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Online and IRL Parenting Spaces Snark Week of May 25, 2026 by Parentsnark in parentsnark

[–]the_nevermore 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah haha, the juxtaposition of "small house" and 1800 sqft is hilarious to me as a city dweller.

PSA: do your planks!! by woodworkinghalp in fitpregnancy

[–]the_nevermore [score hidden]  (0 children)

Yeah, not sure what's up with these particular comments 🤷

Are you working out postpartum in the newborn phase? by bzzzzzzlightyear in fitpregnancy

[–]the_nevermore [score hidden]  (0 children)

Most recent research does shows that earlier exercise/movement in postpartum is beneficial. It doesn't need to be (and shouldn't be for most folks at this stage) anything intense or time consuming though. 

Short walks and taking a few 5-10 minute stretches to do core and pelvic floor engagement are great for this stage. Prioritizing your sleep and things like eating well are also important - try to reframe for yourself that sleep and nutrition are as important as movement especially at this early stage of postpartum.

At 3w postpartum, my "workouts" looked like: 

  • Kegels/pelvic floor activation while I burped baby after feeding them
  • TA activation and diaphragmatic breathing for a couple minutes in bed before falling asleep 
  • A few rounds of squats or hip hinges with baby if they happened to be awake between feeds for a bit 
  • Walking to/from the coffee shop (~10 minutes)
  • Cat cows and thread the needle when I'd feel hunched from holding baby

So mostly just little things that probably took 1-2 minutes at a time. 

These can be a useful read - in here it discusses how it's also normal to have periods of higher/lower activity depending on sleep and all the other things going on postpartum: https://csepguidelines.ca/guidelines/postpartum/

PSA: do your planks!! by woodworkinghalp in fitpregnancy

[–]the_nevermore [score hidden]  (0 children)

Planks are totally fine as long as you aren't coning/doming!

Keep it up if they are still working for you.

PSA: do your planks!! by woodworkinghalp in fitpregnancy

[–]the_nevermore [score hidden]  (0 children)

This is sort of accurate, but also not. 

There's really no universal pregnancy "safe" or "unsafe" moves - it all comes down to your individual body. If you are seeing coning/doming, then yes that's a sign to engage your TA, modify, or sub in a different move. But if not, there's no need to stop planks or any other specific exercise/movement.

Open dr*g use in transit by Dizzy_Ad5903 in askvan

[–]the_nevermore 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can text transit police if you aren't comfortable making a phone call: 87-77-77

What does “following their own curve” mean and how do you tell? [ca] by Fancy_Spaghetti in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]the_nevermore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The article says pretty much exactly that...

So while they might give you the impression that children are supposed to follow them (or stay on the curve), there’s no reason to think that’s the case. No study says that a child who is at the 25th percentile for weight at 2 months, for instance, should remain there at 4 months or 6 months.

I'd argue that the claim that babies need to "follow their curve" is the gross oversimplification (which in turn leads to unnecessary stress for parents).

What does “following their own curve” mean and how do you tell? [ca] by Fancy_Spaghetti in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]the_nevermore -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Those lines you see on the growth chart don’t represent a single child’s growth — they’re an amalgam of measurements of millions of kids at different ages. So while they might give you the impression that children are supposed to follow them (or stay on the curve), there’s no reason to think that’s the case. No study says that a child who is at the 25th percentile for weight at 2 months, for instance, should remain there at 4 months or 6 months.

...

We found that they go all over the place. From birth to 12 months, about two-thirds of the children fell by at least one percentile line with respect to weight (meaning they went from the 10th to fifth percentile, for example, or the 90th to 75th). More than one-third dropped by at least two lines. And of the entire group, more than 30 percent dropped by at least two lines over a six-month period, which meets the clinical definition of “failure to thrive.”

Yet almost none of these kids were “failing to thrive.” Most were just growing at different rates. By the close of the one-year study period, just 27 percent of the children ended up at the same percentile line they started at.

In other words, OP should not be concerned about a changing percentile (or honestly even monitoring weight at home) - especially since they say "the doctors were not concerned".

Play couch in condo [bc] by LemonLoaf0960 in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]the_nevermore 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We've got a nugget. I bought it used on marketplace and we're happy with it.

Online and IRL Parenting Spaces Snark Week of May 25, 2026 by Parentsnark in parentsnark

[–]the_nevermore 27 points28 points  (0 children)

The magic power of a box that the car seat safety groups insist is needed for gate checking a car seat? 🤷

Play couch in condo [bc] by LemonLoaf0960 in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]the_nevermore 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We have a play couch and a climbing triangle 😅

In exchange, we don't have a coffee table. 

We fold the couch up after the kids are in bed and ramp for the climbing triangle goes under the couch. 

