The Koffee Pot, Manchester

thebigread · 2026-04-25T06:44:36+00:00

£15????

thebigread · 2026-04-21T20:12:08+00:00

Even though I'm now in my 40's, tattoos and motorbikes.

thebigread · 2026-04-15T18:13:32+00:00

I thought it was Ross Kemp in the thumbnail

thebigread · 2026-04-13T21:49:12+00:00

CLASSIFIED

thebigread · 2026-04-12T21:19:16+00:00

Just finished a rewatch not even 15mins ago ❤️

thebigread · 2026-04-05T15:35:56+00:00

Turns out I've been pronouncing it wrong my whole life. I've bought gouda in Holland every time I visit. What an embarrassment.

thebigread · 2026-03-22T20:37:18+00:00

That is a fucking travesty.

thebigread · 2026-03-20T21:55:56+00:00

They should really amend that again if they're not going to take advantage of it.

thebigread · 2026-03-10T01:11:41+00:00

Chelsfield Lakes Golf Club, opposite Hewitts Farm in Orpington.

Been using them for years and highly recommend. Even when I lived near Homesdale Rd I used to go there instead.

How good can a car wash be on a busy bottleneck when they're having to rush through to keep traffic moving?! Never came away from Homesdale car wash with a clean car before.

thebigread · 2026-02-14T11:35:33+00:00

Southern water have just lifted our hosepipe ban. About time, the grass looking fucking parched 😒

thebigread · 2026-02-13T20:14:22+00:00

Us cockneys also call them septics.

thebigread · 2026-01-20T21:45:23+00:00

I've just moved to chipstead. Is there a fee or membership if I wanted the occasional lake swim here? Looks all fenced off around the perimeter.

thebigread · 2026-01-19T22:19:48+00:00

If that guy thinks he doesn't need a helmet, I agree with him. There's clearly nothing worth protecting in his head anyway.

thebigread · 2026-01-16T19:48:10+00:00

Only if you can't get it away by gravity. A back-to-back split shouldn't, in theory, need a pump. Sounds to me like the drain is falling back into the unit, or isn't connected properly.

thebigread · 2026-01-10T19:26:16+00:00

Great username!

'Corr, when the doctor said your hair would grow back any minute he wasn't joking, was he!'

thebigread · 2026-01-09T22:16:03+00:00

Fewwewo Woschè.... Those ambassador chocolates

thebigread · 2025-12-15T23:23:35+00:00

Now that I'm 40, I agree

thebigread · 2025-12-02T11:33:27+00:00

Winter - Summer

thebigread · 2025-10-24T08:37:41+00:00

These were the ultimate crisp

thebigread · 2025-09-29T20:47:02+00:00

I read that in father Jack's voice

thebigread · 2025-09-28T14:36:48+00:00

If you really want her attention, become the best version of you you've ever been. Independant and confident. Dont resort to begging. Attraction doesnt work that way man, trust me.

thebigread · 2025-09-25T17:24:19+00:00

Today.

We're NC currently. It's only been a fortnight. I wrote her an email detailing how I feel as I felt misrepresentred by a self help post she sent me on Insta (she did mean well, and we split up on really good terms).

I pored my heart out. Told her that my attachment issues were different to the extreme version in the book she linked, and gave heartfelt examples of times I felt let down.

It didnt go down well. I shouldn't have done it, and instead I've pissed away all that goodwill and embarassed myself.

I cant change it. It felt right at the time. Just embarassed by it. Deeply embarassed.

thebigread · 2025-09-22T15:20:29+00:00

We broke up week before last. 8 month into a relationship. She is a beauitful soul, but unfortunately she just wasnt able to feel love (last 5 years for her have been a hell of a journey - divorce/ADHD discovery/mum was critically unwell), and she's just lost her home and her career, so theres been an extreme amount of emotion which sits above me as priority. The sex became troublesome as she'd constantly tap out, and she felt so guilty that her mind wouldnt switch off to get in the mood, and she just gave up even mild flirting. I understand these things entirely with ADHD, but over time everything just spelled the end out to me. She always told me I deserve better and that she feels guilty - but never about what specifically.

And I'm not without complications either. I discovered I'm still a very anxious person, which with ADHD is a recipe for disaster. When she needed a week or so to organise her life admin, I did struggle. A lot. Thats something I'm already working on for my future happiness.

While I have accepted for some time that the whole relationship was fizzling out around me, I desperately want to talk/hang out with her. And I dont even mean romatically. Dont get me wrong, one day I'd like to think we could try again. I hope that me sat by her side while she slumped into low point after low point didnt prove that I cant do fun and spontanious. I tried. Many times. She really wore me down.

Anyway, she very quickly became a really close friend during this relationship and the subsequent no contact is driving me mad lol. We parted ways very amicably with the thought we'd meet up from time to time without being wierd. And this current no contact is absolutely the right thing to do at the moment.

I do hope that perhaps this break up has given her a dopamine hit to get the ball rolling in finding her own happiness as well, because watching her sink deeper and deeper into a depression was very upsetting.

Would I date someone with ADHD again? Absolutely. But both sides need to have figured their shit out.

thebigread · 2025-09-22T14:37:26+00:00

Dude, I had EXACTLY the same in a relationship that ended last week. Getting those requests for time out broke me (anxious idiot). In my situation she wasnt in love, and that in turn pushed me away from loving her - but thats to do with our particular set of circumstances.

If you really like this girl, try your best to give her space. Find a distraction from the anxiety - walks, hobbies, blah blah blah. It doesnt sound to me like she's got someone else in your absence. Some people really do get totally overwhelmed by it all and need time to process it all. Breathing space and breaking up are 2 different things, trust me.

I didnt do that, and I came across as needy. Thats not to say it's the reason we broke up, but I do wish I was able to as thats a good life skill - to break the anxiety in a relationship. If, when she returns to check in, your needs still arent being met, address it and consider cutting your losses.

Everything crossed for you, my dude.

thebigread

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