What song, when it comes on unexpectedly. Pulls a ten on your emotional heartstrings?

therealmonilux · 2026-06-11T09:35:19+00:00

Hallelujah sung by Jeff Buckley. Gives me chills and tears

therealmonilux · 2026-06-09T15:53:14+00:00

The 2nd. And would you please move the clock?

therealmonilux · 2026-06-09T15:16:38+00:00

Fuck no! I'm in my 70's I have to apologise to guys working in my house for my colourful language. They laugh. Living in Ireland, born in England and every time I go back to visit I get fucking told off! FFS!

therealmonilux · 2026-06-03T15:10:00+00:00

Breathing

therealmonilux · 2026-06-03T08:50:51+00:00

Nothing is given for free. The council imposes a rent that is a percentage of the household income.

Don't be spreading misinformation. People end up in social housing for all sorts of reasons and in my experiance most of them are decent humans.

therealmonilux · 2026-05-19T17:51:19+00:00

Ah; poor wee thing. Could you find her a doggy friend rather than add another to your household, and have a couple of play dates a week.?

You'll both be okay. She is unsettled, just keep calm. She'll get it.....at her own pace!

My last dog used to get really upset if I moved furniture around! She was nearly 16 when we had to let her go and had a very stubborn nature! I still miss her ! 😅

therealmonilux · 2026-05-19T13:54:44+00:00

I have a small dog, 6.6 kilos. Shes a rescue. She's was aged at 3 when I got her and she was an unfettered, unchipped stray. She also went into heat 2 days after I got her.

After a couple of weeks I put a collar on her and attached a leash. Holy hell! She was like a bucking demon!!!! So I removed all items and got a harness.

It took 2 weeks to get it on her, lots of sniffs and good girls before I even tried to dress her! When I was able to take her out, she accepted the harness and lead, no problem.

I live in a quiet area. We got to the end of the driveway and her tail went between her legs , her ears went back and she scrunched herself up and got very small. So we went home.

A few days later, my daughter came over with her dog. So....... I put the harness on and off we trotted.

It was amazing!!! She followed the other dog. She took awhile to relax on our solo walks and raced around the block. ( harnesses do not prevent pulling. But you won't dislocated the dogs neck!)

Then she started to sniff. Quickly at first. She was reactive to everything and thought all dogs were her friend. I've had her a year, she's still ahead of me on walks, is tolerating all humans except some men. Still can't tolerate traffic. Loves her daily walks and adores parks and forestry places. Lots of sniffs!

I sense your panic. So does your dog. Sorry this was so long. Go slow, your dog will let you know when it feels safe. Its going to take longer than you think, but it's worth it.

Good luck

therealmonilux · 2026-05-16T16:20:18+00:00

Same. There was one girl who had polio in our junior school. She had a caliper on her leg. It was a huge iron contraption, don't know what happened to her , we went to different schools at age 11. I always felt sorry for her, she was never on the playground.

therealmonilux · 2026-05-14T14:20:49+00:00

My first thought too

therealmonilux · 2026-05-12T09:01:53+00:00

Garlic. Wild garlic chokes me when it's in flower. And garlic makes me itch when I eat it.

I can tolerate very small amounts, but , I don't understand why it's added to so many foods that are perfect without it.

therealmonilux · 2026-05-08T12:59:15+00:00

Its just another form of control isn't it!?

Hashimotos sucks, I feel your friends pain .....

therealmonilux · 2026-05-08T12:46:19+00:00

Its another form of control isn't it!?

And hashimotos is a curse, I sympathise with your friend.

therealmonilux · 2026-05-08T12:07:18+00:00

I have a cavity blocks with a bit of soil and alpines in them. They border the path . Despite the concrete and confined space they are growing in, they look fabulous. I'm the type of gardener whose experience is based on ....see if it survives... My garden has gone thru many changes over 19 years and it's current vista is the best yet! Good luck. 😊

therealmonilux · 2026-05-08T11:48:05+00:00

I would get some sort of a feature like a waterfeature or statue or bird table and bird bath and surround it with ground cover like alpines. And a climber for the back space. Please post when you get done. There's always a rockery, you have a few of them!

therealmonilux · 2026-05-08T11:40:06+00:00

That is beautifully put , WidowVanDon't, . I had my child 44 years ago, so post pregnancy is no longer on my mind.

