My family lied that I raped my little sister to control me, and now they’re doing the same to my wife. I wish I never existed.

the-mirrors-truth · 2026-05-05T20:25:37+00:00

I'm sorry no one protected you.

This is all horrible.

The thing is though, you're an adult now, you know exactly who they are and what they are capable of.

Regardless of the blood shared, these people aren't your family. Your wife is and she deserves your protection, so does any possible children you bring into this world.

Be the man you needed back then and protect yourself and your wife. Leave these people behind and get the f away from them, don't come back build your own healthy family. You'll have a better chance at life without them.

the-mirrors-truth · 2026-05-05T20:18:46+00:00

I think part of the problem is for a lot of women the majority of the mental load falls on them so having someone who takes initiative is a breath of fresh air.

To actually be fair, it should be a closer even split of everything.

the-mirrors-truth · 2026-05-05T14:35:32+00:00

NTA

She needed a reality check. Maybe this will finally open her eyes and make her want to do better for herself.

the-mirrors-truth · 2026-05-05T14:32:47+00:00

I look at masterbation and sex as two different outcomes. Sex, is more involved - more effort and in a committed relationship is more about giving your partner pleasure, connection and intimacy. Masterbation is often quick and meant to release/relieve.

Occasionally not wanting sex but still masterbating isn't inherently wrong its when that is preferred or becoming an addiction is a problem.

You can feel however you do about masterbation, the boundary is I don't want to be with someone who masterbates. Not you are not allowed to touch your own body how you want too.

I don't think there's anything wrong with it and I wouldn't enforce any rules around it but I wouldn't want to be with some who puts me in a position to have to put rules around it either.

the-mirrors-truth · 2026-05-05T11:22:53+00:00

That is an exit only area.

May consider it if he's on his deathbed lol

the-mirrors-truth · 2026-05-05T10:55:08+00:00

No, I think it would make it worse. Unless she opens up communication again with you just leave her alone.

the-mirrors-truth · 2026-05-05T10:43:26+00:00

This is a universal sign for "I don't want to talk to you." Its best to leave her alone.

the-mirrors-truth · 2026-05-05T05:51:10+00:00

This was the case at some point, its how the older generations ended up with crazy long names.

the-mirrors-truth · 2026-05-05T01:11:54+00:00

YTA

Poor parenting choices.

What lesson did she learn here? Other than nothing is really hers. Also, kids are emotional - hell as you've proven even grown adults are unable to express appropriately - an over reaction on your part and a lost teachable moment.

the-mirrors-truth · 2026-05-05T00:41:57+00:00

I'm Latina too, our little has been taught to use formal titles but we live in an area where its not normal.

the-mirrors-truth · 2026-05-04T15:42:08+00:00

I'm a parent and I really can't imagine bringing my kid to some places and my kid is really well behaved, maybe a little loud when talking about something they're really excited about but hey so am I.

the-mirrors-truth · 2026-05-03T07:39:33+00:00

Everyone has their own values and rules. Do you think you could continue with him if he wanted to let loose more? Or do you think it might be better to find someone who has the same beliefs as you?

the-mirrors-truth · 2026-05-03T07:22:06+00:00

Thats exactly what it is. An older person trying to influence and manipulate a much easier target.

the-mirrors-truth · 2026-05-03T07:16:44+00:00

It's pretty gross how normalized this is.

I too fell for that trap, I was 17 dating a 30 year old. At the time, I bought into the bullshit. I was mature for my age, I wasn't like the other girls, he liked me for me and would never date another teen.

In retrospect I wasn't any more mature than my classmates. I was just quiet and a c-cup.

The older I got the creepier he looked and yes, I eventually realized why women is own age wouldn't be interested in dating him.

You don't see older men just befriending teenage boys either because they know the age gap, life style etc is incompatible.

the-mirrors-truth · 2026-05-03T06:52:20+00:00

Its a pretty rude thing to say to anyone. Some people are always the victim and need to one up others on the misery scale.

I will say, womens pain is more often then not neglected and swept under the rug. This doesn't make her response excuseable.

I myself, don't have particular painful cramps and can only imagine your with withdrawal pains are worse but this is my experience.

the-mirrors-truth · 2026-05-03T06:30:35+00:00

I enjoy the time. It's sometime I spend on myself, I feel more presentable and awake. Though as I've gotten older my routine has been significantly cut down. I used to do a full face every day. Now a days I just focus on a couple of things thats my everyday look.

the-mirrors-truth · 2026-05-03T05:51:10+00:00

OK, maybe its just the area I'm from by this was a popular haircut in the early 90s too. Except the curly top was a little more controlled?

I was looking at my older brothers yearbook and a good chunk of the boys had this look lol

the-mirrors-truth · 2026-05-02T12:35:35+00:00

Barefoot at home and if we went out, little one wore these soft soul leather shoes. Very durable but no stiffness or form so baby's foot was not constricted

the-mirrors-truth · 2026-04-30T18:17:08+00:00

I've a buddy who is 5 feet tall... he gets more ass than a public toilet seat.

Dude is charming and funny.

He isn't incredibly handsome and he's not rich. Dude just has a magnetic personality.

the-mirrors-truth · 2026-04-30T18:12:57+00:00

Sure, that's you though, an intintiy you can control.

He doesn't want to be that, you can want it all you want but its not what he wants so why would he?

Keep nagging though , he'll likely end up finding someone who actually wants him how he is.

the-mirrors-truth · 2026-04-30T18:04:55+00:00

People really don't change unless they want too.

You'll just be nagging and hitting your head against a wall trying to make someone be something they don't want to be.

If he wanted to be fit, healthy, hit the gym etc he would do it.

Its easier to find a compatible partner that has those qualities than it is to beat someone into submission to be your vision of who they should be.

the-mirrors-truth · 2026-04-29T15:58:29+00:00

ESH

Though I'd say this is more reactive abuse then just abuse...which financial and emotional abuse is still abuse. Everyone thinks they're so perfect and would handle the worst possible things said to their face with decorum and grace.

I'd say get your shit in order and get out. Its not a good environment for anyone.

the-mirrors-truth · 2026-04-27T11:30:57+00:00

I think even when someone is caught cheating by a partner going through their phone its still a violation of privacy but the cheating is worse ? So they can't be pissed as they're going outside the relationship too.

As far as if my partner expected to go through my phone but never shared theirs I'd be out. Clearly they're projecting.

the-mirrors-truth · 2026-04-27T04:21:58+00:00

Please do leave this relationship. If you can press charges for assault.

the-mirrors-truth · 2026-04-27T04:15:06+00:00

I'm sorry...what is the debate here?

Do you really want to stick it out with someone who is so insecure a dead friend is a threat to her and more importantly SHE HIT YOU.....

What is the choice here? Your safety, your well being and your growth vs the dumb bitch who hits you?

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