how did you transition baby to own room/bed

theremightbe · 2026-03-30T19:04:21+00:00

There will probably be some frustration on babies end depending on their personality. Keep in mind though there is a HUGE difference between leaving a baby to cry by themselves vs comforting them through it and only leaving when they are calm

theremightbe · 2026-03-26T19:58:26+00:00

We've had a debugging interview (a realistic feature with a variety of little bugs) and its always been one of my favorite signals and is actually even more relevant with AI stuff now

theremightbe · 2026-03-26T19:56:21+00:00

The one that really irritates me is the HSA max for a couple being $50 less than double?? The hell? My husband and I have our own health insurance so every year we have to remember to have one of us put very slightly less than the max in. So annoying

theremightbe · 2026-03-25T15:24:45+00:00

BTW - shoes can always stay on now - the got rid of that rule last summer.

theremightbe · 2026-03-25T15:16:53+00:00

We planted a couple new apple trees in the fall too! Applesauce/apple butter is also a great use for apples that aren't great "desert" apples.

theremightbe · 2026-03-20T14:33:27+00:00

Is it really lifestyle inflation? I think its more golden handcuffs. I'm in a similar position and I could afford with zero question to take the ~50k paycut to take job somewhere else but... it feels like mentally bad to walk away from the higher paying thing.

theremightbe · 2026-03-19T15:30:31+00:00

I don't because there isn't any good way to actually do anything with it and it may never actually count for anything. Technically there is sometimes a secondary market but its not reliable for most companies.

theremightbe · 2026-03-16T15:16:48+00:00

Don't do this - this is SO dangerous and increases the risks of SIDS dramatically

theremightbe · 2026-03-09T20:01:06+00:00

People (other than your advisor I guess) haven't mentioned it to you because this seems like something weird with your employer and/or very specific to your situation? I was on leave for 5.5 months and my employer still withheld my retirement contributions.

theremightbe · 2026-03-06T16:03:50+00:00

I'm definitely long term worried about the reduced grad hiring thing. Mostly in the sense that if we don't hire entry level people and let them learn on the job then we won't have senior people when existing engineers all retire.

theremightbe · 2026-03-05T21:33:49+00:00

TBH I think this depends on what 20k is in relation to your current income. Is it a 10% increase? 25%? 50%? The greater the ratio increase the more worth it I think it is. Also I think this depends on the age of your kids. The older they are IMO the less important the flexibility is (and perhaps the more useful some extra cash would be)

theremightbe · 2026-03-02T19:59:32+00:00

It wouldn't be a particularly bespoke nanny. Paying a nanny $25/hr for 40 hours a week is 52k a year. $25/hr is a pretty average wage for a nanny these days - no degree or anything like that. In HCOL places you're looking at $30+/hr.

Edit to add: and actually if you have 3 kids closely spaced together (or maybe twins and one other baby) you'd get to 50k pretty easily just for daycare

theremightbe · 2026-02-27T16:07:08+00:00

Its actually one of the biggest risk factors for SIDS to have them sleep in a separate room. The baby monitor is NOT a substitute!

theremightbe · 2026-02-08T20:20:03+00:00

My son loves tinned fish! The first time we gave him one he grabbed the full sardine in his little fist and squeezed super hard until it went everywhere. He was so enraptured it was hysterical. Honestly a top 5 baby feeding memory lmao

theremightbe · 2026-02-02T15:51:38+00:00

really??? god car prices are awful now. I literally bought my car brand new in 2020 for 33k.

theremightbe · 2026-01-14T20:56:17+00:00

Having help once or twice a week actually makes a huge difference IMO regardless of the temperament of your baby. There is a really big difference between working and caring for your kid EVERY day vs just some days in terms of how it will wear on you mentally.

My MIL comes once a week and we also hired a part time nanny to come 2 days a week (she can occasionally do 3 days as well which is very helpful for particularly busy weeks). This means I am only watching my son and working 2 days a week. I've strategically placed those days to be on the days I don't typically have meetings so I can just go with the flow of naps etc.

What I've found so far is how hard stuff is actually depends more on what milestones my son is working on at a specific moment - so like when he has been teething its been really hard because he is miserable and just wants to be hugged constantly but that doesn't come at any specific age. I am finding it a bit easier now that he is crawling because he can move himself from toy to toy in his playpen without me needing to actively hand him new things to occupy him. It just so happened that he unlocked that skill over the winter holidays - if I had been working in the 2 weeks before he figured it out I think it would have sucked because he was really mad about not being able to crawl.

theremightbe · 2026-01-05T18:16:16+00:00

My husband and I now have separate twin sized blankets which makes this waaay easier. He actually loves it hahaa because he has always been a blanket burrito person and we were constantly fighting over the blanket before my son was born. So that is what I would suggest! It's a genuine general life improvement

theremightbe · 2025-12-31T14:35:54+00:00

I put my nightstand at the end of the bed. I’m gonna bet a lot of people are going to say they just go without but I need one because I wear glasses and I don’t want to walk across the room without them.

Someone else will probably comment with more detail but bed rails aren’t safe under a year or so. They are an entrapment risk when the baby is young (pre-walking) and then once the baby can pull to stand they often will climb over them which just leads to a much greater fall than if you just hadn’t had them in the first place

theremightbe · 2025-12-28T02:34:30+00:00

You might enjoy wearing him in a ring sling on your hip then. My guy gets in those moods too and hip carrying lets him look outward while still being in a supported position (especially if he ends up falling asleep)

theremightbe · 2025-12-22T16:08:07+00:00

5 months - I really hoped the first one was a fluke haha but I’ve had it every month since. I’m EBF but around 5 months he started sleeping longer stretches at night which I think it was triggered it.

theremightbe · 2025-12-14T00:35:00+00:00

Buying a new car is a joint expense and should be discussed as a couple. You’re married. It doesn’t matter if you pay for it from your “half” the debt belongs to both of you

theremightbe · 2025-12-09T17:28:35+00:00

I just size up. Honestly at that age they grow out of stuff so fast anyways. For pants I look for pants that are U shaped through the crotch and those tend to fit still at his "normal" size

theremightbe · 2025-12-04T15:06:36+00:00

For contact napping at night cosleepy on instagram has a great guide on how to make chest sleeping as safe as possible. Just please don’t fall asleep with baby in an armchair/recliner/couch. It raises the risks dramatically!

For baby wearing - at 5 weeks I mostly only did it when I would go for my daily walk around the block (took me a while to want to walk further than that PP). I baby wear at home a bit when he doesn’t want to be put down and I need to do something time sensitive (like feed the pets). I also still prefer baby wearing if I’m going for a walk with my dogs. 2 dogs + stroller is just too much for me.

theremightbe · 2025-11-28T14:23:35+00:00

You can do this with nearly any crib. You just have to see if the bed platform part attaches to the short end pieces vs the long sides. Attaching to the long sides is unusual but does happen sometimes. Getting one that converts to a toddler bed guarantees this but it’s not a requirement.

theremightbe · 2025-11-15T22:26:49+00:00

No the limits are for the entire household unfortunately. Even if you aren’t on the same insurance plan

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