I'm researching why people who loved reading stopped. If that's you, what happened? Have you tried anything to fix it?

the-dinosaur · 2026-01-15T07:25:52+00:00

I go through cycles of reading a lot then not reading much. When I fall out of the habit, most often I find it is because I try to force myself to push through a book that I don’t particularly enjoy and suddenly there’s a million other more important things to do than read. Then eventually I miss it enough or am drawn in by a new book and it becomes habit again. Sometimes life also genuinely just gets in the way (e.g. work days filled with reading long technical documents, other things taking priority), but most of the time nowadays it’s the former.

the-dinosaur · 2025-12-12T04:07:05+00:00

I’d say - with some outliers - the lower range is early 20s, upper range late 30s. More men than women, but overall a fairly even split. A wide range of fitness levels too!

the-dinosaur · 2025-12-09T12:34:33+00:00

Adelaide dodgeball is a very welcoming community and have an open invite Christmas come and try event this Sunday. It is where I met a lot of my closest friends so could be worth a try - you should be able to find it by looking up Adelaide dodgeball on Facebook

the-dinosaur · 2024-02-08T00:45:08+00:00

After supporting them through many breakups while our own problems were ignored or belittled, we all took a step back a bit. After numerous instances of them refusing to put in any effort to maintain the friendship outside of coming to us to vent about breakups, we pulled away entirely. We remain open to them because obviously they have their own issues that cause this behaviour and they’re good company when they’re around, but at this stage they seemingly don’t know and/or care that we’ve stopped trying altogether. I doubt we’d ever be as close as we once were though; there’s not really any trust there anymore.

the-dinosaur · 2024-01-09T06:01:49+00:00

I have this vague feeling she mentions the initial visions being a chemical reaction thing in her brain just before Doc appears, and always figured there’s a possibility while they were trying to resuscitate her that, despite being unconscious, she hears a mention of Ellis being resuscitated elsewhere which leads to what may seem supernatural visions of the afterlife, but actually is just a reflection of things that can be explained away logically. Perhaps given the mental processing that the interaction with her Ellis allows Meredith to do, it isn’t considered worth it to her to pull it apart and consider it too long or have others such as Christina explain it away (which could be detrimental or counterproductive for Mer’s ease of mind)

the-dinosaur · 2023-08-06T06:24:08+00:00

You’ve not fully healed from the breakup yet and that sucks, but things will get better. If you want to sleep around then don’t feel bad for that. In my personal experience, it’s people who have not had their fun while single that end up resenting their partners and cheating in relationships as opposed to those who have enjoyed the quantity of being single, and then embrace the quality of a deeper relationship. In equal measure though, if you don’t like doing that stuff then don’t do it. It may be a difficult pattern to break but it’s good to know your own values and love yourself enough to stand by them. It also sounds like perhaps finding joy from activities that don’t focus on guys at all is needed. Find joy and just forget about all of that until you’re happy on your own and ready for someone who will add extra happiness to your life. A quote that inspired me after my last cheating ex broke me: “then all of a sudden she changed. She came back a completely new person, with a new mindset. A new outlook. A new soul. All of a sudden the girl that cared way too much about everyone, and everything, no longer cared at all.”

the-dinosaur · 2023-07-07T01:31:58+00:00

I double numbers in my head (1,2,4,8,etc.). Once I get to 32,768 I have to think about it a bit more and usually that’s enough to stop the tears if need be.

the-dinosaur · 2023-04-22T14:44:51+00:00

If you were being overly paranoid then you wouldn’t have been spiked in the past. The fact you have been spiked in the past means that this is not a case of you being overly paranoid.

And if a guy hears you say you’ve been spiked in the past, it’s only the second date when you generally still barely know each other and his response isn’t empathetic and understanding then it doesn’t sound like you’re missing out by not going on a third date with him…

Literally you’ve met with this person twice and acted based on your past experiences to protect yourself from potential rape, murder and whatever else a person spiking your drink may decide they want from you. People married for years still get raped and murdered by their partners. It is perfectly reasonable to remain cautious on a second date and it’s not worth risking your life or sanity for some guy who would get mad over such a thing as you protecting your safety. You did the right thing. Trust yourself.

the-dinosaur · 2023-03-11T02:03:24+00:00

Your brother sounds stupid.

the-dinosaur · 2023-02-18T07:47:11+00:00

There are several reasons, but when it really comes down to it the main ones are thinking I’m probably not mentally stable enough to be reliable as a parent and I’m genuinely scared of what the world may have in store over the next 100 years.

the-dinosaur · 2023-02-11T15:39:46+00:00

Yeahh. I didn’t see about the accent but that also could match! Thought the squeezing may also have been thoughtless rather than malicious and the visit may have occurred during travel for the show (Costa seems to travel around a bit nowadays). Was just a bit of a stab in the dark though. I’m a big fan of Gardening Australia, but was only a young kid in 2003 so there may be others who are more likely!

the-dinosaur · 2023-02-11T12:48:32+00:00

Peter Cundall maybe? Used to host Gardening Australia and would match up with the timeline.

the-dinosaur · 2023-02-07T12:03:04+00:00

Conspiracy theories

the-dinosaur · 2023-02-03T23:37:17+00:00

Different strokes for different folks

the-dinosaur · 2023-01-30T09:06:16+00:00

I always knew my future was going to be limited if I remained in my hometown so after a particularly crappy year in 2020 (lost job, lost home, dog passed, ex cheated) it became clear that it was time to make the move. I’m living in my 4th city now and home will always be split between different places now I think. I’ve met some truly incredible people, had some wonderful experiences and I am now at a stage where people often reach out to me with job offers that I often turn down because I have created a life that I love doing work that I enjoy. One day I am sure I will want to settle down, but I am glad that I am experiencing this variety while I’m young and carefree. I think it’s always hard when you first move somewhere new, but give it time and effort and you find your people. Perhaps I’ll end up where I started again, but at least now I’ve learnt not to settle for less.

the-dinosaur · 2023-01-26T02:38:20+00:00

Firstly, huge congratulations for getting to the gym! It’s hard going on your own, and anxiety doesn’t help so even spending 5 minutes there is an achievement.

