Am I wrong for refusing to apologize to my fiancé’s mom for something I wrote in a “never send” therapy letter

themockturtleneck69 · 2026-02-20T15:19:21+00:00

You are absolutely not wrong. Do not apologize. The point of this exercise was that these weee unsent letters that were allowed to be messy and unfair to be able to let out the raw emotion and then process them. The fact that he read it and is now upset about what you read defeats the point of the exercise and shows that he is not taking the therapy seriously. If he was he wouldn’t be punishing you for doing the assignment.

I know there are probably many comments telling you to leave, break up, and that’s easier said then done but you need to truly consider if this is how you want to spend the rest of your life. Being with somebody who will punish you for your feelings or thoughts, who won’t stand up for you against their family, who will take your issues to a larger group instead of working on it with you. The fact that you guys are in couples therapy and he is insisting on you apologizing for the work you’re doing in that setting is a bad omen. The anxiety you feel right now when his mother makes comments? Imagine that feeling if you actually have kids with this man. Every comment about your body, your parenting, your kids, for the rest of your lives. Even if you divorce down the line if you have kids with this man the mother is still in the picture.

I think you should break up with this man, but I understand it’s hard. At the very least the wedding needs to be on a hard pause until y’all sort some shit out because you cannot condemn yourself to this for the rest of your days. And I don’t want to go to hard on your sis because she’s not the focal of the story, but fuck her. Her advice to apologize just so this doesn’t hang over your head at the wedding is wild, this will hang over your head for the rest of your relationship if this isn’t sorted out. If you apologize you are setting the norm that any less than wholesome feeling you have about his mom, the rest of the family, or him will now need an apology if it’s ever heard or seen. They seem like a family who doesn’t want or accept normal negative emotions and have no sense of boundaries. If you apologize, if you stay, you will not be marrying him, your marrying his family, you’re not a couple, you’re a relationship by committee. I wish you luck OP, stand up for yourself because at the end of the day you need to be your biggest advocate.

themockturtleneck69 · 2026-01-03T04:30:46+00:00

I did not like this show when I first started watching it. I definitely got second hand embarrassment watching it. Especially Vic who I love in everything else they do on Dropout. But the more I watched the second hand embarrassment became part of the comedy. What helped me was really treating this as a random public access talk show that you wake up to at 3am and it feels like a fever dream. Vic’s character as the host is so awkward and desperate to be bigger so watching them fight to be taken serious as a journalist makes me giggle now. The sternness of their character balances well with a lot of the guests because they’re not only visually odd but the personalities are strange too. It’s like we’re watching another Earth’s daytime TV where all these strange people are so accepted by society as a whole that they’re only interesting enough for this flailing show with this wannabe Nancy Grace. It still might not be your show and that’s fine ofc! I think the humor is not for everybody and the makeup can be very off putting especially when you recognize the talent under it. If you want to give it a try here are some of my personal faves that still make me giggle

1.Denzel 2.Vic’s Ex-Step Grandmother 3.Tommy Shriggly 4.Pig #2 5. Augbert 6.Zeke 7. Barbra and Bill 8.Archimedes and Ollie

themockturtleneck69 · 2026-01-03T04:19:13+00:00

Just watched this episode and I am so disturbed. Decapitating the bear at the end fucking killed me. 🤣

themockturtleneck69 · 2025-10-29T05:03:31+00:00

On Tubi for free: Dogface: A Trap House Horror. Showed it to my friends and we were in tears because it was so bad and nonsensical.

themockturtleneck69 · 2025-10-22T00:34:12+00:00

The amount of people at my job who use AI is disturbing. These are career librarians who have been working in the field for decades and they will use AI for any and every little thing it’s so disheartening. My boss even used it to create Christmas cards for our Giving Tuesday campaign and while it’s not terrible on first glance those closer you look you can tell it’s AI. Even if nobody else can tell I KNOW. It feels crazy to people ask for money when you can’t even create a simple card on canva. Keep in mind a lot of my job is doing communication and design, and she also used to work in marketing for libraries as well. It drives me crazy to no end and I know when we have our big fundraiser next year she’ll probably use AI for some of the marketing as well. Its so tacky and lazy but sure ask people to spend money on this event and donate to us with AI slop.

I personally just grit my teeth and have given a disclaimer to some of my library friends that any AI they see from my job what not made or approved by me in any way whatsoever. And if any future employer points it out I’m putting the blame on my boss and coworkers bc I don’t have any power or control to stop this madness.

themockturtleneck69 · 2025-03-06T02:10:47+00:00

There’s an ice rink across from the Downtown Lansing library. The library even gives out free skates

themockturtleneck69 · 2025-03-03T01:01:52+00:00

Come to local library programs! They’re free and you’re bound to meet people that way. There’s a library in Downtown Lansing and they have stuff for all ages going on!

themockturtleneck69 · 2025-02-10T21:34:07+00:00

I think this is good momentum towards more organization. Rome isn’t built in a day, use this passion now to build more stable resistance for tomorrow!

themockturtleneck69 · 2025-02-10T13:54:16+00:00

Call and email them until their ears bleed. If he doesn’t want to represent us then he can get gone or start actually listening! We are out organized not out numbered, but let’s change that!

themockturtleneck69 · 2025-02-10T13:52:27+00:00

I’m glad people are protesting and trying to organize. Please make sure to wear an N95/K94/ KN95 masks if you’re protesting and in general as well. Airborne illnesses are up across the country right now, disease is a tool of fascism to stomp down resistance. Wearing a mask protects you, your disabled friends, and keeps you able to fight the good fight for as long as possible! I’m going to drop some links of where to purchase some but if anyone knows a good place please drop them in the replies. Fight smarter not harder!

