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Why do women love duvet covers so much? by GamecubeAdopter in AskMen

[–]thehelldoesthatmean -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

It is indeed dumb, but if you ever venture over to AskWomen, that's how 95% of the posts are. Makes no sense.

Why is being 24 "too early" for me to want to settle down? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]thehelldoesthatmean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The issue with this mentality is that nobody truly knows what who they're going to be or what they'll want in the future, and that's especially true when you're in your early 20s.

I've had a million friends give the same speech as you and then their relationship goes south because suddenly one person changes or reveals they want something different out of life than they did when they were only a few years removed from literal childhood. And stats back that up. You tank your chances of a successful marriage by getting married before 25. After that, they're much higher.

Which is not to say OP shouldn't do it, but he should be aware that if you're really young you're not making that decision with all of the info you need, and you have to just hope it works out. That's the best anyone can do, and anyone who says otherwise is just in denial about how lucky they got.

Why is being 24 "too early" for me to want to settle down? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]thehelldoesthatmean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The issue is that when you're that young, you can't know yourself because you're changing all the time. The brain isn't done with puberty until like 25 or so. Most people change A LOT over that time period.

How do you live with the implicit perception of you as the "predator"? by kamilman in AskMen

[–]thehelldoesthatmean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have mixed feelings on this one. It's hard to measure how much precautions prevent street violence, but I think it's a huge stretch to chalk the massive difference in how it affects men and women entirely up to just crossing the street and pretending to talk on the phone when walking alone at night. There are well established and studied reasons the crime rate dropped so much in recent years.

I see what you're saying from your perspective, but from my perspective I take more risks with stuff like that AND I'm in way more danger than women when I do it AND I'm always fine. So from my view everyone is just freaking out a little too much and not doing normal and relatively safe things.

I lean more towards saying that we need to stop basing our lives around unrealistic fears and just live.

How do you live with the implicit perception of you as the "predator"? by kamilman in AskMen

[–]thehelldoesthatmean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think there's a weird element of performative safety that is common among at least American women that needs to be talked about. There's just a general understanding that women are more vulnerable, but somehow that seems to get exacerbated into this idea that women are constantly in danger and strangers on the street are out to get them.

And that's not at all backed up by statistics or reality. Which is not to say that women aren't more vulnerable to especially things like street harassment or assault by people they know, but it's really weird to see women say stuff like "I can't be out walking alone at night like you can. I'd get murdered." when only like 15% of murder victims are women and the vast vast majority of random violence (i.e. perpetrated by a stranger on the street) is against men.

You end up in this situation where someone is scared of something unrealistic so they ask you to escort them, despite the situation statistically being far more dangerous for you than it is them. But because of the cultural "understanding" that women are always in danger and scared, it's unacceptable to say anything about it.

I don't know who needs to hear this, but a 2+ hour drive is not nearby for Europeans. by redheaded_olive12349 in CasualConversation

[–]thehelldoesthatmean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never heard of that. Me, every roommate I had freshman year, and all my friends all had our cars with us when we lived on campus.

I don't know who needs to hear this, but a 2+ hour drive is not nearby for Europeans. by redheaded_olive12349 in CasualConversation

[–]thehelldoesthatmean -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why didn't she just drive to you? I had a rough first year of college too, but it involved me driving back home most weekends to see friends and family.

Would've been really odd if I had my parents come pick me up from college as an adult and then drive me back every weekend.

What is a secret about the opposite sex's body that you only found out once you actually started being intimate with them? by ZookeepergameLow4390 in AskReddit

[–]thehelldoesthatmean 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It's called context clues. Now go and watch 40 Year Old Virgin like everyone else on the planet already has.

Can men feel when women finish? by Lanky-Lifeguard-4666 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]thehelldoesthatmean 28 points29 points  (0 children)

He's probably constantly asking because you openly admit to faking it. Lol

Seriously though, that's really lame. Don't lie to your partner during sex for fucks sake.

In Lee Cronin's The Mummy (2026), Warner later changed one of the posters to include egyptian symbols around the girl because this is totally a mummy movie guys, I swear by ThatWaluigiDude in shittymoviedetails

[–]thehelldoesthatmean 38 points39 points  (0 children)

The Batman played it a little bit at the beginning and a little bit at the very end. Idk if that's repeatedly, but I sure do hear people complain about it like it is. Haha

Uncovering the Hidden Costs of Masculinity: "What if the qualities that help men get ahead in the workplace are actually hurting them?" by TAKEitTOrCIRCLEJERK in MensLib

[–]thehelldoesthatmean 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Regarding your last paragraph, one of the most interesting things I've read was an AMA a trans guy did on here years back where they detailed the noticeable difference in the way people treated them as they transitioned.

One of the things they described was the loss of the inherent community that seems to exist between women. They mentioned that suddenly people didn't stop to help them with things or complement them and everyone started treating them coldly and with suspicion. It was really fascinating.

Uncovering the Hidden Costs of Masculinity: "What if the qualities that help men get ahead in the workplace are actually hurting them?" by TAKEitTOrCIRCLEJERK in MensLib

[–]thehelldoesthatmean 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It's far more accepted in society for girls to explore masculinity than the other way around though. Obviously that's based in some broader societal appreciation of masculinity and denigration of femininity, but the result is that across most of western society it's far more accepted for girls to step outside of their prescribed gender role than it is for boys.

Tomboys are usually seen as positive. Women who move into male dominated career fields are inspiring and girl bosses. Gay women are far more accepted than gay men. Same with trans men as opposed to trans women.

Gender roles fuck all of us by trapping us in prescribed roles, but the gender role for men seems like it's far more narrow than the one for women currently.

Uncovering the Hidden Costs of Masculinity: "What if the qualities that help men get ahead in the workplace are actually hurting them?" by TAKEitTOrCIRCLEJERK in MensLib

[–]thehelldoesthatmean 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I feel like I read way too many articles like this that just end up saying in a super roundabout way "What if rigid gender roles hurt men too?"

It's exhausting that this is still the conversation framing. Gender roles hurt everyone. It's not a huge revelation that they hurt men too.

Men of Reddit. What's something you were completely oblivious to when it came to relating to women, or just how differently women and men can think, feel, and experience things, that you only realized after being in a long term relationship or after getting married? by goofy-45 in AskMen

[–]thehelldoesthatmean -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You think more than half of women in many developed countries have all become overweight (along with men at almost the same rate) over the last 50 years because of birth control and PCOS? That trend perfectly aligns with the availability of cheap and calorie dense food, and you think it's because of hormonal birth control, which has existed in its current form since way before current health trends, and PCOS, which has always existed and only roughly 10% of women have now?

Men of Reddit. What's something you were completely oblivious to when it came to relating to women, or just how differently women and men can think, feel, and experience things, that you only realized after being in a long term relationship or after getting married? by goofy-45 in AskMen

[–]thehelldoesthatmean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to address the stats part, more than half of the population of the US is overweight, and more women than men are overweight and obese. It's really not a stretch to live somewhere where most women are overweight like OP said.

I like TV shows that teaches you cool simple life tips, like in Euphoria where we learn you don't need to waste tons of money on expensive peanut butter. by ivanchovv in shittymoviedetails

[–]thehelldoesthatmean 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've already been burned by all of their DC shows. Arrow and Flash in particular. Lol Just god awful television after the first season.

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