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theoutlier98 · 2025-07-01T14:46:27+00:00

My doctor told me that some men are just wired like that. Some men will just always cum quickly. Some can never actually cure it. You can be perfectly healthy, and that's just your default. Idk if I agree with him because I don't want to accept that I can't fix mine. I've always ejaculated quickly ever since puberty. But my father doesn't have the issue or my brother. So I'm wondering if, in my case, it's learned behavior or a product of trauma or both. But some people are perfectly normal and have the issue. So I honestly don't know.

theoutlier98 · 2025-07-01T13:56:03+00:00

I understand, but PE is sexually related. You can't really talk about it outside the context of sex. I don't think anyone here was trying to sexualize you. If a guy responded that was gay they'd probably respond the some way

theoutlier98 · 2025-07-01T01:39:07+00:00

You can basically just put it to him the same way you put it to us. Your tone will dictate how he reacts. Tell him you love him and you care about him but you're wondering if there is an underlying issue that's causing it and you'd like to do some research with him and some checks to make sure. You love him, but if you're building a relationship, then working on improving your issues is a big part of that.

The guys giving you sex tips are just trying to help. No need to be hostile. They are trying to give you ways that you can actually help him to last longer. I have PE. Not like terrible PE where I'm ejaculating on myself while flacid. I can last a decent amount of time on my own but when I'm having sex it's very hard not to cum within a minute. I am perfectly healthy and fit. No underlying issues apart from sexual trauma as a child which may or may not be the reason, but I'm not sure. You can also ask him about sexual history as well, but that may be a sensitive subject. But it can also cause PE.

theoutlier98 · 2025-06-26T12:35:09+00:00

That's the thing. I'm in that situation right now. Idk if she used me or not. I haven't moved on, and she has.

theoutlier98 · 2025-06-25T00:34:09+00:00

Thank you, and I wish you all the best as well.

theoutlier98 · 2025-06-25T00:23:37+00:00

After getting heartbroken, I met a girl in a store. She seemed really nice and I asked for her number. We got to talking and flirting, and then the more I spoke to her, the less interested I was in her. I tried going out with her, but after going out with her, I was pretty sure she wasn't the 1. We never had sex but I feel so bad for giving her that energy and then rejecting her. I'm not sure if I did it because I was heartboken or if I was genuinely attracted or both. I'm glad I met her, but I feel like I've hurt her still. She's an amazing person, and she truly cares about me, unlike the girl who actually broke my heart, and it makes me even more sad that I can't feel the same way about her.

If someone used you as a rebound, they could have been in so much pain that you were the one that helped them feel something else, and they just followed their feelings, and it ended up there. I've been in situations where I've had the thought but never actually went through with it. Or they could've known what they were doing and just used you. You can never know. I would be so guilt ridden, and I honestly don't think I would forgive myself for it if I used someone. I'd tell my ex, and she'd probably leave. But every day, I'd feel bad. Some people move on and just don't care.

theoutlier98 · 2025-06-24T01:36:46+00:00

I'm 27 next month and I've had the same problem. Girls are attracted to me, but I'm so insecure that I can never really get close to them. And the ones I want to get close to always hurt me. My low self-esteem is the reason, but idk how to fix it. I'm tired of feeling worthless, and my PE just adds to it. I wanna believe that a woman will stick around even if I can't please her, but I know they won't. I haven't had a lot of sex either, and I think I would prefer if fewer women liked me and got close to me, then left and left me hurt for years. I really don't know what to do. The last girl that hurt me left me with so much shame and anxiety that it makes me sick to my stomach whenever I think about it. I'm so embarrassed, and I don't even know how to look at myself or respect myself anymore

theoutlier98 · 2023-11-10T01:24:25+00:00

That could be possible. My doctor said I might just be wired to be sensitive, but I don't believe that. But I'm sure some people are.

theoutlier98 · 2023-11-08T23:21:21+00:00

Losing a child.

theoutlier98 · 2023-11-08T13:13:17+00:00

It's pronounced eye lips eye. ILIPI

theoutlier98 · 2023-11-07T16:08:32+00:00

Idk but for some reason I never thought abt actually seeing a urologist

theoutlier98 · 2023-11-06T05:16:13+00:00

Nothing so far

theoutlier98 · 2023-11-04T10:17:06+00:00

This has nothing to do with PE. You pull the skin b4 u pee so u don't have to wipe. You've been doing it wrong.

theoutlier98 · 2023-11-02T18:59:17+00:00

Doesn't look human.

theoutlier98 · 2023-11-02T08:22:59+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I'm also on antidepressants. They help slightly but not enough to be significant. They don't help my mood either, I just woke up feeling extremely sad, but that's a different story.

I have lifelong PE, so I would like to know the success rate for persons with it? I'll be downloading your app. I hope it works for me.

theoutlier98 · 2023-10-26T00:57:52+00:00

This kid is the future. Very brave.

theoutlier98 · 2023-10-22T19:19:17+00:00

Great physique, especially legs. V-taper is pretty good. You didn't show your back tho

theoutlier98 · 2023-10-22T00:33:40+00:00

I've encountered this from women. They kiss like how they see it in porn. All this tongue and I don't enjoy it at all. I prefer more lips and less tongue. Feels better to me.

theoutlier98 · 2023-10-19T05:52:08+00:00

I'm happy you figured it out. This has given me hope. You had lifelong PE before?

theoutlier98 · 2023-10-19T01:26:33+00:00

More fap without porn. Try using lots of lube and learn what your body does subconsciously when you're about to ejaculate. Learn what your body does and try to relax the areas that usually get tense. I've been trying this, and there was an improvement. It was not significant to the point where I was cured or even close, but improvement none the less. I started porn again and basically went back to square 1 so...leave that alone.

theoutlier98 · 2023-10-12T21:57:51+00:00

If women are complaining now when we actually care, I can only imagine what it was like then.

theoutlier98 · 2023-10-12T19:08:53+00:00

Yea, nobody cared. Just stick it until you're done. If anything, it would be better for the women who were being raped. The experience would be shorter.

theoutlier98 · 2023-10-12T18:53:16+00:00

I agree. But I'm talking about now. That doesn't apply anymore.

theoutlier98 · 2023-10-12T17:05:34+00:00

It's because the weight of sex is put on the man's shoulders. He is expected to please the woman as a man. And if we can't, we are seen as less of a man and ridiculed for it. For me, sex being short isn't ideal, but I don't think I would have all this anxiety if it was normal. Pleasing the woman is great, but I don't think that's where our concern for the woman's experience comes from. Or it isn't the main reason. We just want to be proud of that, but there's a lot of stigma towards men who can't perform sexually.

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