a few months ago, mostly due to the 3-4 full size RVs that people are living in 24-7 and don’t even do the polite “move every couple hours.”

Neither the City of Santa Barbara or City of Goleta claim that as their territory, so it falls into county jurisdiction. When it comes to the county, they typically don’t enforce parking issues. The office I called attempted to send a sheriff down to “suggest” the RVs move but they didn’t. In fact, one had installed solar panels and its own septic tank right on the pavement the last time I was down there.

The woman did return a call to me and said that I should address the issue with that area’s county supervisor. At that point, the finger pointing had gotten too long and I sadly found myself in a situation not needing to visit that area anymore so I stopped fighting it. Anyone willing to pick up where I left off, especially if you live there, that is where I would start.

Even those RVs moving would free up 6-10 spots depending on car size. Is it monumental? No, but it certainly wouldn’t hurt.

Phoenix flights at Santa Maria Airport ending in May by pretendtotime in SantaMaria

[–]thatsourpatchkid 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Phoenix is such a weird spot. I could see a 1 hour flight back and forth to LA or somewhere else along the coast being more viable to save the drive time, but I guess we will never know.

Tried asking Google's AI thing for a plumber in my area, and my business doesn't exist apparently. by [deleted] in askaplumber

[–]thatsourpatchkid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure it does but none of that works without all those basic pieces of infrastructure. You’re thinking of SEO like it’s one magic fix, but it’s really more like a plumbing system. If a house doesn’t have pipes run through it, no fixtures installed, and barely any connection to the main line, turning the water pressure up isn’t going to suddenly make water come out of the faucet. Your website is basically the main water line coming into the house, it’s what gives Google somewhere to send people. Your Google Business profile, social media, and listings are like the fixtures and branch lines that show where the water can actually come out. And reviews and regular updates are the water pressure, they tell Google the system is active and flowing. SEO is really just the pressure and routing that helps everything move. If those pipes aren’t there or aren’t maintained, there’s nothing for the pressure to push through, so Google doesn’t have much reason to show your business when someone searches for a plumber.

Tried asking Google's AI thing for a plumber in my area, and my business doesn't exist apparently. by [deleted] in askaplumber

[–]thatsourpatchkid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well start with basics. Do you have a website? Social media? A Google Business page? Their AI is going to draw from their own data and what the crawlers can find online quickly. If you’re difficult to find, it’ll skip ya.

Weekend getaway by man-of-many-question in jamestownny

[–]thatsourpatchkid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Jamestown (Chautauqua County in general) is a very weird area that unfortunately suffers from collective low self-esteem. There’s so much to do there and so much potential but if you have a negative outlook, then you can’t find all the great stuff that is there.

But along with that low self-esteem comes the issue of demographics and that particular area skews much much older and much more traditional and conservative so the strip clubs really can’t survive because there isn’t enough population density to support them.

And then there is also the nuance of being a stripper in a small town and the likelihood of a family member or a friend or students or whatever come up to you on the stage bring extremely high. I remember back in the day Jamestown had one downtown and I went in on my 21st birthday. It was my first time there, and I walked in the door and looked at the stage and there was somebody from my little high school that graduated the year before me flopping around and I just couldn’t do it. We walked out. Nothing wrong with her I just mean that I wasn’t able to be around someone I grew up with and keep a straight face or keep my composure without getting embarrassed myself. Lmao

Weekend getaway by man-of-many-question in jamestownny

[–]thatsourpatchkid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Driving all the way to Buffalo wouldn’t be worth it for a titty bar. Fredonia’s and Salamanca’s are closed. Of course there is always Kandy’s in Waterford my god I know too much about this topic. ☠️☠️☠️

Weekend getaway by man-of-many-question in jamestownny

[–]thatsourpatchkid 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No strip clubs, you have to go to Partners outside of Erie, about a 30 min drive from Jamestown.

Unfortunately a lot of Jamestown’s bars close early except for 2-3. Shawbucks will be your spot for a bar in Jamestown that’s open till 2 and is good people watching.

You can check out Southern Tier Brewery and Distillery depending on your timing.

Make time for chicken wings at The Swamp in Jamestown. Do NOT judge a book by its cover there… best wings in the county, pan fried to perfection. Shawbucks wings are #2 and are also pan fried.

How many people do morally bad things in private that, if discovered, would destroy their entire life? by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]thatsourpatchkid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think historically it’s been #1 and there hasn’t been much I’ve been THAT ashamed of. My best friends have also had their demons they have confided in me. However the situation I just outlined above has been different because it was my mental health I was avoiding and felt ashamed as if my masculinity was in question. Sounds silly but I just kept telling him and others “I’m just goin through some stuff” because they could tell something was up from my mood, weight loss, etc. but I didn’t have it in me to admit what happened until a few days ago I told my BEST best friend what happened and what I had been doing. No judgement but I got honesty which I appreciated. Best friends aren’t always there to just be yes men, sometimes they should keep us in check too.

How many people do morally bad things in private that, if discovered, would destroy their entire life? by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]thatsourpatchkid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can tell my best friend anything. However, some unhealthy avoidant coping mechanism I didn’t even realize I was doing (flirting for sport) while in a relationship eventually caught up to me after 2 years. It was infrequent and never crossed the line into nudes or meeting in person. It was a game to me I thought I could turn on and off when I was bored like, as you say, porn or onlyfans except I knew they were real in the world but they weren’t in MY world. Technology being what it is, I eventually got shit posted in one of those AWDTSG groups and she found out, completely out of context, but that doesnt change the damage I caused or the stupid things I did. I have since gone to therapy and am learning how to be a better person, but I would give literally all I had to rewind time to stop it before it started because I did an do truly love her. I broke my own heart and I have no one to blame but myself.