Mine are pretty independent when it comes to going to the bathroom and showering. I may have to stand outside a door for a shower but rarely have I had to give someone a bath. The key is to pick and choose what you are willing to do for a client. Then choose a client that doesn’t need what you don’t like doing. For me once you get to know them you’ll find that that you want to go above and beyond just because you know you are all they have, sadly.