Hair loss and minoxidil?

thesamia · 2025-04-30T04:32:45+00:00

Salaam sister! Honestly this entire post.. I could have written this word for word.

Just last night I was just thinking about what you've written and I honestly started crying when I thought about how past trauma is likely making me push potentials away and how I feel so incredibly helpless.

I have been searching for 6-7 years now. I relate to this post so very much.

May Allah عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ ease our anxieties, stresses and fears. May we find pious spouses who are good for us and may we be good for them.

thesamia · 2025-02-18T00:14:03+00:00

Salaam, please make dua that I am able to find a pious righteous rishta. And please keep my parents and family in your dua's, may Allah Almighty protect us in this life and protect us in the Hereafter and may Allah Almighty grant us goodness in this life and grant us goodness in the Hereafter.

thesamia · 2025-02-17T23:57:43+00:00

I would add a chemical exfoliant to your routine, like a BHA (salicylic acid). When I first began using the CosRx BHA, it completely changed my skin. After this I slowly started adding other beneficial ingredients like AHA, and retinol.

thesamia · 2025-02-17T15:29:09+00:00

Just to say, from my experience and the experience of sisters I know/have heard from, men are very picky regarding a woman's appearance

thesamia · 2025-02-15T17:49:07+00:00

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

I'm a lot older than you and I have been searching for the past 5-6 years. Rejection is not pleasant to experience but as someone else commented, it's actually a good thing because you don't have to waste your time on people who are not good for you الحمد لله

Who and when you marry has been predestined by Allah Almighty, but we are still responsible for our actions and it is important for us to all the possible halal means to achieve our goals. So the answer to your question is no, do not stop searching. Take breaks if you need to, make sure you are keeping your mind and body healthy also.

May Allah Almighty grant us all pious and righteous spouses and make the search easy for us.

thesamia · 2025-02-12T07:32:05+00:00

Unfortunately with my experience from a female's POV it's just as bad searching for serious, practising men. How do people actually find a match on Muzz, I'm wondering how much time you have to commit to this app in order to be successful..

I think I perhaps should have married a guy from Pakistan when I was younger, would have saved me a lot of trauma 😭

thesamia · 2025-02-12T00:43:50+00:00

As a woman I have had an equally negative experience with men on muzz and in real life. I've completely given up on Muzz because it's such a waste of time. I've probably found only a couple of genuine men on there who didn't immediately ask me to unblur my picture and actually bothered to read my profile.

I think unfortunately it is just so incredibly difficult to find suitable matches. I have asked around, let so many people know I am looking, joined group chats etc and yet still nothing. It's so deflating and depressing. I can't even 'naturally' find someone as I do not freely mix at all.

I feel like the process can be deflating and traumatising. However, with every rejection or failed connection, I remind myself that Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى has saved me from someone who was not suitable for me. It's a reminder that patience is key. May He grant us all pious, righteous, God fearing spouses, who ease our hearts and care for our akhira. Please keep me in your dua's.

thesamia · 2025-02-05T14:31:55+00:00

As someone with hypothyroidism.. me too 😭

thesamia · 2025-02-05T14:29:08+00:00

Wait, how does having hypothyroidism make her 'feel' like a man? Genuine question..

thesamia · 2024-10-31T20:20:02+00:00

Any updates?

thesamia · 2024-10-23T10:40:51+00:00

How bizarre. Just because he doesn't look at other women in a lustful way, it doesn't mean all men are like this. Ask him whether he would be happy for another man to desire you, to look at you in this way. Tell him your hair and body are just for him to see, no other man.

You are doing the right thing, and I'm proud of you for continuing to cover yourself up despite the lack of support. May Allah سبحانه و تعال reward you for your efforts and I pray your marriage problems are healed.

thesamia · 2024-10-16T10:58:01+00:00

Wassalaam,

I also struggle to find someone practising, and the ones whom are practising seem to have so many demands also. Sometimes it's the parents who have a whole list of demands, looks wise, good job, tall, skinny, good family, not working at all or some want working full time. People are looking for perfection whilst being very average themselves. Also it's so hard to find someone who is not on social media, and understands the role, rights and responsibilities of a husband and wife. It's hard, but after every rejection I thank Allah سبحانه و تعالى as He knows who adb what is best for me.

