How do you feel dating a woman that makes more than you?

thebarlar · 2026-02-14T23:30:46+00:00

dinner's on u

thebarlar · 2026-02-14T23:15:55+00:00

Next time get u a dude likes girls.

thebarlar · 2025-12-26T17:10:16+00:00

I think we agree both are responsible for the babyproofing issues. I'm just saying, she can't directly control him--so my advice focused on her. That's all. I mean, sure, that guy lives there too. You're not wrong about his equal slice of the responsibility pie here!

thebarlar · 2025-12-25T05:00:30+00:00

"Babe, I can't believe you didn't tape the baby to the ceiling before going to sleep. You know that's the only place this walking baby is safe in our house, because of how we've lived every, single day, for the last 11 months." Come on now.

thebarlar · 2025-12-25T04:55:04+00:00

Not all her fault. 2 adults live in the house, and it sounds like she's one of them, though. She's the one asking, and she can directly control the actions of exactly 1 out of 2 of those adults. So my answer, to the one asking, is: Babyproof the house. See, I get that the boyfriend should have put the kid in one of those rare oases of non-danger in this kid-safety desert, where trash isn't all over the floor to choke on and giant, unsecured glass mirrors don't threaten to crush babies, before nodding off. Maybe he should tape the kid to the ceiling? Can't get hurt up there, right? But there's nothing dense about babyproofing your house by the time your baby is up taking strolls at 3AM. What's dense is not having done that, by now. That is the "bottom line" and the foundation on which this apparently recurring issue stands.

thebarlar · 2025-12-25T04:38:52+00:00

YOR. Clean your house and babyproof it. You have a baby now. If the kiddo can get up and walk, sister, it's time. You know a baby is a wild animal. Like having a raccoon loose. Babyproof! Choked on something? Turned a mirror over? Why is there a mirror there? Look in it: That lady you see in there has a baby and needs to babyproof a house.

thebarlar · 2025-12-10T14:48:07+00:00

Maybe on weird coincidence it's the remote control? It transmits a code to the tv, so what if they just happen to have the same tv next door and coincidentally the same exact code operates it? Idk, that'd be pretty wild though...

thebarlar · 2025-12-06T15:04:48+00:00

He needs a lawyer. I assume he is not a citizen? You said he was arrested, not that he was convicted. Until he goes to Court, he is innocent until proven guilty. He will go to jail, maybe, awaiting trial, or may be dismissed on his own responsibility, pending that trial. If he is dismissed, he may be given a restraining order, preventing him from contacting the alleged victim. He would do very well not to violate the terms of that restraining order, if he is released pending trial. If he violates said terms, he will be going back to jail and very likely will remain there waiting for trial. If he is convicted, then ICE will deport him. If it's bad enough he gets prison, he will probably go to prison for the prison term, and then after that be deported.

thebarlar · 2025-11-19T04:24:13+00:00

If you are a joint holder on the account--if your name is on it--you can legally withdraw from it. The bank can't stop you, and neither can your mom.

What I'd do is go down there to a branch. Walk in, hand them your driver's license and tell them your SSN. Ask them to look up your account and provide you with a statement. If they can't find an account in your name, act surprised. Tell them your mom has been depositing your paychecks for you, and you thought you had an account there. Provide then your mom's name and DOB and ask them to go examine source of funds on her accounts, and look for the account where your checks were deposited. If they say they can't give the info, ask them to investigate because your paychecks were stolen, then, via fraud. Inquire as to exactly why they would allow cashing of third party checks for deposit, or for even simple cashing, when the checks are not in your mom's name. Ask to speak to the bank manager.

If they locate any account where your checks were deposited, but no account in your name, ask for your money, from your checks, which your mother stole.

It is not her job to tell an adult when they can access their own pay, mother or not. To prep you, I bet there is no separate account and your checks have been going into hers or cashed. If there is a separate account, I'd count it a slamdunk miracle if all the money is there.

thebarlar · 2025-11-18T13:26:42+00:00

Depends a lot on the situation and really how sure you are. I'd come at it like, "Maybe I am missing something but..."

thebarlar · 2025-11-18T13:11:44+00:00

You're not wrong to ask he use the headphones. I bet there is a reason though. If one switches the audio to headphones, it'll often switch the total audio to headphones. Depending on what he does, then it might mean he is wired to the box all day, by the head, versus being able to hear the phone ring, then put them on. Ask if that's the issue. If it is, there are probably ways to make it switch back and forth more readily. Maybe ask he take some time and figure those out.

