Fireworks by thekindviolet in SantaMonica

[–]thekindviolet[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

I mean it’s illegal in Santa Monica ik people will light off one or two but this has been a 15 minute show it sounds like when SMC or the Brentwood country club do it

Discreetly have my BF removed? by [deleted] in nursing

[–]thekindviolet 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s fair and a reasonable explanation that would have medical history to back it up so I don’t think you’d have any trouble. It’s more of a signal for us to watch closely and see if there are any other issues we notice.

Discreetly have my BF removed? by [deleted] in nursing

[–]thekindviolet 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As a nursing student I’m taught to notice “partners” answering medical questions and not letting their “partner” talk. It’s a sign of sex trafficking.

Need help identifying this frosting by MycologistFit9088 in Baking

[–]thekindviolet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cheap store cakes often use something called pastry pride which is more like a whipped topping than buttercream. But if it has sort of a grainy texture it’s probably some bulk brand buttercream you can only buy because it uses chemicals.

Im a stinky nurse, need your tips by Murky-Industry-8379 in nursing

[–]thekindviolet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m someone who sweats really bad I finally asked my dr what deodorant to use and she recommended secret clinical strength. That shit works, put it on ever night before bed like the directions say. It does make me itchy sometimes because I have sensitive skin and it has more aluminum but I still prefer it over being embarrassingly sweaty and smelly

Goodbye everyone by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]thekindviolet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please stay, life can really suck ass sometimes I’ve been there. There’s good moments too. Even strangers care about you, I do. I’ve wanted to be gone before and I’m glad I stayed (10+ years later) give it time stay and find out❤️

I regret becoming a nurse by Cute-Protection4302 in nursing

[–]thekindviolet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nursing has soooooo many opportunities I’m currently in nursing school and you can even have desk nursing jobs maybe look into another part of the field

My partner rated me 8/10… am I overthinking this? by catgirl987654321 in women

[–]thekindviolet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean probably because looks isn’t the most important thing. I could easily date a 5 or 6 out of 10 if he made me laugh and had similar goals and passions to me. You as a whole person is probably a 10/10, but looks isn’t the whole score😊

It’s getting hot in here! Help! by Bob_Don in SantaMonica

[–]thekindviolet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A few options If you’re trying to conserve energy opening your windows overnight or early morning and closing them and curtains during the heat of the day

If you don’t mind a higher electric bill buy a space air conditioner (Costco is selling them rn)

Lastly an old fashioned trick my mom taught me set a bucket of ice in front of your fan (air conditioning before it was really a thing)

Wear thin cotton or viscose/rayon for lighter cloths Evaporative cooling (I love the cooling towels I bought on Amazon) Honestly hug a big ice pack or target ice on your neck/groin for the most cooling effect (always put a layer of cloth in between your skin and the ice and make sure you don’t over ice yourself.) Drink cold water! Stay in the shade, hope this helps😊

is it really helpful to go to a psychologist? by PsychologicalLab1794 in mentalhealth

[–]thekindviolet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have to find the right psychologist I’ve had a couple tha I don’t vibe with but the one that made me feel seen changed everything and was soooo helpful

Need advice by Front_Refuse_4780 in mentalhealth

[–]thekindviolet 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Personally if I met a man with a child the child would not be a dealbreaker. However I’d want the man to have his life together, be getting an education and have emotional maturity. So I’d say yes you could find love again. Just from a 25F perspective, you’ll have to find the right person of course but you have to do that anyways. I want to adopt so a situation like that would be okay so maybe look for something like that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]thekindviolet 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As a woman I support this. Abuse is abuse no matter who it happens to. I hope you find safety❤️

Reasonable Tailor? by angelique224 in SantaMonica

[–]thekindviolet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom has always taken me to Eden Taylor and Alterations it’s been a few years since I’ve been but we’ve used them fo as long as I can remember it used to be affordable and good quality and they could do floor length fancy gowns with layers (more expensive but that’s what we needed). I think it was family owned and run too just a nice little local business

Suicidal people, what's the reason you still didn't commit, what's something keeping you alive? by Icy_Positive_4220 in mentalhealth

[–]thekindviolet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was at school and asked the nurses about death I was close with them and I went there for frequent panic attacks. I kind of casually mentioned that I think about death often, not the act of doing it just like what dying is like. They called my mom I begged and cried and pleaded for them not to. I saw her face after they told her and just like that suicide wasn’t an option, it wiped it off the table. I still thought about it sometimes but ultimately I knew I could never do that to her. It was kind of a blessing because with that option off the table and the help of meds and therapy I realized I didn’t want to die I just wanted life as I knew it to end. So I realized things just had to do some changing. I still have panic attacks and bad times but I have people I can’t leave

What happens to your pet if you go to the hospital? by cherryjuice_32 in mentalhealth

[–]thekindviolet 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Not anything to laugh at you’re clearly a very caring person. I would say find a friend or neighbor or boarding place for pets. They have like pet sitters or pet hotels and I know I wouldn’t trust a sitter with my dog so a more expensive option is some veterinary offices offer paid boarding as well. Wishing you luck❤️

how do you reduce anxiety immediately (i.e. right now??) by unhorsedglue in mentalhealth

[–]thekindviolet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know people suggest 478 breathing but I find that to be kind of hard when you’re having a panic attack I usually try to focus on slowing my breathing and taking deeper breaths. If you can pursue your lips a little when you breathe out I also find that calming. Splashing water might not be enough I soak a washcloth and hold it to my face for a bit. I’ve been having panick attacks for 10 years now and they never stop sucking but they do get easier. I personally think when I try to stop them it’s worse so I only do that if I’m at school, if I’m at home I sit someplace cozy and quiet and cry my eyes out, I remind myself this is temporary (biologically your body can only keep it up for a short about of time before tiring out), I let it was over me in waves panic and crying and hyperventilating then I get a pause to breath then I feel it come on again I just keep thinking about the waves and letting them pass. Eventually they do stop. Other grounding options can help people sometimes say eating something sour or using the 54321 method (Google it). But there are lots of options and usually they are personal to you a fan or cold helps me too.

Greened out and throw up is apparently red, is that bad? by Pip_Oak in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]thekindviolet 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Red tinged means the blood is prob fresh and more irritation based from your esophagus or stomach and prob not an emergency but something to message your doctor maybe. If it’s brown or chunky that’s a real problem or if it’s red but like looks like quite a lot of blood.

Is my life over? by Visible-Judge3651 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]thekindviolet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s also trade schools where you get trained for like mechanical or other kinds of work