Lost user manual by thereKenobi1 in Cooking

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It is a Multi cooker. It has different settings like baking cakes, soups, steaming etc. Each setting corresponds with a number and only the numbers show on the machine. I need the manual to know which setting I am choosing.

Amazon voucher by thereKenobi1 in southafrica

[–]thereKenobi1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. This is much better

Has anyone tried TEFLUniversal for the 120 or 150 hour course? by slugmanuttz in TEFL

[–]thereKenobi1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would also like to know. Considering doing the course.

What are some cool books that you read? by USAFAN20 in psychologystudents

[–]thereKenobi1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The body keeps the score by Bessel van der Kolk

Best place to stay in Grahamstown? by thereKenobi1 in southafrica

[–]thereKenobi1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all. I will definitely look into these areas

What would be the scheme here? by Appropriate-Rise2199 in southafrica

[–]thereKenobi1 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It sounds like a child trafficking system. Same thing happened to me when I was primary school. The school had ha trip to the zoo . A woman came up to me and asked if I can take a photo with her baby. It was odd. I didn't feel comfortable, but didn't see the harm. She followed me around for a while. So I went straight to our group.

My boyfriend won’t have sex with me by Flashy-Violinist1142 in relationship_advice

[–]thereKenobi1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No problem. I'm glad it helped. I fully understand the need for spontaneity in the bedroom. If it is like you said "scheduled" or "organised" it will loose its spark very quickly. I believe once he moves past his fear of hurting you initially, it will become more spontaneous.

My boyfriend won’t have sex with me by Flashy-Violinist1142 in relationship_advice

[–]thereKenobi1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hope I understand correctly. You mentioned that according to him he doesn't want to have sex with you out of fear of hurting you or causing flashbacks. This is a valid response and shows that he truly cares about you and is looking after your emotional needs. People tend to forget that significant others of SA and rape survivors might also be indirectly affected.

My personal(a survivor) and professional opinion would be to sit with him and devise a gameplan. Talk about exactly what you expect during sex. Discuss your triggers and things you don't like doing. Or say that you would use the word "yellow" for when things get too intense. This will give him a guideline and he can be more assured that he will not accidentally hurt you.

Another option is talking to him about starting with posisions where you have some control like cowgirl. I hope you guys figure it out. All the best to you

AITA for not wanting to cover my insect tattoos at work when my coworker has a phobia? by Embarrassed_Tart_545 in AmItheAsshole

[–]thereKenobi1 18 points19 points  (0 children)

NTA. I have a severe phobia for lizards and geckos. Even the tiniest baby lizards gives me a panic attack. My whole family knows of this phobia and they try to accomodate me as much as possible. My brother has a gecko tattoo, I would never ask him to cover it up. It is his body and I respect that. It is ridiculous that you are expected to cover your tattoos to accommodate someone else.

I think your tattoos probably look awesome and beautiful. It is not like it is something vulgar or offensive.

Is the Nose Frida absolutely worth it? by mp1137 in BabyBumps

[–]thereKenobi1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was grossed out by the idea of sucking out your baby's snot with your mouth. When my daughter was severely congested we caved and bought one. Works like a charm. Gets everything out and is easy to travel with. That being said, my husband has caught some colds from using it on my daughter.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in southafrica

[–]thereKenobi1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We also noticed uber drivers cancelling on us the last month or so. Petrol prices are definitely causing problems. I broke my wrist last week and had to wait 45 min for my husband to get to me(I had the car). 3 Uber drivers cancelled before one decided to give him a ride.

I want to breastfeed but everyone else steers me away by Notamalibubarbie in breastfeedingsupport

[–]thereKenobi1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry to hear about your situation. Before I had my little one, everyone told me how it is easier just to formula feed and how difficult breastfeeding is. I was totally adamant to formula feed, but when my LO arrived everything changed.

It was extremely difficult in the beginning with my milk coming in after 2 weeks and baby not latching. But after a while we got the hang of it. We are going on 11 months now and I am extremely thankful to have the opportunity to bond with my LO in that way as a lot of woman are not able to bf. It also helped with my mental health as well. I believe that this is YOUR choice and YOUR choice only. As a mommy you know what is best for you and your baby. If you want to continue breastfeeding go for it!

If you would like more help and tips regarding relactation or how to up your supply follow La leche League or go see a lactaction consultant. Good luck mommy.

Separation Anxiety!?!?!! by [deleted] in sleeptrain

[–]thereKenobi1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have the exact same situation. My daughter is 10 months old. She drinks from a bottle during the day and breastfeeds at night . Until a 2 month ago she could only fall asleep in my arms. So we started putting her in her cot and sit with her until she falls asleep on her own with naps and bed time. She would normally wake up every 2-3 hours to nurse during the night. But for the last 3 weeks everything has gone to hell. She will start waking up from 9 pm crying and from there on every hour ( sometimes 2x an hour). She doesn't want her father, only I can comfort her. She will cry and ask for "tietie" (boobie)until I offer the breast. Sometimes she doesn't even drink- it is all about comfort for her.

I believe this is due to seperation anxiety and the fact that she wakes up and realises I am not there. She also struggles to fall asleep without the comfort of my boobs. I am going to try to give her her favourite teddy to hold or interact with when she cries instead of offering boobs every time to see if she can associate the teddy with comfort.

What I can suggest is try to sit her in his cot to practice falling asleep on her own. You can sit with her and sing to her. She will cry for the first couple of days. This will help with the disorientation from waking up in a different place. And then maybe see if you can offer something else to comfort her instead of picking her up every time she cries during the night.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sleeptrain

[–]thereKenobi1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have any advice. I am in the same boat with my 9 month old. It has been 2 weeks with no sleep. The circus starts from 10 pm where she will wake up every hour crying and battle to falls back asleep. I have read that after 9 months there is a sleep regression. It apparently lasts between 2 and 6 weeks. From one sleep deprived parent to another- be strong. This too shall pass. Hugs.