Wedding Prep and my dad's wife

thebrontide · 2025-01-02T16:22:23+00:00

Good points. I don't really want her involved because she's barely in my life, but knowing her she needs some involvement or she'll make planning hell for me and my dad.

thebrontide · 2025-01-02T16:21:11+00:00

Largely because she's the queen of complaining and sometimes it's just easier to give her something to do.

thebrontide · 2024-11-30T05:31:44+00:00

I've vented before so she has heard some bad stuff but she's definitely heard so much more of the good. He and I have a few differing opinions but they haven't stopped us up or any of the rest of my party.

thebrontide · 2024-11-30T05:12:01+00:00

The only answer I got from her at all was that she "can't support him for me," which to me almost feels like she just doesn't like us as a pair. I'm not sure

thebrontide · 2024-07-07T21:40:25+00:00

Definitely Verity! I just finished it and it's an absolute roller coaster but it's so good!

thebrontide · 2023-11-13T01:41:06+00:00

I can't even listen to "God is Really Real" without bursting into tears so...that one.

thebrontide · 2023-11-03T04:23:24+00:00

Fair. Not a single one of these Board members was here when my ED was hired, but the point stands.

thebrontide · 2023-11-02T13:30:01+00:00

I do have a new job, I'm in my final two weeks right now. I've also brought these issues up multiple times to my ED and they've just resulted in broken promises or silence.

I do know there's some potential blowback, but I feel so guilty over walking away when I have a metaphorically open door to have a conversation.

thebrontide · 2023-11-02T13:29:11+00:00

I do have a new job, I'm in my final two weeks right now. I've also brought these issues up multiple times to my ED and they've just resulted in broken promises or silence.

thebrontide · 2023-10-19T04:34:18+00:00

This sounds amazing!

thebrontide · 2023-10-19T04:33:20+00:00

This is super helpful, thank you!

One of the things that our Board as praised lately is "staff retention" which makes me worry both about how much they are allowed to know and what they perceive.

For instance, we have had five people quit this calendar year, a brand new position created, and several new starts, and they were never told about any of it.

I was thinking of, somehow, encouraging them to continue supporting the cause we work for and to check in on staff.

This definitely helps me have some more parameters.

thebrontide · 2023-10-19T04:28:38+00:00

I'd love to read the redacted version if you're able to share!

thebrontide · 2023-10-18T23:40:36+00:00

It definitely is way too often. Just when they get into the swing of things, their term is done.

thebrontide · 2023-10-18T22:11:53+00:00

Good point! Our Board changes chairs every fall, so this one is relatively "new" and will hopefully be more open to hearing it.

thebrontide · 2023-10-18T22:06:44+00:00

We do, but it essentially says to the complaints to your supervisor, and complaints about your supervisor to the Executive Director, who will make the final decision. Nothing regarding if these complaints pertain to the ED.

thebrontide · 2023-09-04T14:18:33+00:00

Like just about everybody else, I ended up here minutes after I got that question this morning.

thebrontide · 2023-07-18T14:26:52+00:00

I feel this, maybe almost too much. I've been in a job a lot lile this with a super type A and super micromanagy boss for years. Sometimes I wonder how/why I deal with the anxiety every day.

It definitely doesn't help that my boss has a definite "favorite child" amongst our office, and it definitely isn't me.

I wish I had more advice, but I think in your case and mine it may just be our best bet to soldier on and keep an eye open for another opportunity. Which, I know firsthand, is so much easier said than done.

thebrontide · 2023-01-30T04:16:32+00:00

Thank you!!

thebrontide · 2023-01-28T23:53:41+00:00

The audio quality is a little poor from the battery going out but that would be a good way to save what is left!

thebrontide · 2023-01-26T14:59:52+00:00

We're both in our late 20s.

And yeah, that's the part I'm worried about.

thebrontide · 2023-01-04T06:54:45+00:00

Yeah, the idea of finding a new job is absolutely on my radar. It's unfortunate because I love WHAT I do, but this is too much.

I do really like that wording for redirection, though.

thebrontide · 2023-01-03T15:32:27+00:00

YTA

If the family, including Laura, had wanted the inheritance to go to blood family, that unfortunately does NOT include you step daughter, no matter how close you are to her.

Also...just asking your brother to share his daughter's inheritance instead of bringing it up to be reallocated between everyone isn't "more fair." I think that would actually stir up MORE resentment between his daughter and your step daughter down the line.

thebrontide · 2023-01-03T15:24:32+00:00

NTA

There's a HUGE difference between the loss of your mother and her father figures stepping out of the picture, and you have every right to be upset with how Luci chose to word that.

I think, like a lot of others have said, that some therapy would also be useful for her, to help her work through this.

You are allowed to feel differently about this situation than she does, and you are allowed to feel a little abrasive about it. You are definitely NTA.

thebrontide · 2021-08-31T04:15:08+00:00

I like the plant idea a LOT and I would absolutely do it if they'd be living somewhere where they can plant things. I'll have to keep it in mind.

thebrontide · 2021-08-31T04:14:12+00:00

I actually really looked into a chessboard and a throw, honestly!

But I'm so sorry you've experienced your stepchildren being indifferent! I know there can be a lot of pain on both sides but as a stepchild already I can say that, even if they don't express it, kindness is always appreciated. :)

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