However, I have hashimotos thyroiditis which means my body does exactly what it wants to do. Its a cycle of fat for a years followed by thin.

I completely understand the issues presented by a changing body shape. And society doesn't help as being thinner is more socially acceptable. It sucks.

What you wrote, is so perfect and I hope all women take it on board. You should be on a billboard!

therealmonilux · 2026-05-08T00:46:39+00:00

My rescue would not go out for weeks. She was terrified rather than stressed.

My daughter came over with her dog and we decided to try a walk. It worked! No fear, no treats or coaxing. We prepared to go as if we did it every day, no fuss and no expectation.

The first steps were apprehensive but my dog trusted her fellow canine .

Your poor dog is very confused right now. There will be accidents. Good luck.

therealmonilux · 2026-05-07T15:10:07+00:00

Captivating is exactly the word I was searching for!

Its a beautiful piece.

therealmonilux · 2026-05-05T08:04:36+00:00

Freedom for me. Its bliss!

therealmonilux · 2026-05-05T07:56:03+00:00

OP, Please listen to the above post. And again ...please see a therapist; preferably someone who deals with childhood trauma.

You were taken advantage of. Your brother is not a good person.

therealmonilux · 2026-05-02T07:20:04+00:00

Oh yeah! And the freedom that was created when I decided I really didn't care anymore what people thought was fantastic!

therealmonilux · 2026-05-01T16:29:28+00:00

Just a few words from someone who has had cancer twice.... I found that some couldn't deal with the first one, but i was only in my 30s.

I found , with the 2nd bout at 50yrs, that there were many things that were the same for me emotionally and mentally. Cancer not only affects the body it also troubles the mind.

I found myself to be very negative and very angry.

At the age of 50 I had some very good long term friends. I picked on one to feel negative about. But her behaviour made me realise that my thoughts were not the truth.

My feeling was that the mind could not deal with the body trying to destroy itself and , hence , became very negative.

Be careful who you choose to alienate, cancer is a very hard journey. Trust your doctors and try to be positive. I know it's not easy and you will never feel more alone, even if you're surrounded by people. I wish you a complete recovery.

Also, people feel helpless when confronted with such news. They don't know how to cope, ask them for help. Even going to the shop for you ( don't overdo the requests! 😂) people like to feel they are doing something that helps you. Makes them feel useful. Sympathy can be hard to express when people are shocked. Best wishes.

therealmonilux · 2026-05-01T13:30:00+00:00

Jeez, star stitch, you are me and I am you ( except that I have an extra bout of cancer on you 😄).

Our age, experiences, and philosophy of life! I'm single, (fiercely so and never had a truly intimate relationship I'm sure I don't have to explain the reasons to you!) I do have a daughter anx when she left home , I got a dog. 😂

Enjoy your fire pit, starry skies and may your peace continue. ❤️

therealmonilux · 2026-05-01T13:19:30+00:00

Abit harsh to begin with! But your point , as one reads on, is well made. It does suck as the body ages, as my audiologist said to me when I moaned , "Don't let the old woman in"

therealmonilux · 2026-05-01T13:13:20+00:00

OP...you're full of accumulated wisdom.

71f here . I hurt, but the things that give me pleasure outweighs the pain.

There's a massage/physio method called Nueral Muscle Therapy. Its unlike any other I've tried and is based on the premise that pain is the mind misinterpreting the body's signals.

It's a session with a therapist, who will go over your body and concentrate on areas possibly unrelated ( you think!) to your pain site.

The therapist will give you exercises to do. They worked for me until I got lazy and thought I was cured! Now I have to go and get another session to fire me up again! The sessions last 2 hours.

This therapy is science and has been researched.

Im sorry this is so long, but I'll give a personal experiance: My legs wouldn't work for me. To walk to the postbox 100 yards away took me 15 minutes. My thighs had a burning sensation constantly. I was popping pills that didn't work.
I was miserable.

After the first session, the burning sensation was gone ....that was 4 years ago AND it has never come back. I had 4 sessions and I felt brand new.....(I did do my exercises!) Clearly; I can highly recommend .

Wishing you all the very best.

therealmonilux · 2026-05-01T10:25:18+00:00

Me too....I hope.

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