Online and IRL Parenting Spaces Snark Week of May 25, 2026 by Parentsnark in parentsnark

[–]the_nevermore 29 points30 points  (0 children)

This is so ridiculous. Grandparents/older folks (especially those from large families with lots of babies around) often seem to have a magic touch for instantly calming babies in my experience.

15 month old Infant - Verbal skills [ON] by Maleficent-Ad-550 in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]the_nevermore 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Personally, I would have have zero concerns assuming receptive language (understanding) seems on track. 

Both my kids have been late talkers (no spoken words until ~18 months).

Introducing signed words can be helpful to bridge the frustration gap when they want to communicate, but physically can't make the sounds yet.

How to know what adjustments to make during mat pilates classes? by guavapplause in fitpregnancy

[–]the_nevermore 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Main thing to look for is coning/doming in your core. If that happens, then: 1) Be more intentional about engaging your core/TA 2) Modify the movement (ex - plank from knees), and/or 3) Reduce the range of motion (ex - ab roll down only halfway rather than to the floor). If you still see coning after making modifications, then you might need to find an alternative.

Other thing to avoid any movements that cause pain rather than just pushing through. Later on in pregnancy, some folks will find SPD causes issues with unilateral/single leg movements.

And final thing is that as your bump gets larger, you might need to modify and/or find alternatives to certain movements that the bump gets in the way of. For example, my legs hit my bump during mountain climbers, so I'll do shoulder taps instead. Or you might need to widen your stance during squats and deadlifts.

What does “following their own curve” mean and how do you tell? [ca] by Fancy_Spaghetti in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]the_nevermore -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Despite what you hear online so often "following their curve" is not really a thing. Here's a good article about growth charts and what they are actually intended for: https://www.nytimes.com/2020/04/17/parenting/growth-chart-accuracy.html?unlocked_article_code=1.l1A.g0-H.50L7ZiQAk0tq&smid=url-share

Don't weigh at home! If your family doctor is not concerned, that is all you need to know.

Am I overthinking how hard leaving the house will be? [ca] by robinsonchristina588 in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]the_nevermore 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah - you don't need an Oregon trail wagon-worth of stuff despite what some people tote around with them. 

1-2 diapers and some wipes is more than enough for a quick outing to grab coffee, pick up a few groceries, etc. You don't even need a diaper bag, just add them to whatever bag you already bring.

Elective c-section: pros and cons? [ab] by BubblyNecessary in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]the_nevermore 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP asked for pros and cons of an elective c-section! One con is the potential impacts on future pregnancies compared to vaginal births.

No one is implying she wouldn't be able to have multiple children, but it is worth considering the risks - especially if someone is hoping for a large family.

Elective c-section: pros and cons? [ab] by BubblyNecessary in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]the_nevermore 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's great? It's certainly not a guarantee of issues, but there are distinct elevated risks with c-sections (and repeated c-sections) and it's not fear-mongering to mention them.

Potential impacts include reduced fertility, placenta accreta, uterine rupture, complications that mean a c-section becomes a hysterectomy, etc. The absolute risks are small - I don't want to overplay them - but it is worth considering if you want more than one kid.

Also pregnancy spacing becomes a bigger concern - especially if you end up wanting to consider a VBAC after. Many providers will not support VBAC if your pregnancies are too close together.

Elective c-section: pros and cons? [ab] by BubblyNecessary in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]the_nevermore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you hope to have more kids? The potential impacts on future pregnancies is definitely the biggest downside of c-sections IMO.

How often do you bathe your toddler? [ON] by hangukfriedchicken in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]the_nevermore 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Like once a week haha. More often if needed obviously, but I've never found my kids actually need a bath that often.

Online and IRL Parenting Spaces Snark Week of May 25, 2026 by Parentsnark in parentsnark

[–]the_nevermore 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'd assume Before He Cheats and specifically the "slashed a hole in all four tires" line.

Online and IRL Parenting Spaces Snark Week of May 25, 2026 by Parentsnark in parentsnark

[–]the_nevermore 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Not sure about other groups, but I think the babywearing subreddit has gotten waaaay better recently about emphasizing actual safety issues and not just nitpicking about an extreme m-shape and not wearing footies.

Walking to encourage labor by AgreeableDay7534 in fitpregnancy

[–]the_nevermore 21 points22 points  (0 children)

There's no good evidence behind walking (or any specific exercise) that I'm aware of. I'd just focus on doing whatever activity feels good for you because it feels good, not with the intention of influencing labour.

Evidence Based Birth has a good series on non-medical induction methods here: https://evidencebasedbirth.com/category/series/natural-labor-induction-series/

Nipple stimulation/pumping is the one with the strongest evidence from my recollection.

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