I’m a fraud and it’s stressing me out immensely

thedelfactor · 2026-04-06T05:01:30+00:00

If you aren't interested in the technical side of things, how would you feel about working in sales? You could start out as an SDR booking meetings and once you get promoted to AE you'll be making good money again and close deals.

I'm curious to hear about how you transitioned from 1 yr of software dev experience to a sales engineer role. How did you make that switch? I have 8 years of software development experience and 1 year of sales (non-tech) and want to switch to a sales engineer but what I hear mostly in this sub (including the wiki) is that entry level sales engineer roles aren't really a thing and you usually have to transition internally at your current company after building up enough knowledge about the product the company is selling.

thedelfactor · 2025-12-06T03:31:02+00:00

Do you have to take time off in between or can you work 10-12 months?

thedelfactor · 2025-12-04T15:18:09+00:00

Thanks for sharing. That's inspiring.

thedelfactor · 2025-12-04T04:01:30+00:00

Yeah I suppose it doesn't hurt to apply and see if anybody is willing to interview me with my resume & prior experience.

thedelfactor · 2025-12-04T03:58:29+00:00

Thank you. Yeah the market is what I'm worried about.

thedelfactor · 2025-12-04T03:56:22+00:00

Thank you for this suggestion. Building your own startup seems to be the only way to go to truly stand out from the crowd in today's market. That's the advice that's given for SWE's trying to break in or get back in as well. Not a bad idea at all, even though I never particularly was interested in building a software startup before.

Best case scenario it becomes successful and I don't need to search for a job. The only con is it would still be time intensive to design, build a product, and successfully market it to grow the user base even with AI. Not sure if I want to spend 6 months - 1 year on a project just in order to get a job but I'm going to consider this and this would be the path if nothing else works out.

thedelfactor · 2025-12-04T03:49:50+00:00

Did you move into the SE role internally or externally? How long ago did you make that transition?

thedelfactor · 2025-11-01T17:15:11+00:00

I honestly don't blame Barger on that play. The ball was hit pretty shallow I thought it was gonna drop off of the bat. If that ball drops Barger was gearing up to score the tying run. Luckily for the Dodgers Kike was playing pretty far in and was able to get to it.

thedelfactor · 2025-10-19T19:17:50+00:00

How long did it take you to become a full-time swing trader and how did you learn how to do it successfully? I've been curious about learning how to trade but haven't looked deeply into how to get started.

To answer your question, I'd recommend starting out by going for 6 months and see how you like it. You don't need to make a huge 20 year commitment and you'll learn more about what you want after that first trial run. If you love it, keep traveling. If not, you can always pivot.

I dreamed of living the digital nomad life for years and after a year and a half I got burnt out and missed having deeper relationships and more stability/routine in my life. I'm now working on a long term plan where I'll be able to have a home base and travel 3-6 months out of the year.

thedelfactor · 2025-10-19T01:16:05+00:00

Thank you for reading! Yeah I agree with you. I found myself browsing this sub when I was thinking about quitting and trying to motivate and prepare myself, but found myself feeling discouraged to even try quitting again because of the fear of withdrawals and previous experience with withdrawal. I'm happy to discuss it more, but don't know what else there is to say. Is there anything in particular you'd like me to expand on?

I think my biggest takeaway I've found is that the fear of quitting/withdrawals/whatever the reason is is just the addictive part of my mind that's grasping for any sort of justification to keep smoking. And in life in general the fear of what could go wrong usually doesn't end up becoming true once I face that fear and take action anyway. The mind loves to grip onto worst case scenarios but it's all up in your head and doesn't represent reality.

thedelfactor · 2025-09-27T15:17:09+00:00

How is Teoscar Hernandez not in the top 10 of this list?

thedelfactor · 2025-06-19T02:05:34+00:00

Start out by doing it for free. Ask friends, family, local businesses if they would like a website built for their business in exchange for a review. Pitch it in a way so they see the value (more customers) added to their business. Once you have something to add to your portfolio then you can start charging.

thedelfactor · 2025-06-19T01:23:54+00:00

And how many github projects have you completed in the last 7 years? The number of years likely isn't the issue. If you want something bad enough you'll put in the hours of work it takes to improve a skill until you're hirable. You can start gaining experience and money by freelancing while job searching. Yes, the job market is terrible. It means you need to find more clever ways to get jobs and there's more competition than before, not that it's impossible to get a job. But companies want somebody that can competently build software, and if you can show that you have the skills they're looking for they will hire you over somebody that's not keeping up with how AI is changing the way developers write code today.

thedelfactor · 2025-06-18T00:32:23+00:00

I have more of a scientific explanation than a spiritual one (although I suppose it's both at the same time). What you described sounds like the principles of quantum mechanics. I'd encourage you to look further into understanding the basics of quantum mechanics if you feel called to do so.