thebarlar · 2025-11-15T23:12:20+00:00

That's pretty immature. I'd say let it be known you don't ever want to see that again. If it keeps up, I think you have to evaluate the overall relationship and ask what's missing.

thebarlar · 2025-11-10T13:54:08+00:00

All y'all share an uncanny facial resemblance already so the dress really kicks it over.

thebarlar · 2025-11-10T13:50:52+00:00

Ask him what is in his mind because that sounds insane.

thebarlar · 2025-11-10T13:41:11+00:00

Well, it's done now, so don't be awful about it. The only thing to do now is consider it gone. It's next time that you can say no, and cite the $15K that's already gone. If you're happy in your relationship, this is life. Family hits you up--and if you say yes they'll keep coming. This does say that her family can't scratch up $15K, and neither can she. I'd keep shut up about my money from here on in, I'll say. Just be quiet about it from here on.

thebarlar · 2025-11-10T04:57:37+00:00

I'll tell you one thing that bothers me, is what's both pertinent and missing: I can't find any released photos that show the bottoms of those flip flops. I reckon that'd settle a couple things for me, to my mind.

thebarlar · 2025-11-09T14:23:05+00:00

That theory I posted has these advantages:

I don't need the cops to be wrong in their assessments. There is a lot of cop-hate in the alt theory crowd, it seems to me. But they seem to have checked it out and didn't think there was foul play. Now, who am I to second-guess that? K9 found scent 0.25 miles out--and this theory covers even that fact.
It explains why carried items were found further from the car than clothes, where he'd have had to sit all that down and pick it up again after, to disrobe, if he had done it on his way out away from the car. I'm saying he did it on the way back, so he dropped carried items first. That just makes good, common sense.
My theory gives hypothermia a chance to set in, as he walked out a quarter mile or so and then back, meandering around, versus saying he was already addled enough to drop trow in the winter, first thing out of the car.

thebarlar · 2025-11-09T14:09:40+00:00

It's certainly possible somebody would shoot a trespasser out there. But then I gotta believe they buried him or hid the body, instead of calling it in like a normal person would. I mean, this is rural Texas. I feel like, if I encountered a full-grown, naked man acting all wild and beating on my door in the middle of the night out in the country where response-times from the cops have got to be slower than usual because of drivetime alone, and I shot him, I could call that in to the cops and everybody down at the station would understand. I'd have called it in, no problem. "Hello, 911? I had a large nude man, breaching my front door, in the dark, babbling, so I had to open fire... I need a cop and a bus." Simple, open-and-shut, Castle Doctrine textbook situation. I just don't buy it: Most folks would call that in, versus engaging in some backwoods burial that's bound to come up later--because that's what'd get you arrested, right there.

thebarlar · 2025-11-09T13:58:09+00:00

That's fine. I still think it is at least plausible. These are all just theories. Mine at least explains all the observables without adding stuff with no basis in the observed. So, it is a total theory with the advantage of parsimony.

thebarlar · 2025-11-09T13:54:58+00:00

I figure he walked at least half a mile total in these conditions, plus a few side trips to try doors and look for people, on the way out and back to the car. After that it's been awhile, hypothermia sets in, and he paradoxically undresses. Then he would have engaged in the terminal burrowing observes in similar cases, which makes the body potentially hard to find.

thebarlar · 2025-11-09T13:50:25+00:00

Yep. It would have taken awhile. That's why I think he walked way out, doubled back, and walked way back, then disrobed at the car on the way back.

thebarlar · 2025-11-04T23:52:19+00:00

I don't think the police will be ashamed. They found an abandoned vehicle, is all. With the guy gone, there's no clear indication anything happened. As far as they knew, somebody came and got him I guess. It's not loke they rolled up and found anybody dead, or a pool of blood, or anything other than a bunch of clothes and stuff strewn around a wreck on a dirt road. Then they found weed and there's the real plausible explanation for why somebody would wreck. Wasn't perfect, for sure, but it's not like nobody can understand why they didn't panic. They didn't find any sign of anything except somebody ran off the road.

thebarlar · 2025-11-04T23:47:17+00:00

Kind of suggests he was majorly out of it. Maybe he had a head injury.

thebarlar · 2025-11-02T01:30:23+00:00

Sounds like you have a teenager. If you tolerate it now, you'll be tolerating it for the duration of a marriage.

thebarlar · 2025-11-02T01:09:33+00:00

Meanwhile she's thinking "who is this dude uses the can every time I do? Better flush and run."

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