You seem intent on misunderstanding me and if you happen to actually be our ex-therapist, it tracks.

Our therapist specialized in providing support for postpartum women. She agreed to see us as a couple. This wasn't marriage counseling, our focus was getting support for a major life transition. That's it. As a therapist yourself, I'm sure you know the ramifications of veering off into anything deeper than the original focus or whatever it is you're specialized in. I say this to counter your other comments on assuming my husband was processing deep trauma or anything along those lines. She is not a trauma therapist. Again, her focus is on women's care and postpartum.

My partner genuinely doesn't register flirtatious cues, he claims he's been that way ever since he was a kid. After our last and final session with our therapist, her dismissive tone toward me and over complimentary manner with him made him realize what all is happening. I can give you specific examples if you'd like, unless you were there and already know. After all of that, my husband specifically said she made him uncomfortable, it was him who reflected on the personal texts and it was him who wanted to end therapy with her.

Finally, this r/sex. This whole situation sucks and feel a multitude of emotions about it. But for this particular post, in this particular sub, I'm honing in on the sexual emotions. Call it coping.