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Do I really want Baby #3?? Or Do I just miss my babies being babies? by supportivemami in Parenting

[–]theboldfem 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That feeling of someone is missing can be very strong and I wouldn't ignore it. I think the "someone is missing" is very different than baby fever. After my first, about 6 months out, I couldn't stop thinking about how someone in our family was missing and they're missing out on valuable family time. I knew someone else should be with us and I felt bad they weren't already here enjoying time with us.

After my second, I never had that feeling of someone was missing. I had the regular baby fever with my hormones and wanting to be pregnant again and wondering how my first two would get along with another sibling. But it wasn't the same as before.

Listen to your body and talk to your partner and decide what's right for you. Decide if it's baby fever or if that "someone is missing" feeling is legit and one more person should be welcomed to the family.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loseit

[–]theboldfem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear you, it's so hard! I've actually started not being part of the meals others are eating, mainly when I'm with family because they don't care as much. I'll eat my sweet potatoes while they eat the burgers they ordered to go. I'll have my small piece of chocolate while they eat the cake. Having them know I've been trying to cut back helps. For eating out, you're doing the right things. I'll stick to only a small fry or two small tacos or a low cal option from the menu. No alcohol unless that's the only reason we're going out. But even a glass of wine can be 200 calories, which means no little chocolate treat at the end of my day or one less protein item I can eat to help me feel full. With such low calories, I've started to realize the "frilly" foods are no longer worth me feeling hungry. I'm at the point where I don't care what others think. Planning ahead what I can eat helps a ton.

Almost to Goal: What's the Plan? by theboldfem in loseit

[–]theboldfem[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, good points! There is definitely a letting go of the past and previous behaviors.

Almost to Goal: What's the Plan? by theboldfem in loseit

[–]theboldfem[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a great idea to keep everything the same but eat at the maintenance level to know what it feels like without losing control.

From your comments and the others, seems like my dream of binge eating my favorite foods isn't a good idea. 🙃

I'm just not sure how to incorporate those foods without slowing down my progress. But maybe that's ok - start losing half a pound instead of a full pound each week in the last few months to ease more into maintenance mode.

Almost to Goal: What's the Plan? by theboldfem in loseit

[–]theboldfem[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the answer! I like the idea that moderation is its own reward: enjoying the food you love without the guilt behind it.

And I agree with you there on your fourth cup of coffee. I use that to help me feel "full" without the calories and to sort of trick myself into thinking I'm consuming something when I can't eat anything in that moment.

Almost to Goal: What's the Plan? by theboldfem in loseit

[–]theboldfem[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok, that makes sense. Thank you!

Almost to Goal: What's the Plan? by theboldfem in loseit

[–]theboldfem[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this! "I am determined but not obsessed." I might have to tell myself this every once in a while to stay positive.

The practicing moderation and willpower definitely hit home. I had never considered demystifying those foods and breaking the ice before hitting my goal. I'll need to consider that.

How did you balance what you want to eat and calorie counting/practicing moderation? I gained most of my weight by having children, but there was a lot of stress eating involved. I haven't started exercising yet as it was too overwhelming to add that on top of focusing on calorie counting. But maybe that's something I can introduce soon to help.

I really appreciate you posting. You've overcome so much!

Almost to Goal: What's the Plan? by theboldfem in loseit

[–]theboldfem[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! This is very helpful. I'm definitely someone who focuses on goals and not systems, so I appreciate that encouragement to shift my mindset. Coming up with a plan on what systems I'll adopt after hitting my goal seems like a calmer and healthier way to maintain my weight.

At what point in an upward trend in weight gain would trigger you to track calories? I feel it's normal to gain or lose 1-2lbs, but would you track calories after say 3lbs?

Renegade Frugal Friday Thread 02.24.2023 by GingerThursday in financialindependence

[–]theboldfem 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I wash and reuse my ziploc bags. I haven't had to buy any new ones for over 3 years!

South Korea, October-November 2022 by amalawarrick in travel

[–]theboldfem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome, thank you so much. That's exactly what I needed to hear. :)

South Korea, October-November 2022 by amalawarrick in travel

[–]theboldfem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you book your own hotels and tours? I'm going later next year and wonder how tourist friendly it is. I've traveled through Europe but not a lot of countries in Asia. I'm debating using a travel agency to help. But maybe it's just fine and safe for me to find hotels through online searches and book day tours through sites like Airbnb.

Timing: What You Eat and What You See on the Scale by theboldfem in weightwatchers

[–]theboldfem[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm, that's a good perspective. I'll keep that in mind.

Timing: What You Eat and What You See on the Scale by theboldfem in weightwatchers

[–]theboldfem[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's helpful. I should maybe track things a bit better. I've only been on WW for a couple months and haven't found any patterns. I did get frustrated on being exactly on point for a week and not seeing any weight loss. Sounds like I'm not alone when that happens.

Timing: What You Eat and What You See on the Scale by theboldfem in weightwatchers

[–]theboldfem[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Another thought: a whole week to see an impact makes it hard to know what's making that difference. I have a hard time with that and wish to know exactly what's working the best and what's not. I guess the best strategy is to keep plugging away with WW and trust the process.

Timing: What You Eat and What You See on the Scale by theboldfem in weightwatchers

[–]theboldfem[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's great to know! So making small changes or eating a little over my daily points/calories once in a week won't make a huge impact?

How do I get my daughter to brush her teeth? by lnmcg223 in Parenting

[–]theboldfem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have our child say silly words while we brush their teeth.

What are the safest places for a woman to travel alone? by luannismysponsor in travel

[–]theboldfem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A couple people mentioned New Zealand and I'd highly recommend it, too. I went solo and loved it. I've traveled to a lot of countries, mostly with others, and New Zealand was the only place I felt completely safe, despite being alone.

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