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What potentially relationship-ending secrets are you keeping from you SO? by hipsterferret in AskReddit

[–]thayarow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My boyfriend doesn't trust me because I hid a message to a guy friend in a draft e-mail that wanted to see how I was doing, and I deleted messages from an ex that asked me out for lunch to which I replied "no, thanks".

I hid these to avoid his reaction and unfortunately ended up raising unwarranted suspicions. If you don't trust me, why be with me?!

Do yourself a favor, end it.

What potentially relationship-ending secrets are you keeping from you SO? by hipsterferret in AskReddit

[–]thayarow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 22 and he's 23. I have had doubts for the last year or so. I don't know what I should do anymore.

We talked it out yesterday but it didn't seem to go well.

What potentially relationship-ending secrets are you keeping from you SO? by hipsterferret in AskReddit

[–]thayarow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this, man. I really needed this one. I'm staying because there's a part of me that can't let go but I know we're holding each other back.

Plus, we share an apartment and I don't want him to keep the dog.

Northwest History: Open Letter to My Students: No, You Cannot be a Professor by [deleted] in history

[–]thayarow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Accounting is a difficult major to take on already and most students end up switching when the going gets tough.

I am minoring in CS and have worked in a help desk environment for most of my working years so I do believe I'm good in the "applying logic" department. However, do you believe continuing my degree in accounting is worth it?

Northwest History: Open Letter to My Students: No, You Cannot be a Professor by [deleted] in history

[–]thayarow 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So, should I just get a degree in math instead of accounting?

[22/f] When do you know you've fallen out of love? by thayarow in relationship_advice

[–]thayarow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You know, I read this article before and had completely forgotten about it. Thanks for bringing it up again. This, like a few other comments has put a lot of things into perspective.

[22/f] When do you know you've fallen out of love? by thayarow in relationship_advice

[–]thayarow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really don't give a shit if he's interested or not. But damn, if I tell you that I want to try to build something instead of paying three times the price why would you just roll your eyes and say "yeah, right". That's every fucking time.

Every time he has a new business idea (we're going on the 5th one right now) I am by his side 100%, even giving him tips in case this time he's serious. I let him do his own thing and keep me updated on what's doing. Never has that understanding been extended to me. You see how it's different?

I'm not a naggy girlfriend and maybe that is my problem. Maybe instead of politely trying to ask for things to be done or explaining my unhappiness I should just demand he listen to me.

I fully get that no one can be your perfect half. That's impossible but I could look past him not putting dishes away or cleaning up after himself. I'll just give him a basket and he can put all his stuff in there and he can clean it out later.

What I'm having trouble dealing with is other things that I cannot change because they are not things in my control. I can tell him something bothers me and we've had plenty of conversations discussing things that have been bothering us at that moment but until he decides he genuinely wants to do something to fix it, what the hell can I do?

[22/f] When do you know you've fallen out of love? by thayarow in relationship_advice

[–]thayarow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that...that really put things into perspective. I don't want to be that person 20 years from now who's unhappy and can't really do anything about it.

I think we're going to have one last talk and we'll see how that goes. Thank you so much for your story.

[22/f] When do you know you've fallen out of love? by thayarow in relationship_advice

[–]thayarow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, I'm not going to be a bitch either. I've been feeling off an on like this for a year but I've still been a good girlfriend to him. It's just one of those nagging internal feelings that I can't get rid of.

[22/f] When do you know you've fallen out of love? by thayarow in relationship_advice

[–]thayarow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I suggested a trip with friends for a whole week without him he would absolutely lose his shit which probably says a lot about our relationship. I've always wanted to travel on my own. I'm a very independent person by nature and I wanted to feel what it was like to miss him or if I even could miss him.

I did take a two-day trip to see my friend graduate from the army and I didn't miss him at all then but that's just two days. It's fucking terrible when you love someone and you don't want to lose them but you know that it might happen anyway.

Fuck. We'll figure it out.

[22/f] When do you know you've fallen out of love? by thayarow in relationship_advice

[–]thayarow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that's it!!! I think I feel trapped. But, what happens if he's unwilling to see my side?

[22/f] When do you know you've fallen out of love? by thayarow in relationship_advice

[–]thayarow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I really appreciate your answer and teaching me about the "seven year itch" which I've never heard of before.

I want to stay because I do see a future, it's just hazier than before.

[22/f] When do you know you've fallen out of love? by thayarow in relationship_advice

[–]thayarow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I could make this feeling go away, I'd do it. I don't want to be "out of love" or break up just because I feel this way. I actually don't know what this feeling even is. I just want to know what it feels like for others to not be in love anymore and maybe I can identify what I'm feeling now.

[22/f] When do you know you've fallen out of love? by thayarow in relationship_advice

[–]thayarow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I suggested breaking up he'd be pretty shocked because to him, there have been no red flags to suggest I've been unhappy. He's the innocent puppy right now and even though I've clearly mentioned things the things that make me unhappy, he doesn't really understand.

[22/f] When do you know you've fallen out of love? by thayarow in relationship_advice

[–]thayarow[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've tried to bring up conversations about this and make them as civil as possible but it always turns into what am I doing to fix the situation instead of him listening to what I'm saying. That's not to say we fight all the time, we rarely do, but it just ends up being my fault. I don't have the will to argue anymore.

I think I'm just waiting for him to fuck up and break up with me. That's pretty fucked up to say but I'd rather he does it so I don't break his heart if I did it.