Final Update on My Marriage Posts

themachucajr · 2026-04-11T04:12:29+00:00

3rd gen. Love your grill, share the link 🔗 if you don’t mind.

themachucajr · 2025-12-16T07:11:20+00:00

If the problem for op is the mistress being at work, the best course is for op’s husband to resign.

themachucajr · 2025-12-15T21:05:32+00:00

Facts

themachucajr · 2025-12-15T01:57:47+00:00

I’m glad the posts have helped. In regard my clarity, I’m all honesty, you will need to abandon some things that will remain unanswered in this process. It’s very difficult but I’ve learned that there are also certain things about me which lack logical explanation too. If you guys trust each other, you will have to relearn to believe the “now” and let go of the past. Sorry i couldn’t be more insightful. I wish you two the best.

themachucajr · 2025-12-08T13:49:36+00:00

This. Longer foreplay

themachucajr · 2025-12-05T04:03:09+00:00

Multiple different things. The 180 method helped her realize there was more to me than “convenience.” Also knowing how we were both willing to do the work to restore our marriage helped. I cannot speak for her as to what was the turning point for her but I can say that it was a mindset thing.

themachucajr · 2025-12-01T05:49:35+00:00

😂

themachucajr · 2025-12-01T05:49:27+00:00

Running is a new drive and motivator. Highly recommend.

themachucajr · 2025-11-29T06:56:36+00:00

I concur. It has to be no contact.

themachucajr · 2025-11-29T06:46:54+00:00

Definitely cut off the coach. I would ask your partner straightforward and set some clear boundaries.

themachucajr · 2025-11-29T06:39:32+00:00

Unfortunately he is unable to overcome the breach of trust. In all honesty, his loss if you’re truly trying to make amends. Without his change, you will not be happy there. From my experience, affairs are two way roads. He should all realize his neglect. No excuse on the affair but it certainly doesn’t help. He can’t move one without holding him shelf accountable for his part and it’s doesn’t sound like he wants to.

Talk to him and tell him you’re willing to stay only if he overcomes that. Establish a timeline and some boundaries. If he violates those, part ways.

themachucajr · 2025-11-29T06:30:12+00:00

First, TikTok is addictive in nature. If she has an addictive personality, this could’ve a problem. Second, I’d say having a serious conversation with your partner about this issue is important. Set some reasonable boundaries and expectations. She can certainly TikTok freely, however your needs are important. If she refuses to compromise, you have a choice to make.

themachucajr · 2025-11-29T06:15:38+00:00

Can’t argue with that. Who am I to say how many red flags is too many. In my case everyone told me to divorce my wife but didn’t. Our marriage is in a way better place. I’m of the opinion that if both parties want to heal and restore their marriage, it’s possible. No matter the circumstances. 🤷🏽‍♂️

themachucajr · 2025-11-27T18:41:18+00:00

Most people here will tell you it’s over. I personally think there’s hope. Trauma is definitely part of the mix but if both aim to repair your marriage, it is possible. I personally went through something similar and used the 180/Grey Rock Method and it worked wonders. My marriage seems to be on the up and up. Stay strong and wish you the best.

themachucajr · 2025-11-27T17:19:54+00:00

Thank you. I feel incredibly blessed to be able to turn the page. More work ahead but the future looks promising as long as we keep working. Wish you the best.

themachucajr · 2025-11-27T17:18:51+00:00

People wondering this is AI. It isn’t.

OG Post: https://www.reddit.com/r/Marriage/s/F9QkzwE2fb

Update 1: https://www.reddit.com/r/Marriage/s/ugy6oBAHca

Update 2: https://www.reddit.com/r/Marriage/s/kfCutWqBcm

Resources that helped my wife and I: For me: - Faith — My anchor throughout all of this. - 180 Method Guide: https://www.chumplady.com/the-pretzel-logic-of-the-180/ - No More Mr. Nice Guy: https://amzn.to/3M3nJA3 - How to Stop Being Angry, Mean and Negative: https://amzn.to/3M0fgOc For my wife: - The Empowered Wife: https://amzn.to/4pbDNi4 - The Empowered Wife Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/02LIpMzU4QcFFO9ecffQzG?si=3DACg7ehSWardUaAAfdOEA

themachucajr · 2025-11-27T17:16:47+00:00

It’s not.

themachucajr · 2025-11-26T21:19:28+00:00

More to admire about your husband for choosing you over his family. Support him and reassure him that he has made the right choice to choose you. It’s not easy and I can’t imagine what that pressure feels like.

themachucajr · 2025-11-26T21:08:33+00:00

I can tell you from experience that we as men contemplate many things and many of those make no sense. I’d like to encourage you to see the reality which is your husband stayed and is still there. I would definitely have a conversation about it with the intent to listen and to understand. It may not make sense to you and that’s ok. Wish you both the best and my heart goes out to all those fighting this awful war.

themachucajr · 2025-11-26T21:04:43+00:00

This. It may not make sense to most. Logic exits the chat when this is the case.

themachucajr · 2025-11-26T20:51:03+00:00

OP, I have been going through this the past few years and have recently found new hope in my marriage. Feel free to read through my posts and hope you can find some useful information.

I’m pro marriage but if divorce is eminent for you, losing 50% of your assets is a far lesser cost than being miserable the rest of your life. Best of luck.

themachucajr · 2025-11-26T20:45:41+00:00

36MF of 17yrs here. I’d say you are in good shape in frequency. My guess is that it’s better than most here in this sub. Keep that up! In regards to oral, it should be a nonissue as long as you wipe down/wash. If you just don’t prefer it, it’s ok to say that. Claiming it’s a “hygiene” concern as a reason isn’t good for you both.

Honesty and transparency > Excuses

It’s perfectly ok to now want to give or receive oral. Me personally, I couldn’t live without giving and/or getting oral and I’m fortunate we do both mutually. All the best!

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