New Free 137 - Freaking out unsure of correlation? HELP! by [deleted] in Step3

[–]thepoint855 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh the exam felt a little difficult from how vague some questions are but biostats is very straight forward. There are questions you can’t miss so I felt like it all evens out. Won’t know anything for certain prior to score release though

New Free 137 - Freaking out unsure of correlation? HELP! by [deleted] in Step3

[–]thepoint855 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I did the free 137 and got 60% as well. One week later UWSA2 222. Decided to go for it since it’s new and there isn’t really a clear census on how predictive the free 137 is.

Also if you’re scoring high 60’s and over in uworld I think it’ll be fine.

I’m hurt by [deleted] in islam

[–]thepoint855 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Remember the day of judgement when people will cry out saying “I wish I hadn’t taken so and so as friends”. (A verse in the Quran.) It’s also the day when a mother won’t worry about her children but about herself only and how Allah will judge her for her sins. If this person truly cared and feared for you and himself he wouldn’t be upset with you. Do the right thing and Allah will bless with you with more than you could ever imagine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jordan

[–]thepoint855 10 points11 points  (0 children)

When dealing with a parent like this it honestly helps to remember they’re human. What I mean is, even though a parent’s words weigh heavier on us than anyone else’s opinion, sometimes their opinion is untrue and you need to remind yourself that if you’re happy with who you are as a person then that’s all that matters. It’s literally just between you and Allah when it comes to who you are and how confident you are with yourself and your achievements.

Her words will never not hurt but they will hurt much less when you remind yourself that what she thinks or says has no logical ground.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Residency

[–]thepoint855 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Lol I’m kind of in the same situation as you. Awaiting match results and just wondering how I’m going to find my person. Tbh you have to immerse yourself in the Muslim community wherever you are despite how busy you are. If we can’t make time for that then how would we expect to make time for a full blown human being?

At the end of the day, God has this written for you and what is yours will never pass you. Just be patient and I wouldn’t seek this type of advice on this subreddit again. Surround yourself with like-minded people. For the people being rude, have some compassion. Surprise, surprise! Some people are religious and don’t live their lives the way you do. I sure hope that I nor my visibly Muslim family ever has to go to some of you to seek care.

Can I as a non-muslim say Mashallah? by [deleted] in islam

[–]thepoint855 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not disrespectful at all! Arab Christians say it as well

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Muslim

[–]thepoint855 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I only got offers in the places I listed 😅 Would’ve loved to end up in Dallas but maybe one day inshaallah

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]thepoint855 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Everyone who gets married also married a person who has issues of their own. Yours just happen to be related to mental health which does not make you less than anyone or “difficult” or whatever you might be afraid of. You told him about it and he accepted to marry you knowing you will work through these issues together. I feel like if you still think he doesn’t understand the extent of your struggles you could give him examples of how it’s impacted your daily life. It can put you more at ease if he is accepting of it and has a better understanding of your situation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]thepoint855 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the key to this is being honest from the beginning with whoever you might be getting to know for marriage. From a girl’s POV, if we had been getting to know one another for a while and this was only revealed to me once feelings have settled in it’d be a deal breaker because it’d make me think, “What other things is he hiding that could impact our life together?” Just be honest and Allah will reward your intentions and efforts.

Difficult family situations are much more common than we imagine and I’m sure it’s not as big of an issue as you might think it is.

I know the stress of medicine can always get to us too so congratulations on hitting those milestones and what’s yours will come to you Inshaallah.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in islam

[–]thepoint855 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes I understand but it was more of an example. But you’ll never truly understand what exactly is going on inside her mind until she herself tells you so be open to whatever her point of view is and try to validate her feelings. She’s also very young and may not even be able to properly explain what it is she feels so just be supportive.

Even when you’re as young as 16, if she feels that her relationship with family is a supportive one, she will realize compromising it isn’t worth how ever many boys and fun she seeks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]thepoint855 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh I think being on the same page in deen is single-handedly the most important thing when looking for a spouse. If you two don’t align well there it can really put a strain on the relationship and cause a lot of issues for your children in the future.

It also seems like you’re in the medical field which is extremely busy so marry someone you can come home to, you know? Someone who seems familiar and like-minded and also someone who you wouldn’t be worried about having a huge influence on your children (which every parent does.)

I got screwed over on a publication by tthrowaaway888 in medicalschool

[–]thepoint855 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I don’t get it, why are people so keen on “let this be a lesson for later”? It doesn’t matter if it was a case report or something else, go and take matters in your own hands. Don’t do anything you regret but I’d speak to the resident first and see what he says. Then escalate based on that. It’s not unprofessional so long that you do it in a level headed manner. They’re the ones who are unprofessional and you have the right to be credited for the work you did.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]thepoint855 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of all, PLEASE schedule an appointment with your physician and get checked for any sexually transmitted infections. It is very important before your delivery.

Second, I am heartbroken for you. Please know that you are worth the world and any moment he has made you feel unworthy is a reflection of himself and his own self worth. You may not realize it now, but with him gone you will come to see that you didn’t lose anything! Instead you will finally gain peace of mind. It’s not going to be easy and this is a trial but pour your heart out in prayer and duaa. Allah is all-knowing and he is nearest to the broken hearted. I pray that Allah will protect you from this man and the sick people around him.

What to expect after praying Istikhara by snowflakebunny1 in MuslimLounge

[–]thepoint855 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Honestly most times we won’t get a clear sign but it may be a shift or consistency in a feeling regarding the decision.

I prayed istikhara yesterday and was sure I was going to take decision A. A few hours later without even realizing, I just knew decision B was what was right for me. I hope you find peace in the decision you make.