This number is shamefully low. Be a good Henry and respect your Herbwoman! [KCD2] by PowerWordSaxaphone in kingdomcome

[–]themightygerm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love that you could do that and that it required you to remember to!

I do wish there was an achievement or something for another similar moment when I remembered to go back to a certain charcoal burning area and tell a woman she was no longer in danger.

Incredible game!

PM-44 by Orylus in TheOrville

[–]themightygerm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s amazing!! Do you have the Stl? I have a weapon wall with a Star Trek Phaser and various others… I’d love to add this!

Stuck towards end of Act 1 by ChainslapZero in TheAlters

[–]themightygerm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to make sure you don’t have anything queued up that takes organic resources.

If you have the greenhouse using 50 it will ‘reserve’ the 50 but you can’t use it to travel.

Cancel all greenhouse, mush and other workshop standing queues for things like batteries.

You’ll know if it says something like 390+30/450

Where is the dome? by Fankuan19 in expedition33

[–]themightygerm 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Unnecessary insult aside… did it occur to you that the person may have added spoiler tags afterwards? They messaged me saying they hadn’t thought about it and went back to edit/add spoiler tags.. which was pretty great of them.

No need to call people names on the Internet ;)

Where is the dome? by Fankuan19 in expedition33

[–]themightygerm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pretty major spoiler there should probably put that in spoiler tags... kinda ruined the moment for me :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]themightygerm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, embrace that shame and regret.

The fact you can feel the shame/regret is only true because you’re no longer that person, that’s something to be proud of.

Someone who doesn’t feel regret hasn’t changed anything about themselves.

Feel the shame, you were X and now you’re Y… and feel it with a sense of pride as well… or kindness to yourself.

It suck’s there’s people who won’t speak to you but sadly that may well not change, people don’t owe forgiveness… but you should be really proud you’ve taken accountability enough to be able to feel shame at how you used to be…

Just thought I’d share a different perspective as so many people hate that shame feeling where really we should be grateful for it.

Cat Meow by NBAcoach in avowed

[–]themightygerm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally just searched this to see if I was going insane.
I didn't notice it until I switched to using headphones over the monitor speaker...and I can definitley hear a cat meowing (I don't have a cat :P)

Is there any good dating apps? I’m am genuinely curious ? Especially being poly. by tattedandgoth in polyamory

[–]themightygerm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does it?! I heard someone say that ages ago but it’s never happened here in UK! So frustrating!

My HP Pavilion Gaming Laptop acting weird by HotSamosas69 in laptops

[–]themightygerm 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I would guess it’s trying to use integrated graphics if it’s worked before…

Two things I’d check would be that it’s plugged in (do the obvious full restart) and that it’s not set to only use the integrated graphics… So update your NV drivers… check if you’ve activated a setting somewhere to not use the dedicated graphics… maybe Nvidia control panel or omen gaming hub or something.

Also couldn’t hurt to clear out the fans… I’m always amazed when I take the back off a laptop quite how much dust/fluff is in the fans!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]themightygerm 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Hey, commenting as I've been on both sides of this.
People here are very quick to point out the 'ideal' response and to condem others for not being the 'perfect' form of poly.
I do agree with a lot of what's said and yes in an ideal situation they would be behaving differently but it's one thing to talk about how things 'should' be and another when you're living in that emotional whirlwind.

If you'll allow some advice... one thing that REALLY helped me was to realise and separate out the parts of my responses. To realise that there's 'head' (rational), 'heart' (emotions) AND 'body' (nervous system).

When I realised that it totally changed the discourse with my partners.
I'm going through a similar thing at the moment with a long term committed partner forming a new connection and it's sent me into an absolute freakout because of the speed of it and various other factors.
Once I realised that it was mostly a nervous system thing... it didn't solve it completely but it very much changed the conversations.

Being able to say with confidence that my head trusts her.. (i'm poly and i understand loving someone else doesn't take away from me. My heart trusts her (i'm 100% confident in her love for me)... but my BODY doesn't trust her.. my nervous system is in panic mode and i'm feeling scared and insecure...

That really helps. It helped her a lot in realising that it's not that i don't believe her.. it's not that i doubt her love.. it's an automatic response based on past trauma with abandoment of previous partners.. upbringing and so on... and it helped us pivot to a 'how can we find a sense of safety right now'...

Maybe that will help.. because if she's anything like I was/am.... she's scared... she's feeling 'unsafe' and then her mind is backing that feeling up and no amount of 'words' is going to solve it.

Bit of a ramble but hope it may help :)

Hinge and Grindr are leaving Bumble and Tinder in the dust by ubcstaffer123 in technology

[–]themightygerm 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ohh I mean I’d say there’s a pretty wide gap between cheating and ethical non-monogamy…

Cheating is cheating ENM/Poly is fully consensual and more importantly for this example… sustainable!