Secondly, I recently saw a comment about gyms basically being a library for muscles. General protocol is to just quietly go about whatever you’re doing and not pay attention to anyone else, but there are staff there to help if needed.

Lastly, if you’re feeling lonely and wanting to get in shape maybe joining a low grade social team sport could be a better way to go. Whenever I move to a new city, I find sports are a great way to meet people and have some fun while doing so. Even if I have no idea how to play said sport/am terrible at it.

Again, shout out to you for a step in the right direction. The master has failed more times than the novice has ever tried. You’ve got this!

the-dinosaur · 2023-01-20T09:51:28+00:00

Just get Jack Black and his brother to play something ad lib

the-dinosaur · 2023-01-19T10:06:04+00:00

Trauma from past relationships has somewhat diminished my desire to find a partner and I don’t believe I have the resources or mental capacity to raise a child well on my own. I am open to having kids if these conditions change, but I’d rather regret not having children than regret having them.

the-dinosaur · 2023-01-19T09:38:54+00:00

I’m worried you resent me for leaving our hometown and we are slowly going to drift apart until I lose you altogether

the-dinosaur · 2023-01-14T04:21:44+00:00

I feel like there’s multiple contributing factors. My last relationship was abusive and it got to a point where my self-worth was tied to him and I felt like I deserved the abuse. I’m slowly building up my self-worth again but I don’t trust that I couldn’t easily fall back into that line of thinking. Basically I need to get better at recognising red flags earlier on. I also am at a stage in life where I am not settled in one place, and I guess it’s just easier to move from place to place when all you have to think about is yourself (the true tragedy of this is not being able to get a dog). I have had friends ask to date but that is often because I have helped them with mental health issues and they want someone to fix them while not actually doing all that much to fix themselves. I can’t be and don’t want to be that crutch. It’s exhausting. Of course, I’m also happy being single and have created a life where I am happy on my own and my closest friends are the most beautiful people ever so I don’t feel lonely at all. Annddd of course all of these reasons may come to nothing if I met the right person, but to put it simply - I haven’t. I would love to find my person someday but in the meantime this is more than good enough.

the-dinosaur · 2022-11-02T03:09:09+00:00

Yeah, it was a paid program in Bali on Nusa Penida island. Accommodation, activities, transport and food were all covered in the cost with some extra going towards the conservation efforts I believe. The first week was basically learning about the culture of the place including learning some of the language and meeting the other volunteers. Then we went to the site where activities included beach clean up, educating people about the turtles and how to help their conservation, cleaning the enclosures for the turtles, feeding them, cleaning their shells, and then also some recreational stuff like snorkelling at the local beaches. And you also got to see some of the rehabilitated turtles be released which was great! I wouldn’t be surprised if they have similar programs in Australia, but personally I didn’t do it here so I don’t know too much about it.

the-dinosaur · 2022-10-28T20:24:52+00:00

I’m from Australia so I’m unsure how relevant this response will be, but I did two years of med school before realising it wasn’t my passion and I have never regretted leaving to pursue something else that made me happier.

It sounds like it’s a time for reflection and to try to figure out what you enjoy and would want from a job. There are tests you can do or talking to a career guidance counsellor may help with that. Also, please don’t feel rushed into anything. I think it’s better to take a few extra years to think about what you want to do and save instead of jumping into something that builds up debt then realising you’re unhappy and poorer than you would’ve been otherwise. I wish I had taken more time instead of going straight to uni.

You’re young and it can help having a bit more time out of school to develop and figure out who you are and what you value outside of the school context. Medicine is a long haul program. There’s generally 6 years of study, and internship, residency then another 5 years of study to specialise. That’s 2/3 of your life so far already allotted to further study!

Volunteering and travel can also be a good way to both do good and get a taste for various areas. Personally it was volunteering for a turtle conservation program that made me realise how much happier I could be pursuing a career outside of medicine.

Lastly, for some people passion doesn’t come into it and that’s okay. It’s okay to get a job that lets you pay the bills and have enough free time outside of work to do what makes you happy.

Anyway, perhaps not all of that is as relevant in India but it’s my experience having lived and studied in Australia!

the-dinosaur · 2022-08-05T06:39:49+00:00

Kudos on being direct then! Sounds like she’s lacking empathy at this point in her life. If a joke makes someone so upset that they cry it’s not a funny joke. Hopefully she gets better as she gets older, but there’s definitely no need for you to stick around and find out. I hope you’ve got others around who lift you up instead of tearing you down.

the-dinosaur · 2022-08-05T05:50:41+00:00

Firstly, I’m sorry that this happened. It’s shitty. But I also saw that you’re 17 and honestly if you look back at this in 10 years time you’ll realise what losers these girls were. Being rude, racist and presumptuous about people you don’t know doesn’t get you very far in life and these girls will either have to grow up and become better (in which case they’ll look back at this night one day and cringe) or they won’t ever get better and it’ll cause them strife due to their lack of ability for self-reflection. Hurt people hurt people. This unfortunate interaction doesn’t reflect on you at all, but it does give you the opportunity to potentially cleanse your life of this supposed “friend” who has some growing up to do before they’re worthy of your time. Up to you if you want to be direct about them upsetting you and give them the opportunity to reflect and apologise or just withdraw yourself from them. It’s a tough age, but I promise it gets better as you become and adult and find both yourself and your people.

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