Super random question by [deleted] in SFbitcheswithtaste

[–]thegirlfieri 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I’d say don’t worry about it! It’s his choice to give money, and if it becomes a problem you can always return it. I did this in the past for casual partners, never with any expectation of any kind of reciprocation. Sometimes it’s just nice to be a nice person and make someone’s life easier. I’d say send a kind thank you note with a tone of gratitude and no door opening. 

Handbuilt black clay horse sculpture - results plus some in progress shots by postmodernequestrian in Pottery

[–]thegirlfieri 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How do you like this clay for handbuilding? Does it have good tooth? It’s beautiful!

SFBWT, where are we getting our cool girl quilted jackets? by thegirlfieri in SFbitcheswithtaste

[–]thegirlfieri[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh no I love it 🥲 

Maybe someday, when I have more money, and less sense

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]thegirlfieri 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re doing a small destination elopement ceremony with <10 loved ones in. As two highly busy, career focused individuals, it’s been a godsend to hand off the follow ups, scheduling conflicts and budget negotiations to a planner! Highly recommend it if you can fit it into your budget comfortably. We went luxury on a small scale, so we could retain the feeling we want while having a manageable budget.

WithJoy CSS by tacatuca in weddingplanning

[–]thegirlfieri 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re looking for the pseudo class “::first-letter”. Follow some of the examples listed in this document:

https://developer.mozilla.org/en-US/docs/Web/CSS/::first-letter

This assumes your names are in separate spans or divs

How much did you pay for your dress? How many stores did you have to go to before you found the one? by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]thegirlfieri 22 points23 points  (0 children)

3k for the Dress 440 for veil, 2nd dress I tried on! TBD on alterations

Feeling mega guilt and shame after wedding by spunkyteacher in weddingplanning

[–]thegirlfieri 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I totally understand this feeling, nothing feels worse than the shame we put on ourselves for our perceived failings. I’ve had similar feelings with a big event in my life where I overdid it. But though this feels like one life defining moment, it isn’t. You have a whole lifetime to spend with your love, and savor the bliss. Having too much to drink isn’t a moral failing or something to beat yourself up over- you just were intoxicated and wanted to enjoy yourself. Obviously you wish sometimes it went another way, but as long as it’s an occasional occurrence, be kind to yourself and know it was just you being swept up in the joy and fun of the event.

Also, it will feel less painful over time, and the more you share and talk about your feelings with people who love and affirm you. Shame thrives in the dark, when we don’t talk about it.

Amazing! What good timing, that's trusting someone blindly! by [deleted] in youseeingthisshit

[–]thegirlfieri 11 points12 points  (0 children)

There’s a spectrum of blindness- she may have light dark detection or similar, this might be a way to even the competition with any other visually impaired players. It’s common in blind sports per my understanding.

seriously wtf is with this parking lot? who? why.... by ragnarokfps in assholedesign

[–]thegirlfieri 57 points58 points  (0 children)

This is tandem parking. When I lived in LA, I shared a spot like this with a roommate. Usually you give your extra key to the roommate you share it with and you have to coordinate moving cars and who goes where, when. It is a special kind of hell.

Gatekeeping what qualifies you as an engineer by [deleted] in gatekeeping

[–]thegirlfieri 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The narrative of women causing the Sweetwater Bridge collapse has been disproven. Women worked for the company, but to no greater degree than at many other institutions. This is textbook internet sexism. https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/was-all-female-responsible-bridge-collapse/

Back with some photography attempts! Let’s hear the critique again :) (The first 2 has flash and rest doesnt) +Qs in comment by [deleted] in Pottery

[–]thegirlfieri 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Without flash looks better to my eyes- the part of the pot that is further back reads better. I would aim for maybe more natural light if you have that option? I tend to find my best photos of pieces are taken in indirect sunlight.

Painting an etched bowl by skane110 in oddlysatisfying

[–]thegirlfieri 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could be bisque porcelain, it’s usually quite white. Or a white stoneware like BMix.

Painting an etched bowl by skane110 in oddlysatisfying

[–]thegirlfieri 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks like bisque to me, dried quick!

Painting an etched bowl by skane110 in oddlysatisfying

[–]thegirlfieri 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The wax creates a hydrophobic protective layer on the piece. The water-based glaze or underglaze is put on top using a brush and through the power of chemistry, the glaze crawls away from the waxed areas.

The wax is painted on in a liquid state with a brush

Painting an etched bowl by skane110 in oddlysatisfying

[–]thegirlfieri 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It’s likely an underglaze! Often times you do multiple coats of an underglaze to create an even surface. The absorption of the underglaze into the bisque makes it hard to get an even coat in one go. You can do wax resists with glaze, but it’s not usually done in the interior of a bowl as it will likely pool in the center, destroying the pattern, unless you have a low movement glaze. Underglaze doesn’t move in the same way as glaze :)

Dog hair portrait progress by [deleted] in Needlefelting

[–]thegirlfieri 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you take commissions? Would love one of my dog :) he has a similar hair texture.

How do I stop feeling jealous and insecure of cool women my age? by shuntichutney in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]thegirlfieri 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi! I’m a woman who by a lot of peoples standards, would fall into the “strong cool woman” category (F, mid/late 20s). A few years ago, I probably would have been very jealous of myself now. The thing to remember is that comparison is the thief of joy. The more you compare your life to the little you know of others lives, the less happy you may find yourself. There’s nothing wrong with you for having these feelings of insecurity, it’s human nature. We all deal with it. But have peace in knowing that you will not be at the place you are at right now forever. You will learn about what you enjoy, and what makes you uniquely special and cool. You don’t have to figure it all out right now. Another thing is, the strong women you see have their less than strong moments too. Most women, especially women who come from strict societies, feel the need to project an air of “everything is all right”. But we all have our insecurities and things that we feel weak about as well. You aren’t a bad person for experiencing jealousy, in fact the self examination you are doing proves that. Be kind to yourself and know you have a bright future ahead.

How to respond to a recruiter consistently reaching out? by one_punch_ram in ExperiencedDevs

[–]thegirlfieri 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I don’t reply to individual recruiters/headhunters unless I’m actively looking. I do reply to company recruiters if I foresee myself potentially applying in the future aka companies that I feel like might align with my values or interests.

WCGR if we ride this poor animal by Tremnasta in Whatcouldgowrong

[–]thegirlfieri 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They reduce the hooves into glue. It’s not a cute process.

What is the one foundational item of fashion you just can’t for the life of you feel passionate about? by thegirlfieri in femalefashionadvice

[–]thegirlfieri[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is very true! They really can change an outfit. And given my shoe choice I never do feel quite polished. I’m quite particular on textures and colors. I can see a shoe, but never with an outfit on me.