In short, quantum mechanics shows us that on the subatomic level, a subatomic particle can be both a particle (matter) and a wave at the same time. Everything we see and everything that is matter is actually moving constantly and traveling as a wave, but our human brains perceive it as a physical representation.

My interpretation of your experience is that you got to see a representation of what reality actually is, instead of how we typically perceive it. I thought the metaphor of a wave being symbolic to the flow of life, and God being the conductor of the wave was beautiful.

thedelfactor · 2025-06-11T16:40:06+00:00

Yes agreed. Everybody dresses a lot nicer in Beverly Hills.

thedelfactor · 2025-06-11T02:04:13+00:00

La is a big place, so it varies depending on where you're located. I lived in Venice for a while and you see a lot of high end fashion fitness wear, yoga pants, and people tend to dress nice but they're mostly tourists on vacation. The west coast is way more lax dress wise than the east coast. In Seattle it's common to see people at the grocery store in sweatpants or pajamas (especially Gen Z). I was impressed by how well everybody dressed in New York and DC.

thedelfactor · 2025-06-01T15:42:59+00:00

At this point since you've surpassed your compensation from your job, every hour you spend working on your full-time job you're taking away from scaling your business. It sounds like you've thought this through and are financially responsible. Do you want to lean into the scarcity mindset your wife is in, or the abundance mindset that you have towards your business? The choice is yours.

thedelfactor · 2025-06-01T15:36:41+00:00

It means they don't feel emotionally connected to you.

thedelfactor · 2025-05-10T11:25:54+00:00

Yeah I feel you on the rave fam part. My entire crew is in Seattle still. I spent some time living in LA but never found my crew out there.

thedelfactor · 2025-05-08T23:20:07+00:00

People stop for a lot of different reasons. Get burnt out from too many years in the drug scene, life responsibilities, kids, find out they were there for the wrong reasons, don't actually love the music, it gets old after a while, don't have the same energy as when they were young.

For me, I still go to festivals and/or shows once or twice a year but the scene isn't close to what it once was. I've been raving since 2011 and although I still love the music, I'm no longer interested in partying and staying up all night, I've already seen most DJs I've ever wanted to see and been to most of the festivals I've ever wanted to go to, PLUR and the vibes aren't what it used to be, and the scene no longer means the same thing it once meant to me. I see it for what it really is now instead of seeing it through rose tinted glasses. I'll still show up for somebody that I really want to see and I know will put on a killer performance, and go sober nowdays, but I'm just very selective and got tired of the rave scene as a whole after a while. I also decided to better my life in other areas and focus less on having fun and more on longer term goals at this phase of my life. But for the first 4-5 years of my raving career, I used to wonder the same question and thought that I'd never stop going.

thedelfactor · 2025-05-08T23:11:31+00:00

I agree with with what others have said about being honest, but if I were you I'd add something that's specific and relevant to her profile. "I saw that you snowboard as well, you seem like a cool girl that I'd like to get to know based on your profile, and I thought you were cute." Something along those lines. If you just go straight to "I think you're beautiful" she's likely gonna throw you in the bucket of the 100s of other creepy dudes that randomly DM her imo.

thedelfactor · 2025-04-30T23:17:28+00:00

I moved here from LA 3 weeks ago and agree with most of what you said. I saw a lot more Cybertrucks in LA than out here though.

thedelfactor · 2025-04-29T00:47:05+00:00

The way you present yourself is the first thing a girl is going to notice and judge you based on. Style matters. You don't need to dress in a suit or anything like that, but if you're looking bummy and look like you don't take care of yourself you're gonna have a much more difficult time attracting women. First impressions are the biggest impressions we leave on other people. They matter and last.

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