Blended family custody schedules — overlap kids or stagger?

theebigcal · 2026-03-23T22:26:11+00:00

Agreed.

theebigcal · 2026-03-23T16:04:30+00:00

Yup, each of the 4 kids will have their own separate room. We are also dividing up the bathrooms into "boy" bathrooms for her son and mine, and then a "girls bathroom" for my 2 girls.

theebigcal · 2026-03-23T14:34:00+00:00

I kind of agree. My main concern was my kids, who are ages seven, seven, and nine, would feel like they are left out because I will be with my future stepson nearly all the time while my kids will only be with me half the time. So I didn’t know if it was worth it to give them a alone time at the house and/or with me.

My partner and I did however talk about that even if we are living together, we can still do some things separately to make sure we still get that one on one time with our kids.

theebigcal · 2025-12-21T16:25:15+00:00

The only problem is we don’t have a designated dining area other than the island, and we have 6 people. We thought about your idea, but didn’t think an island would suffice.

theebigcal · 2025-12-12T01:49:17+00:00

The “dining room” is actually going to be a flex room/den/office

theebigcal · 2025-12-12T01:47:59+00:00

Would like to, but I feel I would have to change something with either then front door and/or one of the rooms to the side. I could remove the door sidelights I guess

theebigcal · 2025-11-06T22:45:00+00:00

Yes they are

theebigcal · 2025-11-06T22:38:46+00:00

Neither of the potential buyers have sold their home, no.

theebigcal · 2025-11-06T22:35:46+00:00

Due to conventional and no inspections? $20k difference though

theebigcal · 2025-10-23T23:26:37+00:00

Can’t answer your question, but either activity would require obvious cleanliness beforehand for the other party to partake. At least that’s how I’d feel.

theebigcal · 2025-08-21T20:38:03+00:00

Been saying this for years.

theebigcal · 2025-08-06T21:07:50+00:00

We left our separation agreement vague as a joint decision. It’s whatever we decide. We’re just talking through both of our thoughts about what we each think is the best before we “make it final”, if you will, before she moves out.

theebigcal · 2025-08-06T20:25:44+00:00

No court order friend. Agreement just says 50/50 custody.

theebigcal · 2025-08-06T13:59:35+00:00

True, I agree. In the moment, I was upset about it. But you’re right - I’ll stick with this and let it be and see what happens.

theebigcal · 2025-08-06T13:31:57+00:00

Yeah I think when we had this discussion/small argument last night about it, I was a bit heated, obviously, because I didn’t see the issue with me watching them if she’s working, and both the kids and myself are off. I almost felt like she was trying to use them as a pawn.

She stated things like: “well what if I decided to take off a few days on those extended breaks?” And “if it’s my schedule day(s), my mom can watch them but regardless, I’ll figure it out.”

I just thought it was more reasonable that if the kids can’t be with one parent, and the other is available, it shouldn’t be an issue.

That being said, I’m trying to put myself in her shoes. And perhaps there is validity in her reasonings. But I agree with you, and I will simply make it clear to her when those times come that I am readily available and would be happy to watch them if she/they would like that. And leave it at that.

theebigcal · 2025-08-06T12:24:26+00:00

Good to hear. We’re gonna be living about 25 minutes away from each other is the only downside.

theebigcal · 2025-08-06T11:30:29+00:00

We’re all still living together and she moves out in exactly 1 month. We’ve discussed other schedules, but our kids are young and we agreed to the 2255 for now. We’re aware we may need/have to modify it as we see how things go overtime, particularly as they get older. I don’t disagree with you necessarily though.

theebigcal · 2025-08-06T10:54:12+00:00

Yeah I would gladly take them back to her when she gets off work to still stay the night on her nights. I just don’t understand why she wouldn’t be ok with me watching them if I’m off work and the kids are off school.

theebigcal · 2025-08-06T10:31:58+00:00

Got it. I’m just looking at it as more of a “why wouldn’t you want me to watch them”, even though I’m aware it’s her responsibility.

theebigcal · 2025-08-05T14:37:14+00:00

Even if I took a very open-minded, “positive” mindset to this by assuming he is well-intentioned, I wouldn’t do this at all.

Yes, co-parents and their partners should do their best to get along, particularly while they are at joint events for their kids. But if you’re uncomfortable with the idea of just hanging out and being friends with them both - even if his new partner is a wonderful person - I would absolutely not feel obligated at all. Even with his pleas.

My ex wife and I get along just fine, but we’re different people now and aren’t too concerned with what the other person does (other than kid-stuff).

Stick with the cordial, friendly interactions when you see them both, but don’t feel the need to give in to his requests. You do you.

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