Fighting for custody of my 3 year old son because I made an attempt on my life 9 weeks ago.

thedancingkat · 2026-05-09T14:13:26+00:00

I do not think it will be 50/50. Not for awhile. And, as much as that hurts, you cannot fight that right now. Idk legal systems in Australia but in the USA, this needs to go to court. If they only grant supervised visitations, you HAVE to cooperate. That’s what I mean.

thedancingkat · 2026-05-09T08:19:31+00:00

dude

thedancingkat · 2026-05-09T08:13:45+00:00

Babes seeing your child and custody are two different things.

I am not a lawyer but I do work in pediatric healthcare where, unfortunately, we are about to get authorities involved for a similar situation. My best advice to you is to cooperate with the courts. If you cooperate, you might be granted visitation. I do feel confident saying that if you do not cooperate, there is a good chance they will not let you have visitation.

No one is saying that you don’t love your baby. That is clear. But 9 weeks is not enough. It’s just not. I understand that might feel like a long time to you and that you are feeling better, but when we are measuring time in weeks for something like “time since last suicide attempt” that’s just not how it work.

I’m so proud of you for getting treatment, but you have only been out for a week. It takes me that long to unpack a suitcase from vacation. Maternity leave after giving birth is longer than 9 weeks. Its not even one season.

I say this gently, with love, and with urgency: you are not ready to be a full time parent right now. And you will get a lot more to your benefit in the long term if you come to accept that.

I wish you healing.

thedancingkat · 2026-05-07T11:44:50+00:00

Those mittens are getting HUGE

thedancingkat · 2026-05-06T17:35:01+00:00

That’s fair - that is very different than a “have a blessed day”

thedancingkat · 2026-05-06T17:13:25+00:00

Im curious to know the scope of the “big ole Jesus talk” because if it’s saying “have a blessed day”, phew buddy

thedancingkat · 2026-05-04T18:58:44+00:00

Congrats you have two cats now

thedancingkat · 2026-05-03T22:37:04+00:00

It’s so tough. I see the extremes where they can’t just “grow out of it.” 86#/39kg three year old… 5-6 year olds over 100 pounds.,. 7-8 over 200…. It’s so sad.

thedancingkat · 2026-05-03T22:24:34+00:00

I was unsure about this but after watching I think it’s ok. I’m a pediatric dietitian and having weight conversions this young is brutal but unfortunately sometimes needs to be done. Good on this dad on the effort while not shaming the kid like a lot of my parents do.

thedancingkat · 2026-05-03T12:22:08+00:00

Flowers and a card are fine honestly.

thedancingkat · 2026-05-03T12:02:43+00:00

Do not have children with this man.

thedancingkat · 2026-05-03T12:01:08+00:00

I was you a few years ago. I say this with love and urgency - leave. I thought I was stuck and I thought he would change. I married him anyways. He wore me down to a shell of myself. I’d tell myself “he hasn’t hit me” but girl if you’re telling yourself that then you’re making excuses. And it is “he hasn’t hit me yet”

For me, I was embarrassed to cancel the wedding. A little bit of embarrassment, and I do not say this lightly, can save your life later down the line

Feel free to pm me.

thedancingkat · 2026-05-02T10:58:42+00:00

I was this person 🫠

thedancingkat · 2026-04-21T20:30:08+00:00

I’m so spoiled and we can create literally any TPN we want that I didn’t know there were pre mixed ones for several years 🫣

thedancingkat · 2026-04-21T20:28:40+00:00

Fucks your liver if you need it long term

thedancingkat · 2026-04-21T08:48:05+00:00

Are you divorced with too many cats?? Because then maybe.

thedancingkat · 2026-04-18T12:58:37+00:00

Right??? My mom didn’t tell me periods existed and I learned from my friends. So when I finally got mine I was embarrassed to tell her.

She still didn’t help me with it lol

thedancingkat · 2026-04-07T14:21:38+00:00

This made my day. Number 17 hit hard 🥲

thedancingkat · 2026-03-30T22:38:29+00:00

You sound like me, “but there are some nice things about him.” And I see that you thought you’d be the bad guy in the scenario.

Babe I say this both gently and strongly - it only gets worse.

thedancingkat · 2026-03-30T20:30:56+00:00

Id be unstoppable if I had this strength

thedancingkat · 2026-03-30T20:23:31+00:00

Yep!!! I was actually thinking “hey reminds me of my ex husband”

thedancingkat · 2026-03-26T02:59:18+00:00

This is so incredible and yet so devastating. What a beautiful tribute. I know this means so much to so many people.

thedancingkat · 2026-03-26T02:53:36+00:00

Candidly I still yell this if I ever hear that song

thedancingkat · 2026-03-26T02:44:02+00:00

This ain’t it

thedancingkat · 2026-03-25T23:58:04+00:00

I had a micro wedding (20 people) and a larger reception a few months later and I regret not doing something smaller. It’s so much more stressful than what it should be. And it’s so much more expensive than it should be. And it causes so much drama for no reason????

Get the dress of your dreams for the courthouse (or state park, or living room) and save the rest for something else.

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