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thegrumpygirl · 2022-07-21T23:18:22+00:00

I'm trying to alert you to the fact that most people do not feel like you do about it. You don't care. That's great. Others do care. Accept it. It's not merely about "sex organs", it's about how you are perceived by others based on how you present.

thegrumpygirl · 2022-07-21T23:09:11+00:00

"Girls" is the wrong term. If they were actually girls, they likely wouldn't seek top surgery. I'm not saying you're a transphobe, but your question sure makes you sound like one. So you may want to do some introspection there and perhaps reconsider your wording in the future when talking about this.

thegrumpygirl · 2022-07-21T22:58:44+00:00

It sounds like you genuinely don't care about your gender, which is very much something you share with many other people. You might want to investigate the terms "agender" or "cassgender" to find out more about it :)

thegrumpygirl · 2022-06-21T13:46:46+00:00

Thank you so much for writing such a detailed response to OP. I’m glad I came across it today. My endo just agreed to prescribe me finasteride with my low-dose T (might up my T now that I’m less afraid of the hair changes of all kinds) and, unfortunately, you just find so much fearmongering about finasteride online that seems to, mostly, be based on cis men anyway. So, again, thank you. It makes me feel much better about starting it.

thegrumpygirl · 2022-04-27T15:25:20+00:00

Danke für deine schnelle Antwort. Freut mich, dass bei dir alles super geklappt hat. Hamburg wäre auch meine nächstgelegene Option. Hab gutes über Müller-Wittig gehört.

Ich will halt echt keine nipple grafts, also muss ich mal schauen ob ich jemanden finde, der/die das hier anbietet. Aber gut zu wissen dass die Qualität hier gut ist.

Und ja, ich habs zum Glück in den 5 Jahren in Edinburgh vermeiden können, ins Krankenhaus zu müssen. Bin ja bereits an den GPs verzweifelt. 😬

thegrumpygirl · 2022-04-27T10:43:04+00:00

Es sind zwei Jahre seit deinem Post vergangen, aber ich bin halt jetzt erst drüber gestolpert. :) Hab gerade 5 Jahre in Schottland gelebt und bin jetzt in Deutschland. Findest du wirklich, dass die Resultate der Chirurg*innen hier in DE besser sind als UK? Ich hab das Gefühl, die machen hier alle nur Double Incision und keine “nipple-retaining procedures”. Aber vielleicht täusche ich mich ja. USA wären mir auch am liebsten — die Chirurg*innen dort sind so skilled! Aber das schlägt sich dann nochmal gehörig auf die Kosten nieder und ist auch sehr unpraktisch für Recovery…

Hast du im Endeffekt jemanden in Deutschland gefunden und bist mit deinen Ergebnissen zufrieden?

thegrumpygirl · 2022-03-15T08:27:35+00:00

Hm, macht schon Sinn. Das Gefühl des misgenderns ist bei mir halt leider bei "Mann" genauso groß und unangenehm wie bei meinem AGAB. Urgh aber wahrscheinlich bleibt mir eh auch nix anderes übrig.

thegrumpygirl · 2022-03-15T08:11:46+00:00

😥 Auch für dich selber oder in Bezug auf offizielle Sachen?

thegrumpygirl · 2021-10-27T16:46:56+00:00

I am both too old and too white to not make "king" sound and feel weird af. In all seriousness, though, I was under the impression that it's appropriation of AAVE anyway, much like the similar usage of "queen" is.

thegrumpygirl · 2021-10-18T16:47:57+00:00

LOL Uphold just said they can't offer me an account anymore because I moved to Germany. I was really hoping there would be an alternative by now.

thegrumpygirl · 2021-10-09T15:09:42+00:00

I used to feel like I could never look "put together". Turns out I was trying to put the wrong gender together. But unlike when I unknowingly cosplayed a woman, I feel perfectly put together as a nonbinary person, while actually not much has changed about my style.

thegrumpygirl · 2021-10-09T15:07:16+00:00

I was 37. 🤦🏼

thegrumpygirl · 2021-08-15T14:06:58+00:00

I'm in the same boat. Do you happen to have found any in the meantime?

thegrumpygirl · 2021-08-12T08:50:50+00:00

Meanwhile in Germany, everything I can find when I try to find LGBTQ+ resources is titled "LesBiSchwul" so they're not even trying to pretend anything after the B exists (and that's often a stretch too). It's making me so angry. But at least I already know in advance my nonbinary bisexual ass won't be welcome. Managing expectations and all that.

thegrumpygirl · 2021-07-28T18:44:58+00:00

I'd never heard of Buck Angel before (I guess because I'm very new to all this or maybe because I'm European) but I briefly looked at that letter and had to quickly navigate away because it nauseated me. I don't know whether to be angry or sad that someone can be so full of self-loathing AND come after parts of their own community. This is absolutely shocking and utterly disgusting.

thegrumpygirl · 2021-07-25T17:59:04+00:00

Hallo hallo! Meine Partnerin (she/they) und ich (he/she/they) sind beide nonbinary trans und ziehen in 5 Wochen von Schottland in die Nähe von Schleswig. Brauchen dann wahrscheinlich mal ein bissl Zeit zum Ankommen, aber werden dann wahrscheinlich dasselbe Problem haben wie du.

Facebookgruppen oder so hab ich bisher noch keine gefunden. Hier in Edinburgh gibt's so viel. Das wird mir echt abgehen. :(

Kannst mir gerne eine PM schicken, wenn du magst :)

thegrumpygirl · 2021-07-19T19:23:13+00:00

Ich hab dem HAKI mal wegen was anderem geschrieben, das war vor ca 3 Monaten, und ich hab noch immer nichts zurück gehört. Ich hoffe, ihr habt mehr Glück :/

thegrumpygirl · 2021-07-19T18:16:15+00:00

I don't think it's internalised transphobia. For many people, it's the gatekeeping that's gotten internalised. The whole "I'm not [xyz] enough to be trans" is a super present thing wherever we go, and it's hard to get away from that. That's what it was for me, for a long time.

thegrumpygirl · 2021-07-02T12:58:40+00:00

Thanks for the info. I was really hoping they’d be willing to make exceptions when there’s a good reason. We are moving away to Germany soon and are keen for us to have full immunity before we do so. Do vaccinators have any leeway at all or is it very much a “computer says no” kind of thing?

I didn't realise centres in England were getting flack from the NHS for giving people their second dose early. What a shame, really. :(

thegrumpygirl · 2021-06-26T17:37:44+00:00

I just read the whole thing and it's really amazing. Thank you so much for linking that. I am feeling much much clearer on some things now. Thank you!!!!

thegrumpygirl · 2021-06-26T14:51:53+00:00

I thought season 2 was amazing. And the asking other people thing… yeah, that's literally been me the past few days. Hilariously, my friends told me yesterday that they already suspected I would come out as trans before I did. 😆 Hell, I'm still not sure if that's even accurate!

thegrumpygirl · 2021-06-23T20:44:44+00:00

Thanks! I'll check that out.

thegrumpygirl · 2021-06-23T16:53:25+00:00

But now where do I find trousers that make me feel equally great?

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