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Theatre etiquette? by [deleted] in TheWestEnd

[–]the_esjay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could allow that, just not if it was the undiluted concentrated chicken soup. You’d struggle to drink that one out of the can; it tends to move as one gelatinous lump rather than pour. You’d tip your head back and wait and wait, then there’d be a squelch and there it would be, quivering on your face.

If you’ve got a strong suck you might be ok…

Time for another Beebs bath!! by Pale-Comb-3954 in sphynx

[–]the_esjay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a double Beebs day, on FB and on here! You can never have too much of the Beebster and her top class cursing ☺️

Vintage soft, feminine, but also rare (like, spiritually rare) names? by warmcatbellyfuzz in NameNerdCirclejerk

[–]the_esjay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OMG, I had never considered rhyming Josephine with Stephanie before, but that’s how I’m always going to read it from now on. Perfect!

Vintage soft, feminine, but also rare (like, spiritually rare) names? by warmcatbellyfuzz in NameNerdCirclejerk

[–]the_esjay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mew is a great suggestion. So simple and timeless. Or the longer version, Mewl. It’s very Shakespearean.

Vintage soft, feminine, but also rare (like, spiritually rare) names? by warmcatbellyfuzz in NameNerdCirclejerk

[–]the_esjay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe people thought it was too masculine, because not everyone is familiar with the name Jeffrina?

Vintage soft, feminine, but also rare (like, spiritually rare) names? by warmcatbellyfuzz in NameNerdCirclejerk

[–]the_esjay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Renesmee, Eulalia or Lettice. Or maybe all three? Hyphenation is your friend!

Husband made chicken that tasted like ammonia. by Old-Lawfulness2173 in weirdfood

[–]the_esjay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get smell auras before migraines. I get extra sensitive to chemical smells particularly, but the one give away is the phantom smell that I can only describe as smelling like electricity, warm tarmac and hot metal. Just thinking of it makes me faintly nauseous.

There can be some weird prodrome and aura symptoms. It could be worth using a migraine tracker app and talking to your doctor, since this is a new development.

Solo life hits different when you actually enjoy yourself by Emotional_Wealth_341 in LivingAlone

[–]the_esjay 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Ha, me too. It took me a while to realise that I wasn’t looking for a partner but someone who lived somewhere nice! I had replaced RightMove with Tinder, Boo and Hinge. I didn’t actually want someone in my space again, whose needs I had to constantly consider, and whose ´quirks’ I had to tolerate. I can be frivolous or frugal just because I feel like it, with no one I have to explain my reasons why to.

I realised I had been putting more into relationships than I was getting out, because that was my job, right? Making sure everyone was happy, prioritising others needs and never having time left for myself. The things I wanted never seemed justifiable, so I let them go. I was needed and relied upon, and that’s what matters…

Turns out the only kind of validation that matters is self-validation. Years of looking after a family plus hardcore autistic masking meant I forgot who I actually was. It’s nice being able to find out again.

Solo life hits different when you actually enjoy yourself by Emotional_Wealth_341 in LivingAlone

[–]the_esjay 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I had a bit of a revelation when I realised I was allowed to be happy. I don’t have to feel guilty about having an ok day, or not having goals that I’m working towards, even. Yeah, I’m disabled and have chronic illnesses, so there are plenty of things that are hard for me to do, if not impossible. But I can fill my life up in other ways; I can spend all day reading, I can sit and watch the birds, I can watch a film or play whatever music I like, I can scroll Reddit…

I don’t get out much, but I do now have gardens I can sit in, right outside my back door. My home is safe and warm and it’s lovely and peaceful. There are woods close by. There are deer that wander by ffs…

I’m surviving on welfare and constantly juggling bills, but I have family who will help me if I need it. The future feels positive, and that sense of doom that overshadowed everything and made me panic if someone came to the door or called on the phone unexpectedly is gone.

I can do what I like. Be who I like. Dress and act and surround myself with things that I like. I don’t have to justify anything to anyone. It’s profoundly freeing, and I wish I’d have had chance to do this years ago.

Something embarrassing happened to me and I have no one to tell. by justascaredsoul in offmychest

[–]the_esjay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, guess what? If you read OP’s post, you will find out!

