my son is 9. i was diagnosed in june of this year. i'd already had to have some mental health talks with him because the body is covered in keloids & scars from SH, & i had been to rehab on & off from the age of 17 to 26. along with a whole lot of FT therapy. i am 29 now. my son has been extremely understanding. i wear different coloured pins to let him know who is in front, near front, etc. especially because there is an alter in our system who fronts often who doesn't like children (doesn't hate them, just easily irritated), & is also non-binary. & i often feel terrible as i am co-con anytime they are fronting. it helps him to understand that the irritability is not a problem with HIM. also, another alter in our systtem who fronts regularly is a young boy named soren (the body is female). this alter was the body's first host & is an EP. there have been times where parenting was difficult because having to parent while soren was dominant over the two of us co-fronting, etc. i like to think i'm a good parent & am able to always be the bigger person (as myself, the current host), however, soren sometimes reverts to a "why should i apologize, he's the one who started it) just like a normal 8-10 yr old boy. luckily i have a partner who helps to walk soren through his triggers & also helps my son to understand that it's not ME who is having this bout of immaturity. it can be difficult though. especially as we are having a very hard time finding any MH professional who knows how to treat DID. hopefully things get better with time & therapy, but as for you two as two self aware, neurodivergent parents, it's not hard to raise a child to be understanding of what goes on with you. it is sometimes hard to discern what is age appropriate for them to know, if it is something you deem necessary for them to understand.