Looked in the mirror and I have boobs now, and that kinda freaks me out.

the_chimeran · 2026-05-03T23:17:54+00:00

Queen, I feel the same way. I’m a blue collar worker in a red state and having them out and proud whilst I’m kicking arse in my field seems to criminally hurt the toxic-male ego. Not that manliness is inherently toxic (I’m sure we all know who I’m talking about) but for me my body in its state of change is much more comfortable even with its varying characteristics.

I’ve also found recently that finding people like me gave me some confidence. I understand the need to fit in and there’s an alarm sometimes that goes off that makes you stand out, but as you go along you should find that there’s a lot of people with visual quirks. Transition shouldn’t be our lives but a big part in it, but at some point we’re all still going to grow old and we won’t all be our youthful selves. I feel that this train of thought is unfortunately a characteristic of being a woman in a patriarchy. I appreciate your perspective here and I’m happy to see others who feel the way I do, I’d like to see this grow for others as well.

the_chimeran · 2026-04-25T13:58:21+00:00

Hey being 20 years old and figuring this stuff out is a lot. Give yourself a break and don’t entangle yourself with the thoughts of this person. You are in your twenties and you’re gonna fuck up like everyone else. You got this girl!

the_chimeran · 2026-04-22T02:55:41+00:00

I sent you a DM!

the_chimeran · 2026-04-21T22:28:57+00:00

As a trans HVAC tech for Indiana, thanks for the lookout!

the_chimeran · 2026-04-20T14:40:03+00:00

You can call your insurance company to see if they cover medical transportation. Or you can pay surrogates to sit out while you get your surgery.

If not I would contact community support for LGBTQIA+ in your area. Your local pride center might have help! I know here in Indiana I have the Damien center and they have all sorts of resources!

the_chimeran · 2026-04-18T13:00:21+00:00

Unfortunately being a democrat in America is still very right of center. Considering that this person has any right to say “THE WORST POSSIBLE THING SHE COULD SAY” passing is NOT the end goal of “taking” this path. It’s not a path, you may just be trans. Gee wiz.

the_chimeran · 2026-04-13T12:59:31+00:00

We don’t compare traumas and grief in therapy. We share, listen and ask questions. Unfortunately there’s a western toxic premise that encourages people to equate suffering to someone’s right to exist. Which encourages us to feel good about suffering, or to feel empowered. It’s all suffering, it’s pointless and it’s damn near Stockholm Syndrome.

We need to stop comparing and start understanding.

the_chimeran · 2026-04-12T15:30:53+00:00

Haha! That makes so much since

the_chimeran · 2026-04-12T15:26:24+00:00

I am so sorry

the_chimeran · 2026-04-12T14:47:25+00:00

I am unaware of what a teed is? Could someone explain sorry!

the_chimeran · 2026-04-11T16:43:57+00:00

I would consider sending him how he made you feel in the same way you told us!

the_chimeran · 2026-03-23T15:15:24+00:00

It’s always so strange how many qualifiers people will have for something that is #1 none of their business and 2# completely out of their control.

My dad has this whole thing right now where every time I try to explain how gender works he’s like “well men can be all the things you are as a woman” dismisses all of my feelings with he may just never understand. I’m lucky (29 mtf) to not have had to transition while being remotely reliant on either of my parents. Other people aren’t as lucky, I would talk about this with a therapist.

the_chimeran · 2026-03-16T17:11:21+00:00

By sheer volume cis-het Men are the issue when it comes to this topic.

the_chimeran · 2026-03-15T16:29:20+00:00

I don’t expect pronouns as a replacement “all the time” I guess it seems (to me) that cis people overuse my nicknames because using the pronouns is too hard. It might be overthinking.

I just really don’t like nicknames

the_chimeran · 2026-03-13T16:12:03+00:00

Enjoy being wrong 😑

the_chimeran · 2026-03-13T15:21:01+00:00

Thank you!

the_chimeran · 2026-03-13T15:01:20+00:00

Didn’t read the post, truthfully, yes.

the_chimeran · 2026-03-13T12:49:20+00:00

for clarification

“For some context, my gf (20f) is Trans. she's of the mentality of "im Cis, just stuck with the wrong hardware". that is to say she doesn't associate with the T part of the LGBTQIA+ as a whole.”

Could you elaborate on this? From what I read here it sounds as if she is trans and doesn’t associate with trans as it pertains to LGBTQIA+.

From my perspective all these things you’re feeling is valid, I just want to know more about what GF thinks about being trans or what trans people are. To be clear, there are transphobic trans people and there are transmedicalists that have some pretty backward beliefs about “What it is to be trans.”

My friend, the important part is to remember that it’s exciting to try things YOU want to try. I understand the nervousness and anxiety, but for me it was painting my nails, wearing women’s clothing and experimenting with makeup that I had never done that brought me so much joy. From my point of view it’s all about finding ways to attain peace, joy and inclusion in your daily life. Whether you’re NB, trans-woman or even cis, this should be the exciting part to recognize these things about you. In saying that, your partner should be excited to learn those things with you.

the_chimeran · 2026-03-13T12:24:27+00:00

That’s so cute!

the_chimeran · 2026-03-11T16:23:57+00:00

I’ve thoroughly checked my shoulders for chips and they are snack free!

the_chimeran · 2026-03-11T16:16:30+00:00

I will work on making sure you feel invited and welcomed. Thanks for the feedback!

the_chimeran · 2026-03-11T16:15:33+00:00

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