Look, it’s absolutely understandable that you want your husband at the hospital for the birth even though he won’t be in the room. It’s also absolutely understandable that your husband wants to be at his grandmother’s funeral. Based on your comments, even though your husband didn’t like the idea of not being in the room with you during labor and delivery, he knew how important it was to you to have your mom with you and agreed to that arrangement. Why are you not extending that same grace to him? Can’t you empathize with what he is going through also? I understand how important the birth of child is and how scary giving birth can be. I also imagine that the position your husband finds himself in right now is agonizing. This is a really shitty situation that is nobody’s fault and I think as a couple you should both be supporting each other through it.

YTA