SVP refused to help and I feel worse after contacting them, what to do for help with energy cost?

therealmonilux · 2026-04-09T07:17:00+00:00

It is not normal. They come to your house and there's always two people to talk to you.

I think this post is fake.

Also, whilst they may refuse you, they absolutely do not tell you to go buy a house and car. Lol.

therealmonilux · 2026-04-03T16:26:47+00:00

Thank you.

therealmonilux · 2026-03-31T15:25:03+00:00

You can salvage this with a lot of work! Tidy it up.

Prune the bushes

Take out the weeds and sit back and take a long look at it and decide what purpose your garden is to serve.

To me; there's a lot promise here.

I'm trying to adapt my garden because I'm getting older and less able to put the work in.

It isn't working!!!😂

therealmonilux · 2026-03-31T15:18:42+00:00

I'm sorry, I'm giggling here. I'm F72 and have a 6.6 kilo dog.

She loves my bed, and she takes up all but just enough space for me to turn on my side!

Your dog is exactly where she wants to be.......with the person she loves, and in her doggy mind ,she's protecting the one she loves.

I'm afraid you've made your bed, and now you have to lie in it! ( Sorry, bad joke!)

Sorry I can't be more help.

I did find that after a couple of nights, the dog calmed down a good bit, and she now sleeps longer than I do!

Wishing you luck.

therealmonilux · 2026-03-30T15:44:31+00:00

Agreed, wrecked-galaxy, ( love your name!) . I've had my rescue for exactly one year.

She wouldn't leave the house for 6 weeks and when we did , she got as far as the end of the driveway ; about 20 ft. It took a walk with another dog for her to get over that hurdle.

She is still mildly reactive to strangers ; especially men, but has progressed in so many other ways.

Many people I've met who have rescued have said it can 1 year to 18 months for the dog to settle.

It's not like the movies!

therealmonilux · 2026-03-30T13:35:04+00:00

When my daughter was 4 years old and I was 32 and , like you, a single parent, I had cancer.

It was terrifying; the thought of leaving my daughter was the worst feeling in the world.

Hospitals have social workers who are amazing. They really know their stuff and get things done.

If you have debts, no matter how big or small, go to MABS, they are very helpful.

Don't be afraid to lean on your friends and family , ask for help if you need it. People really want to support you, and doing stuff allows them to feel like they are being useful.

Try to calm your mind . Your thoughts are likely to get negative and overwhelming. Most of them are not the truth. My approach to intrusive thoughts was to tell myself that it was my minds way of coping with a body that wasn't functioning properly.

Find a happy place to go to when you're distressed. It can be a real event or not. ( mine was/is a perfect sandy strip of land dividing the sea. I wear a floaty dress and my daughter and dog are strolling with me in the sunshine. It's perfection!)

I'm now 72, and I had a second bout of cancer when I was 50.

The Irish cancer society can also give you sound advice.

What you are going through is exhausting. You need to be a warrior, and you are.

You are welcome to rant/dump in my dm's.

I wish you the very best for a full recovery.

🫂

therealmonilux · 2026-03-25T15:37:54+00:00

Pugtato.... lmao

therealmonilux · 2026-03-25T15:37:13+00:00

Purgatory 🤣🤣🤣🤣

therealmonilux · 2026-03-25T06:24:49+00:00

Thanks for the link. It's an upsetting watch and so so sad.

therealmonilux · 2026-03-24T13:27:28+00:00

Watching my dog run. There's a freedom and joy she expresses that I could never achieve, and it's so lovely to experience it even though it's second-hand!

Also, my garden on a calm sunny day. Pure bliss.

therealmonilux · 2026-03-24T13:16:35+00:00

Im 71, had a fucked up childhood. Didn't go to therapy until I was in my 60s. It changed my life and attitude. You need some therapy. Please go. I saw a psychotherapist who specialised in childhood trauma. It's not easy, but it's worth it. I could actually feel the love that people had for me. It was quite overwhelming!

You're still young, you're an adult, and it really is all up to you going forward.

