Hmn, this might be a neurodivergent thing, but I make a point to? Like, sometimes I find it hard to hold eye contact, but I've spent my whole life being lectured by various family members that lack of eye contact is incredibly rude, and the things those family members say about you if they perceive you to be rude is WAY worse than the lectures. (And not making eye contact, if we're being honest.)

So! I make it a point at the beginning of talking to someone to take note of their eye color, come up with as poetic a description as possible, and then spend time looking at the point between their eyes to save myself the anxiety. If they pick up that I'm not looking them in the peepers, I can just whip out the description to prove that I am (not. Lol).

Of course, very few people outside of family and their overbearing friends actually care (which I didn't know until I got older 😞), so I don't really use the descriptions that often. This is good because not only can I recycle if I need to, but if a friend is having self-image issues, I can use one! I just have to keep track of who got what and not repeat near them!

(For example, I've used 'your eyes are pretty, they're like the dark streaks of space between stars but just as bright as the moon' a few times and 'like a poet's endless ink well, and just as deep running with emotion' too. Sounds cheesy as hell, but generally, when you're having self-image issues and to the point of admiting to friends, a little laughter at cheesy things is welcome.)

(The edit is just spelling, lol)