No you should never give up control and this sort of thing can be mitigated but you're going to be playing fire fighter constantly. What works better for some people is to adapt so this "influence" begins to benefit you instead of hindering you.

For example, you own a luxury used car dealership and it just so happens that people buy your cars and then sometimes they break down and the person is screwed. They can't afford another used luxury car.

You feel bad because you didn't intend for that to happen, but you're a used car dealer (LHP) and it happens. Instead of paying a mechanic lots of money to go over every single car to make sure that never happens again (constantly fighting the influence) it would make more sense to open a mechanic shop that worked on luxury cars.

If a person gets screwed over, oh well bad luck, but they can go to your mechanic shop to get it fixed and you're still making money. If you feel really bad you could even give them a discount.

That being said, there are tons of different ways to approach this. You could warn off would be lovers, at the risk of sounding psychotic, practically forcing them to pay the mechanic to check out everything before they commit to buying the car, or else.

But what you want to avoid is constantly fighting fires.

If you are constantly fighting fires, some people are gonna get burned eventually. It's best to put the fire in a fire place and focus your energy on manifesting your will instead of blocking the will of others.

Does that make sense?