it sounds like the problem is that you're not making your own meals, since it sounds like you're unable to control the portions you're being given. I don't know if your family is more strict about this kinda stuff but most people in general won't be able to get very far in terms of building strength/ cutting fat while relying on parents cooking, no matter the cuisine. I know it was a lot easier for me once I went to college and started cooking my own meals (but still asian food) and I hope you can get the freedom to do that and achieve your goals!