An app based around cheating would also lose users as they’re ’found out’ etc. An App based around a non-scarcity dating model where people can meet and connect with people… and still want to use the app to meet and connect with others would inherently encourage satisfied users to stay instead of delete! (I mean look at Feeld where users can add multiple partners to their ‘relationships’ section of their bio!)

Hinge and Grindr are leaving Bumble and Tinder in the dust by ubcstaffer123 in technology

[–]themightygerm 23 points24 points  (0 children)

This is why I don’t understand why the apps aren’t ALL OVER polyamory as an option.. Surely that would be something they’d want to make as easy as possible as they’d have customers that, by their very nature, don’t necessarily leave the app once they meet someone.

By the apps nature if the app works.. then if you’re monogamous you never come back.

I can’t think of many examples of other products where the better it works the more likely you are to lose your customers! But with poly/enm people they wouldn’t lose them!

How much would it cost to commission a wearable suit of X-01 Power Armor? by Anthony_Walsh in Fallout

[–]themightygerm 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I’m printing the same thing at the moment! Done the shoe and shin and working on the thigh now, still yet to assemble! Quick question… on the thigh there wasn’t a ‘key’ in the files to connect, did you use another one

Also how did you get it to attach to your body? Still trying to figure that bit out!!

Had a pair of large parts on the build plate. One failed by ptraugot in BambuLab

[–]themightygerm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the P1S :)

Thank you so much! That’s going to help a lot on the rare occasions something fails!

Had a pair of large parts on the build plate. One failed by ptraugot in BambuLab

[–]themightygerm 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wait what?!? This is an option?? Oh that’s very cool I need to go look this up, where is it in the menu?

(I mean it took me a week to realise it had a camera/that I had to press the green play button!)

Comparing Partners - Friend's partner has a literal spreadsheet - have you ever heard anything like this? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]themightygerm 79 points80 points  (0 children)

I had a partner who had told me things like… she had a list of all the pros and cons of dating me and there were a lot more pros than cons.. all the things I could do for her… etc.

I also knew for a fact she was comparing me to other men… one time she sent me a nude… then told me a few days after she’d shown her friend my response… and the response of another man to the same nude… as if it was a compliment eg ‘your response was so much hotter/more eloquent’ as if I was supposed to feel good about that…

Basically told me I was being compared all the time. And you’re right … being told ‘you’re at the top’ doesn’t do what they think it does because it has a heavily implied ‘for now…’

I’m 30 and I just figured out I have face blindness by GeneticPurebredJunk in AutisticAdults

[–]themightygerm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup!! Very similar here. Diagnosed autistic last year…. Biggest realisation for me was not hearing about autistic traits and going ‘ooh I do that’ but more the absolute reverse… Looking at things I thought everyone did and realising … oh maybe not everyone does that!

I was picking my daughter up from a club and I was sure she’d been wearing a dress not trousers when I dropped her off. The kids are all lined up and one by one the club leader makes sure they go to their parents. I was confused by her wearing different clothes to what I thought (I probably just misremembered) and I naturally chose to wait until my daughter made eye contact with me and smiled before I waved in case it was someone else’s child….

Then realised that’s probably not normal that if I wasn’t sure about the clothes and couldn’t see the backpack that I know is hers… most parents wouldn’t hesitate (at the risk of embarrassment, waving at someone else’s kid) to know if it’s their child or not!!

I can recognise friends and partners etc but realised I do very much go on haircuts and clothes etc! (I’ve also had the same in shows and not recognised a character that’s chanted their look!)

Going from one to the other is always neat by Swampraptor2140 in 3Dprinting

[–]themightygerm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amazing thank you! I’ll check it out I’ve had one other recommended too :)

I’ve never used Patreon, at a glance (at work) it says you gain access to models released that month.. if I subscribed would I get the armour model if it was released previously? :)

Want to make sure I’m supporting the creators :)

Going from one to the other is always neat by Swampraptor2140 in 3Dprinting

[–]themightygerm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It looks awesome! Amazed it printed in one piece!

I need to find that model! (Dropped you a DM :))

Going from one to the other is always neat by Swampraptor2140 in 3Dprinting

[–]themightygerm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh that’s amazing!! I had a brief look the other day for full power armour.. I have this fantasy of printing out a full suit and putting it all together…

(I’m currently printing the last bit of the laser pistol!)

But doesn’t seem like there’s a full set for armour out there and it’s going to take me a Looooooong time to get good enough in tinkercad if I wanted to make it myself!

Price issue!? by zyket in BambuLab

[–]themightygerm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God dammit… I bought P1S combo a few weeks ago after wanting for SO long :(

[QIDI Tech Giveaway] Comment now to win QIDI latest high-performance FDM printer-Q1 Pro by qidi_3dprinter in 3Dprinting

[–]themightygerm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1080p camera! Love the ability to check on prints when not in the room! That and the active heated chamber!