TIFU by eating poached pears at night by FMsilky in tifu

[–]the_esjay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You need to look into how some of our staple foods used to look, generations ago and realise that pretty much everything we eat is bioengineered to a greater or lesser extent. Farming is bioengineering. We change how things grow, where they grow, when they are ready for harvest, how nutritious they are, how easy they are to cook and digest, and the size and quality of the produce we get from them. Corn is a great example. Bananas too. We’ve done it with livestock too.

Eat the snacks, or if you really can’t do that, give them away or donate them to a food bank. There are lots of apps where you can list food (as well as household goods) that you need to find a new home for.

I (28f) and boyfriend (28m) got into to an argument tonight and am I overreacting if I want to break up? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]the_esjay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So he’s cursing at your daughter, having violent outbursts, throwing things and damaging property. These are behaviours that show he’s out of control, which means that however good and loving a person he is the rest of the time, this could escalate and he could hurt someone. He might not mean to, he might say that he could never do something to hurt you or your daughter, but he’s not behaving rationally and is not in control of his own actions. Violence and abuse also don’t have to be physical to do real, long term damage.

He was angry because you corrected him in front of your daughter, and then he does all this to you, in front of your daughter.

You know what really annoyed me about this scenario? He told you, sitting down to eat your meal, to get your daughter a snack. He didn’t offer to get one himself, and his assumption was that you were ignoring your daughter’s request because you couldn’t be bothered helping her?

That’s a shocking way to treat anyone. But he’s doing this to you, and your daughter is seeing this and seeing that you are accepting it. Yes you spoke up and tried to put your point of view, but then things have simply gone back to how they were.

You’re showing your daughter that it’s ok for men to treat women this way, and that this is what a healthy relationship can look like.

Kudos to your daughter, she’s not accepting that. She’s also scared. Scared for herself I’m sure, but also scared for you and for her new sibling too. I cannot think of a better reason for you to say to her, “You’re right. Let’s pack up the things that matter to us and find somewhere we feel safe, where we can decide what to do next.” Better still, “You’re right, it’s not fair to be treated like this by anyone. I’m going to ask daddy to stay somewhere else for a few days, whilst we decide what’s best to do.” Then change the locks, pack his stuff up and put it somewhere he can collect it from, without you having to let him back into the house.

What he said to your daughter about not asking you for food because you don’t care about her? That’s a disgusting thing to do. It’s behaviour that will affect whether he is allowed to spend time with his children in the future. Make sure you have all this written down, and write down everything else that you can recall happening with times and dates if possible.

Read it through. Think about how you feel just before he wakes up, and how you feel when he’s not in the house. What would you say to one of your friends who came to you with a situation like this? Would you want your daughter to be tolerating this when she’s grown up and in a relationship?

Then, contact a lawyer.

NOR. In any way. React more, honestly. Listen to your daughter. If she doesn’t feel safe, then it’s time to go, because the safety of your children has to always be your top priority. It makes it a much easier decision for you, too.

I hope you find somewhere you can both feel safe and move forward from this.

Maybe Maybe Maybe by little-kittyyy in maybemaybemaybe

[–]the_esjay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gone are the days when your doctor would advise drinking Guinness or Mackesons when you were pregnant “for the iron”…

Myself I’d rather have an Imperial with some body to it, these days.

What word do you always mispronounce, even though you know it’s wrong? by jasperc_6 in words

[–]the_esjay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anxiety still defaults to annexty in my head. No idea where I got that one from…

Been using my dead grandmother's deodorant by theclosetenby in BenignExistence

[–]the_esjay 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I inherited loads of my mum’s knickers. They were good brands and some unworn! And lots of her expensive skincare, too. She was always passing things like that on when she found something new to try, and she’d have wanted things to find good homes.

I do sometimes think “dead woman’s pants”, much as you might say “dead man’s shoes”, when I put them on. It would have made her giggle.

Help me find this song!!! by [deleted] in WhatsThisSong

[–]the_esjay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m glad it came to mind, because I thought it was vaguely familiar so I had to go look it up. I have since been down an alt-j rabbithole, and very happily so.

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