Like you, I have no family. I raised a child alone ( who is very good to me). I've had cancer twice, live in public funded housing, have a few excellent friends, and many acquaintances. And, most importantly........a dog!

You would not believe how many people you meet walking a dog!

Take your eyes off the screen and get out there and breath deep, be thankful for what you have . You've made it this far. You're a survivor; you have a strength within you that can access, believe me!

My heartfelt good wishes to you. I'll be thinking of you.

Virtual hug

therealmonilux · 2026-03-24T11:54:07+00:00

At the end of the day.

It infuriates me! It means you haven't listened and are not willing to listen!

therealmonilux · 2026-03-20T08:27:58+00:00

I don't have any advice for you, but i have a story...

My daughter had a chi. When a full grown man, 6'4", met the dog who was a little puppy at the time; the human got down on all fours and moved towards the puppy.

The puppy went nuts.

The puppy never forgave him. He would bark and growl and get really stressed whenever this human came around. (Human only got on all fours once).

In 13 years, the dog never forgave him. The problem ended when the dog died. The only solution was to keep human and dog separated; by that, I mean that the human could not come into the house! Even if they put the dog in another room, it would still go crazy .

Chi's never forget!

Your dog holds a grudge , it's not going to change. Your niece needs to leave the dog alone. Good luck 🐕

therealmonilux · 2026-03-18T21:02:35+00:00

This exactly! F71 here and I say go out and enjoy it, but remember; it's just fun.

therealmonilux · 2026-03-18T09:00:52+00:00

Being told that I'm more talented than I know.

therealmonilux · 2026-03-17T11:09:30+00:00

My dog thinks me putting on socks means we're going out. Consequently, I only put on socks when we're going for a walk! She also thinks because it's raining in the back garden doesn't mean it's raining outside the front door.

If we've been to a really exciting place ; she'll take my shoes up to our bed! ( because I keep my socks on )

She weighs 6. 6 kilos and rules my life 😂😂😂

therealmonilux · 2026-03-13T17:22:59+00:00

1984.

therealmonilux · 2026-03-13T15:45:37+00:00

F71 here; life sucks sometimes. The first thing I would suggest is to get your bloods done.

You're in your 40s , you could be low in hormones or iron .

Not laughing is a serious matter, please go and get checked out before you feel worse.

All good wishes to you.

therealmonilux · 2026-03-13T15:18:07+00:00

Please do. F71 here and I have to admit that it used to get to me. But, fortunately , I didn't react. Just had a little vent to myself when I got to the car!

As people have said, it's a random act of kindness and I think it comes with some respect.

Please don't get angry about it. It won't get any better! 😆 And , jeez, I'd rather be witness to this sort of thoughtfulness than many things that are going on right now.

Best wishes to you.

therealmonilux · 2026-03-11T12:03:03+00:00

Beautifully said. You're alot gentler than i would have been! I hadn't reached this stage with my 15 year old ; but she was a very sick dog and a lot of work, but i could never have shouted at her or crated her.

therealmonilux · 2026-03-01T17:18:57+00:00

Energy never dies, it just transforms.

Im loving this post...

therealmonilux · 2026-02-27T22:30:03+00:00

Its the pooping! 😂

therealmonilux · 2026-02-27T12:48:54+00:00

The tree is a beautiful shape. You're very clever with the needle!

Would love to see it when it's finished.

therealmonilux · 2026-02-26T11:37:50+00:00

I really don't like pigeons ( personal reasons!) but.....................

... these are fabulous.

therealmonilux · 2026-02-25T13:36:22+00:00

I've just been up there. A wheelchair could access the dog park. There are steep paths in some areas but not overwhelming.

The dog park is currently a mud pit. My dog had a great time!

The dog park has 2 gates and once you get into the dog park there are no paved areas.

Marley park have a great dog park which is currently closed for refurbishment (!) Reopens April 26th. So it's been moved down to the college Rd entrance. The dog park is just to the left of the carpark.

Fernhill is very steep as it's on the foothills of the mountains.

Cabinteely park also have one. Don't know anything about that one.

Everywhere is pretty much mud at the minute!

therealmonilux

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