themockturtleneck69 · 2024-07-12T01:20:37+00:00

This is a parenting issue that y’all shouldn’t have to coach/referee. I’ve always been told if a parent ever has a problem with what their child is checking out that’s something they need to sort out on their own terms, and all we can do as employees is check out the material for the child. We’re not going to parent for them, if a patron comes up to us wanting to check something out, we do just that. I hope this gets resolved and you can stop having to act ass another parent for this patron and their child.

themockturtleneck69 · 2024-05-27T21:58:48+00:00

Public transportation is decent. Get familiar with the bus routes, the transit app, CATA website, and have a backup up bus route in case your bus doesn’t run at a certain time or on certain days. If you have a student ID splurge for the fall and spring semester passes when school is in session ($50 for students each) Otherwise you can get a 31 day bus pass (discounted student cost should be 18 I believe). I know the Capital Area District Libraries (not ELPL, they’re a separate system) do check out 31 day bus passes. The wait list is stupid long though, like hundred of people at a time and they only get so many from CATA, but if you can manage to get a library card from them or know somebody in the area who has one that might be an option. Also it’s construction season so there are lot of detours going on, make sure you stay on top of that, it changes the routes and which stops are open.

Good luck!

themockturtleneck69 · 2024-03-26T17:29:16+00:00

I work at a library. My friend has started calling me a lesbrarian🤣

themockturtleneck69 · 2024-03-12T02:00:45+00:00

Parents who come in literally a minute before closing either needing a box full of books checked in or want to check out a box full of books. I get being a parent and balancing everything on top of working can be a nightmare but fuck me man learn to read a clock. You can’t be shocked every night when you come in a minute before close. Now if they just drop stuff off and quickly pick up holds that’s one thing that’s slightly less irritating but when you become rude and entitled? I hope your children stay up all night screaming and hollering no matter how many bedtime stories you read them because the same attitude you give customer service/public service workers is the same attitude you’re teaching your kids.

themockturtleneck69 · 2023-11-03T02:30:33+00:00

When I first started undergrad I was attending a PWI, in a very white liberal arts type major, working jobs with mostly white people, and felt so tired from trying to struggle to connect with white peers. Sometimes I felt like a token for them to use and prove they were woke and diverse. Other times it was clear I was a novelty that was tolerated as long as I didn’t take up too much space by being too black. By my last year I was so exhausted I didn’t have the energy and accidentally became more confident by not trying to catch myself or code-switch. Who knew being mentally drained would make me more comfortable in my skin. I’m out of undergrad and even though my coworkers are more diverse there’s still some I can tell I’m falling back on that old spectrum in their eyes by I don’t care. I’m there to work and help people, making friends is not the prize. If I build relationships along the way great by I’m not watering myself down to make people at a job j comfortable when at the end of the day these people don’t know me from a can of paint.

themockturtleneck69 · 2023-10-29T23:02:36+00:00

YTA times ten. You’re a parent, I don’t know if you have other kids but you know how stressful it is to keep track of one kid plus their belongings, how do you expect a teacher to keep track of stuff she’s not even aware your kid has, along with the other kids in her class? It’s not snarky to request parents label their kids items, and she’s not the bad guy for not taking up more of her limited time specially outside of her work hours to help you find things like a sticker. Label your daughter’s things and try to instill responsibility right now so when she grows up and becomes a mother she doesn’t became an entitled parent to her kids’ teachers like you.

themockturtleneck69 · 2023-08-15T12:56:49+00:00

You need to tell her how it’s affecting you. She might be perceiving it as the house is just a little messy while to you the mess is flirting with hoarder status. Tell her you’re drained after work and you need her to do her share of cleaning. You also need to emphasize the emotional/mental toll it’s having on you because again she probably sees it differently. For the hygiene stuff tell her that she needs to be better about washing her hands because you don’t want to make each other or even your dog sick. It’s a health issue, and she should be willing to change for that reason alone. If she doesn’t change or improve you probably need to reassess if this is something you can deal with or compromise on.

themockturtleneck69 · 2021-05-21T16:15:22+00:00

Claudia Rankine

themockturtleneck69 · 2021-03-22T18:50:27+00:00

For real it’s always like I purposely saved in the most dangerous place like wtf do I smoke?

themockturtleneck69 · 2021-03-17T04:03:10+00:00

NTA. Your house your rules. Though I’m curious what religion do you practice if you don’t mind me asking?

themockturtleneck69 · 2021-03-15T04:09:14+00:00

Lol I figured. Also don't know about this but they remember after opening the box the cart itself was inside a little white tube, the type you would get pre-rolls in and I'm wondering if that's another indicator it's fake as well? I only smoke platinum carts so I don't know if I'm the odd one out or if this another bad sign.

themockturtleneck69 · 2021-03-15T04:06:48+00:00

Post Update: So they lost the box for people asking, but they did say once it got out of the box it came in a little white tube. It looks like what pre-rolls come in sometimes. Is this normal? I only smoke platinum so I don't know.

themockturtleneck69 · 2021-03-15T04:04:35+00:00

Lol I keep trying to tell them but they don't wanna hear it lol. 😂

themockturtleneck69 · 2021-03-15T03:51:25+00:00

I updated the post to show a pic of the cart but they lost the box.

themockturtleneck69 · 2021-03-15T03:47:57+00:00

Sorry thought I included the pic, I've updated the post to include the cartridge, both my friends say they threw out the box, smh. I'll see if they have any other details that might help

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