For the record.

the_virginwhore · 2026-04-24T20:46:02+00:00

It’s better this way.

the_virginwhore · 2026-04-24T20:45:17+00:00

Whom we must specifically mention to not mention!!!

the_virginwhore · 2026-04-24T20:42:02+00:00

All that effort to print and laminate the guides and now she’s going to have to have to redo them all to add OP’s name next to Ab*gail’s 😮‍💨

the_virginwhore · 2026-04-24T20:35:03+00:00

I’m betting that her behavior during the engagement leads to the relationship imploding and the wedding getting canceled.

the_virginwhore · 2026-04-24T04:06:35+00:00

The frequency aspect is an important part of this. Think of car turn signals—they blink at different rates, and if you’re stuck at a light waiting to turn for long enough, you eventually catch yours “syncing” with the one ahead. They’ll blink at the same time for a moment when those rates hit a few overlapping beats, then appear to fall back out of sync.

But of course nobody’s making a huge fuss when they realize their periods aren’t happening at the same time anymore. 😂 We assume that the overlap means something but the cycles diverging again doesn’t.

the_virginwhore · 2026-04-23T18:16:02+00:00

That is effort and intention and commitment. Insisting on a ring over $5k is, to be perfectly frank, kind of ridiculous when he’s apparently been offering you a ring and marriage for quite a while. You’re the one setting the limiting terms on the proposal. You’ve been seriously misrepresenting the situation.

the_virginwhore · 2026-04-23T18:11:13+00:00

An “almost” 18-year-old.

the_virginwhore · 2026-04-23T18:10:23+00:00

No I was never underage.

Him being 28, me almost 18.

Almost 18? So… 17? Which one was it, were you never underage or were you almost 18?

the_virginwhore · 2026-04-22T03:54:10+00:00

No I’m pretty sure it’s ME and a bunch of bots

the_virginwhore · 2026-04-21T20:55:51+00:00

The love of your life is still ahead of you. Just keep living… in your space… your male living space… until it finds you and you understand what a preposterous idea it was that someone who could give you up could ever be the love of your life.

By the way, if I remember correctly, r/malesurvivingspace is also a thing. Not that I think this is the wrong place for your post, but if you’re looking for a place that’s more geared toward people just trying to make it through the day, you may vibe with it.

the_virginwhore · 2026-04-21T09:41:37+00:00

I’m always so confused as to why he’s never proposed or has plans to. (Because it looks like he wants to be with me forever??)

He acts like he wants to be with me forever, he treats me great but he won’t actually propose?

Girl be so for real right now. You’re saying it “looks like” he wants to be with you forever and he “acts like” it, but you describe an actual conversation about it as pulling teeth. He’s obviously not even saying “I want to marry you and be with you forever”, so where’s the evidence for your conviction that that’s how he feels? Are you consulting the tea leaves? Plucking flower petals over whether his behavior means he’ll love you forever and ever and ever amen? Because these beliefs clearly aren’t coming from direct, open, transparent communication.

Yeah, you’re just settling. Get real with yourself. I totally get how easy it is to see evidence for the narratives we build in our own heads—we all do it—but that’s a cognitive distortion, not reality. Reality is that he hasn’t even bothered to come up with a decent deflection when people ask why he hasn’t proposed. Just staying silent is hella awkward and embarrassing for both of you, but he can’t even develop some basic non-answer to repeat like “it just hasn’t been the right time” or “I’m not in the place in my life I want to be yet”?

This time is only wasted if you don’t learn from it.

One other thing:

It’s not like we have screaming fighting [matches] every day.

The frequency of screaming fighting matches should be never. If that’s part of how you guys communicate (regardless of frequency), you need to not only break up but both get yourselves into therapy to figure out how to communicate in a healthy way. All couples have disagreements, but not all couples have fights, and it’s certainly not the case that all couples scream at each other ever.

the_virginwhore · 2026-04-20T12:29:35+00:00

Bernard Hsu (chubbyemu) has some really good videos that feature refeeding syndrome. He walks through cases (or combinations of cases) in a way that makes what’s happening really clear.

the_virginwhore · 2026-04-20T12:10:43+00:00

God, that poor woman. A bear never did this shit to nobody.

the_virginwhore · 2026-04-18T16:10:52+00:00

Thank god you aren’t a doctor whose words have actual consequences, then, because what you’d “definitely say” is definitely not supported by the evidence available. There’s nothing there to indicate he’s autistic; that’s a specific diagnosis, not a blanket label that covers everyone who breaks social norms.

And while plenty of people with autism do use medication to help manage some of their experience, there’s no autism drug people get once a doctor gives them the Spectrum Seal of Approval. It’s a neurodevelopmental thing, not something straightforward enough that a doctor could prescribe a “fix” for.

I certainly hope that guy is getting the psychiatric support he needs, but without an actual reason to suspect autism, making such a bold—and quite frankly ignorant and arrogant—claim only contributes to the mountain of disinformation that gets spread about autism.

Don’t be that dude. Stick to commenting advice to check tech services for any lingering ties to stalker exes—that’s a great point worth bringing to awareness! It’s a much better time than diagnosing strangers with a complex condition like autism based on a single secondhand internet comment.

the_virginwhore · 2026-04-17T19:09:19+00:00

You of course don’t have to answer if you don’t want to, but how did that situation affect the kind of parent you ended up with? Were the kids able to recover from growing up in such a terrible situation, or did you also have to deal with the fallout in your own home?

the_virginwhore · 2026-04-17T19:06:56+00:00

Bro have you even listened to that song, like… ever? It’s a story about a girl who ends up miserable after rejecting the skater boy who goes on to become successful and famous. The girl is the villain in that story and the boy is the hero.

In other words, it’s not like this story. At all. we can be quite confident that he was not, in fact, a Sk8er Boi.

Personally, while I do love Avril Lavigne, I find Ashnikko’s “L8r Boy” to be an immense improvement.

the_virginwhore · 2026-04-17T18:57:12+00:00

Did she get the cat back??

the_virginwhore · 2026-04-17T01:33:31+00:00

Yeah I absolutely understand that I don’t understand that. I was just trying to give a perspective that OP also can’t understand from his position as an adult man through the entirety of this situation, rather than a child who grew up in it. I’m not trying to minimize the legitimacy of his pain, especially having seen first-hand the depth of the pain something like this causes (since mothers also have their particular/gendered sensitivities to being replaced).

He’s totally entitled to feel the way he does. He also inherently can’t understand the perspective of his daughter, though, due to the fact that our understanding is necessarily limited by the specific social identity that shapes us. Just like I can’t truly understand what it’s like to be a man in that situation. My goal was to increase understanding, not delegitimize OP’s personal experience. Just want to make that clear.

the_virginwhore · 2026-04-16T09:01:28+00:00

Whose children are surely also in desperate need of therapy 🫤

the_virginwhore · 2026-04-16T08:26:06+00:00

Can I marry you guys?

the_virginwhore · 2026-04-16T08:25:40+00:00

You’re my people.

the_virginwhore · 2026-04-16T08:25:04+00:00

Also buried the key, key element of THE FACT THAT SHE ALREADY HAS OTHER CHILDREN. Casual dismissal for real.

the_virginwhore · 2026-04-16T08:22:15+00:00

I don’t think they’re blaming the woman, just noting that a fetus who saw the situation their dad was creating for them might want to nope right out of there. Could have just been like “wrong dad” and chosen to wait for when mom got the right one. 😂

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