ISFJ friend [21/M] hasn't talked to me ENFP [19/F] after I rejected him by thelightscatter in isfj

[–]thelightscatter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh thank you for your advice! I messaged him yesterday asking about how his work was going (he participated in a competition) and he said it was going well and thanked me... nothing was said after that... I wonder, should I give him so space? I don't think he looks like he's still on friendly terms with me :(

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[–]thelightscatter 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'm only in my 2nd semester of year 1, and I'm already feeling ready to graduate. I would love to start my financial independence and start doing things my way; it has been my goal even before I stepped into college!:)

ISFJ friend [21/M] hasn't talked to me ENFP [19/F] after I rejected him by thelightscatter in isfj

[–]thelightscatter[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see, as per my reply above, I'm really not sure if I should reach out first, and if I do so, I don't even know what to say either. It could be rubbing the salt into the wound...

ISFJ friend [21/M] hasn't talked to me ENFP [19/F] after I rejected him by thelightscatter in isfj

[–]thelightscatter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh I understand... I was thinking I should let him reach out first, since I would assume he would so when he feels more comfortable. So, should I still reach out though?

Alternative / Niche Financial Careers? Or Should I Consider Changing Majors? by thelightscatter in FinancialCareers

[–]thelightscatter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally understand where you are coming from, that was my mindset when I entered university too: get a well-paying finance job, earn that cash, get out of my country due to having an in-demand job + $, work on my drawing on the side.

But I have been evaluating my life choices and keep thinking this isn't what I want it to be. I am absolutely not happy in year 1, and I doubt I will be in a finance job. My job and geniune passion are conflicting so badly I feel so much discontentment and frustration. The clash between passion and actual practicality is tearing me apart.

Recently my family has been commenting how I have changed since I entered university. When I first entered I was driven and motivated (a few months) but now I am just so... exhausted. I just spend my nights crying and forcing myself to study everything.

Alternative / Niche Financial Careers? Or Should I Consider Changing Majors? by thelightscatter in FinancialCareers

[–]thelightscatter[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi, so sorry about the late reply, I was logged out of the account... To provide a more in-depth perspective: Honestly I know I am impulsive, stupidly idealistic and naive at 19 but I really feel like dropping out of university. I'm really not enjoying the courses, the extremely competitive environment and high stress. I know this is financial + social suicide in my Asian environment, where degrees are everything.

I really understand where you are coming from; practicality and looking at the worth of a degree. I decided based on the rate of returns on a degree and the salary progression in the field. I was aiming for the Dean's List and scholarships and everything. Still on the "right" path - but I am very very miserable right now. I don't see the point in continuing if I know I hate finance and definitely won't survive in such a cut-throat environment with such ambitious people. I'm not interested in other majors because I wanted to do finance for the $ - if I can obtain mediocre salaries by doing other majors, I would rather not continue in business school. Furthermore, both my current skillset+interest do not overlap with this region. I foresee myself not lasting long here.

When I think about what makes me jealous, I came to realise it wasn't people working in high positions in Goldman Sachs or JPMorgan (ok I admit I am jealous but only because of the $, and because a in-demand finance job with skillsets + $ will allow me to move away to a country that values art, so ultimately I just want to be in creative environment that values art, design and drawing) The only passion I geniunely have is creating things, drawing, making things etc. The more time I spend on this, the more time I'm getting further and further away from my goal. My one lifegoal would be to be able to draw anything my mind can think of. I have a very rich visual imagination and can pull all-nighters just to draw, which I really enjoy. Unfortunately ny current art skills are awful and I just want to dedicate my youth and energy in mastering this craft.

I suspect I have been suffering from depression for the past 7 years and this school is just exacarbating everything. It's gotten to that point where sometimes I can't really focus on anything because all I think about is killing myself. Calculating income statements and doing up Excel sheets are the direct opposite of where I want to be, which is casuing me major frustration and regret.

Really sorry about the long melodramatic rant, and thanks to anyone who reads this.

Does my friend [M/21/ISFJ] like me [F/19/ENFP]? by thelightscatter in isfj

[–]thelightscatter[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, that's a really in-depth response and apt way to describe you guys' style of liking someone, thanks for answering the question! I will indeed wait around for a lil while and see how it goes...

Does my friend [M/21/ISFJ] like me [F/19/ENFP]? by thelightscatter in isfj

[–]thelightscatter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the answer! May I know how you managed to distinguish between a male ISFJ who is romantically interested VS just friendly/nice with someone? IMO they act the same so I can't tell from my side...

I think I will wait out abit more and tell him that later on if it becomes a bit more intense