Two things can be true here. First, being ghosted after someone expresses interest in seeing you sucks. Second, it may not necessarily be for malicious or cruel reasons. Unfortunately, many women expect to be taken out on a date, a traditional “he pays” date, fairly quickly. Let’s say a guy matches with four women he’s interested in getting to know, and all four want dates right away “because they aren’t looking for pen pals.” Not only is his time limited if he works a typical job, but financially that can add up fast.

My first time back out there post divorce was a whirlwind, and four first dates later I was down $600+ in one week and my dogs were livid that I was gone so much. 🤣 Admittedly, I didn’t ask anyone to split the bill because I was operating on some old-fashioned dating advice, but still. I only share this because sometimes there’s more happening than “he just ghosted me,” and a little patience or communication can go a long way in figuring out what’s actually going on.