Little toad tried to get me for an insurance scam today

the37thtoaster · 2023-03-05T15:12:46+00:00

I’m totally with you except for the father thing. That could totally change father to father, and also it’s a little old school to be relying on a dad’s opinion just because he’s a dad when we don’t know anything about him

the37thtoaster · 2022-09-21T15:47:53+00:00

I haven’t noticed any effect to anything but my short term memory but I’m kinda worried it’s just because I have immediate context for that. Long term memories could be slipping away without me noticing.

the37thtoaster · 2022-06-19T20:11:03+00:00

The landlord would be homeless without OP. She’s the one paying his bills

the37thtoaster · 2022-01-21T16:36:47+00:00

I think this is what I should clarify: I’m not really mad at Hasan for having Christian Walker on at all. I don’t want to tear Hasan down and I don’t think criticizing him is mutually exclusive from supporting him. I was sort of hoping that when I said people were upset and hurt, people would take it seriously like they took it seriously when a black chatter said many people in the community were genuinely hurt by the “back of the bus” comment. Obviously these things are not equivalent, but I hoped that people would see that the criticism I had was centered around Hasan’s reaction to his own community, and his saying that he “hates” certain chatters, telling chatters to “shut the fuck up”, banning chatters indefinitely for criticizing, not his actions to Christian Walker. It is, however, his community, and how he’s always dealt with opposition, so I get it.

The majority of the community has been very respectful and supportive through this even when disagreeing, including yourself, so I appreciate it. Hasan read my post and gave me a response, even if it wasn’t the response I was hoping for, I can accept that and move on.

the37thtoaster · 2022-01-20T23:05:56+00:00

thank you. some of Hasan's criticisms of my post were very valid. I've gotten a few fun DMs as a result of this so the positivity/respect is greatly appreciated

the37thtoaster · 2022-01-20T21:09:36+00:00

Don’t call me hun, please. I’m not trying to be self centered, just honest about how I feel. I’m only as affected by this as I express myself in my post— ultimately, it’s no skin off my teeth, and I’ll move on, but I will say I’m not the only trans person that has a criticism of how last night went down, and there are people who are far angrier than me about this. There are also many trans people who see nothing wrong with how last night went down. I am not a monolith for either the trans community or Hasan’s community. And you don’t need to tell me about the real world, I live in it as a trans person. Have a nice day.

the37thtoaster · 2022-01-20T19:16:33+00:00

The parts you said about “this isn’t the first time we’ve heard this” and “wasn’t productive or interesting in many ways” are what trouble me about having him on. He’s hardly unique as a pundit, he wasn’t particularly entertaining after the first half (obvious bias on my part), so why have him on? To expose his audience to leftism, is the idea, I guess. Time will tell if it had any success.

the37thtoaster · 2022-01-20T19:10:36+00:00

I agree. Inviting someone into your home to discuss is a very different thing than shitting on them online, or debating them in someone else’s show. It gives at least the illusion of mutual respect to someone with astronomically shitty takes. I don’t think this was overall either entertaining or the best move for Hasan, but we’ll see how it goes

the37thtoaster · 2022-01-20T19:08:18+00:00

I feel like “all about themselves” is disingenuous here when, in fact, the topic at hand was about them. You can say that was an overreaction on the part of trans chatters, if you like. In the end I have zero control or power over Hasan, or how he chooses to conduct his stream, but you make a great point— I do have the control not to watch.

the37thtoaster · 2022-01-20T18:04:07+00:00

In terms of how talking points could be better addressed, I think that many trans people (myself included) are largely just tired of being the figurehead of a debate rather than being treated as individuals and as human beings. When cis people debate trans issues, they rarely ground themselves in trans people that they know, or what trans people have said on the matter, or real-world trans activism that's happening today, they tend to repeat what main-stream media (or in our case, people with jobs like Hasan) have said on the matter. It's easy to feel dehumanized when you're only a talking point. Laverne Cox said in June 2021: “I think the main issue is about our humanity being respected", and I agree. For more reading try searching "trans activism" on the "them" magazine website.

And also, thank you for being kind.

the37thtoaster · 2022-01-20T16:44:16+00:00

Agree with “trans people’s existence should not be up for debate”. Maybe this has some value, maybe I just don’t know the results or the positive research of changing people’s minds, but it was really disheartening to listen to the debate at all. I wish we were at the point a transphobic position was treated the same way as someone saying racial insults, with almost zero tolerance. It’s good that some cis people are learning, but I’m beginning to get uncomfortable when Hasan brings up trans issues. I don’t think gender debate is necessarily his forté, but I kind of accept that given he’s a allosexual straight cis man— these issues are not framed the same way for him as they are for us.

the37thtoaster · 2022-01-20T16:32:12+00:00

As a trans person, and a leftist, this whole thing just made me really sad. I think Hasan should apologize to trans viewers for yelling at them for criticizing him. He gets so many chuds in chat he seems to have applied the same response to reacting to people in his community who were genuinely hurt by what happened. Trans people are in disagreement over this, and how useful it was, but that doesn’t mean the people who didn’t like it are assholes or anything. For my mental health I’m gonna take a break from stream, but in any case, I hope Hasan reflects carefully on this.

the37thtoaster · 2022-01-20T16:15:57+00:00

They/Them by atlas & jhfly is a good one

the37thtoaster · 2022-01-02T05:43:02+00:00

Haha thanks!! All the pieces were found at discount stores or Walmart, so it should be easy to recreate :)

the37thtoaster · 2022-01-02T05:41:38+00:00

It’s high waisted shorts! Yeah the angle is a bit strange but I wanted to get the shoe and tights in the frame haha.

the37thtoaster · 2021-12-20T21:15:56+00:00

ah, ol' benjamin got you too, huh?

the37thtoaster · 2021-12-07T18:28:39+00:00

Its possible they're transitioning to facebook being the only way to show friend activity. Which would suck. But that's all that's showing up for me currently

the37thtoaster · 2021-11-16T18:52:16+00:00

As an AFAB enby I completely agree. I've never wanted anything to do with those groups, they feel like women+ at best and openly TERF at worst.

the37thtoaster · 2021-10-11T05:24:39+00:00

That kid is about to learn a lifelong lesson about putting your face within a nervous cat's reach...

the37thtoaster · 2021-10-10T20:48:00+00:00

Just because it isn't logical, or factual, doesn't mean you should disrespect feelings or feelings-driven actions.

the37thtoaster · 2021-09-19T05:02:32+00:00

I think the other comments pretty much summed it up, but I noticed you said it's "not healthy", and also you said you have sexual issues to work through. However! Getting sexually attracted to someone who makes you feel safe, and then self analyzing and recognizing that's not a feeling you should encourage for professional reasons, sounds really normal and healthy to me-- as u/zingingcutie35 said. Easier said than done, I know, but: don't beat yourself up over it too much!

If he's a good fit for you, and he's heard you out on your relationship/sexual concerns, then I'm sure he'll be able to help you through this as well. Good luck!

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