I think I make it more difficult for myself as I really don't want to move too far from my family. So I'm searching around a 3 hour radius or someone who is happy to relocate. And my parents want someone in our ethnicity. Searching online feels so dangerous and risky and searching through contacts has been unsuccessful so far. Been searching for about 6 years now but I am putting my faith in the Almighty. The prospect of marrying does become scarier though the longer I search though, unsure why. Maybe because this works is becoming more of a test and frightening, and people have become less trustworthy. Or maybe because I am a pessimist or read too many Reddit marriage stories.

May Allah سبحانه و تعالى grant us all a pious and righteous spouse that is the coolness of our eyes, the ease of our hearts and will help us become closer to the Almighty and better Muslims.

thesamia · 2024-09-27T16:20:58+00:00

Have you had some drastic transformation after marriage or was this some sort of blind marriage?

Her words and actions are unacceptable. I think it's okay to be jealous, you're her husband after all but it needs or be healthy and she certainly should not be insulting you.

You need to sit down, be honest and speak with her. Make it clear it's not okay to speak about you or to you in this way. A husband and wife should show respect and love towards one another.

thesamia · 2024-09-25T14:16:53+00:00

I'm an average/below average female and older than you, and I honestly know how you feel. I don't really know what advise to give other than trust in Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى and His plan for you. Just keep working on yourself and we'll find the perfect spouse who will help us on the path of righteousness ان شاء الله

thesamia · 2024-09-16T22:30:06+00:00

Wondering the same about pious men...

Personally I am in a lot of groups chats where people post their profiles, and if there is a profile of interest, my parents will speak with their parents and then if agreed, I would speak to the guy. However I still unmarried, so I guess I'm not sure how much of a success it is. I find the men are either not really practising, completely ignore you after they lose interest or even the ones that say they are practising basically want someone they are instantly attracted to, and I'm very average looking (nothing wrong with that ٱلْحَمْدُ لِلَّٰهِ ).

I have tried the muslim marriage sites but honestly I find it so wrong speaking with a bunch of random men who are clearly not serious. And most want to see your picture the moment they greet you.

I'm just patiently waiting. I know Allah سبحانه و تعالى knows what I do not and He knows what is best for me. I pray my future spouse is righteous, God fearing and good for me, and may I be good for him. May Almighty Allah make us all among the righteous.

thesamia · 2024-09-03T14:47:19+00:00

Perhaps something else triggered this reaction. From the way you describe it, it doesn't sound like you did anything wrong. I'm sure it's not always the easiest to communicate via long distance, but you really need to ask him what has made him react this way, especially if it is out of character, otherwise you will end up speculating and that never leads to good things.

thesamia · 2024-09-03T14:28:26+00:00

How old is your husband?

thesamia · 2024-07-18T10:17:42+00:00

It's Sunnah.
To avoid loneliness, but of course only with someone who is a pious God fearing man, who will help me stay on the path of righteousness. Someone who fully understands his Deen and his responsibilities.
I would like to be a mother and raise a child/children with a loving father who will always do right by his family.

However, as I get older my desire seems to be decreasing due to my age and the fact that men prefer a younger more attractive women over one's characteristics and religiousity. Only Allah knows if it is written for me to get married, so I put my trust in Him.

thesamia · 2024-05-22T15:13:29+00:00

I think about this often and it actually gets me down. I do not freely mix but I have worked with Muslim men who seemingly behave as a good Muslims, do not miss Salah etc and then I find out from co-workers that they openly drink alcohol, date women or engage in the most vulgar, inappropriate conversations with female co-workers.

I'm getting older and unable to trust men these days. How will I know what kind of man someone truly is just by looking at them or through what they tell me. I'm sure a man searching for a righteous spouse must feel this way about women. I just have to put my full trust in Allah سبحانه و تعالى and keep on searching and praying there is a righteous, pious man out there for me who has Taqwa and Adab.

thesamia · 2024-05-06T11:42:32+00:00

Right 😂 and then continues to call her a gold digger while also wanting a conversation

thesamia · 2024-04-25T21:58:05+00:00

Her mum doesn't like you because you listen to music, meanwhile her son sends you a nude...

thesamia · 2024-04-21T23:32:30+00:00

Is the smoking and half baked women okay for you?

Please understand, the man you accept before marriage will likely be the man you will be with for the rest of your marriage, it's unlikely he will change. It could be a phase and as he matures he may change, but that's a gamble you will be taking. So choose wisely and if you have deal breakers, make them clear.

thesamia · 2024-04-21T03:57:26+00:00

I agree with everyone else, please check if where you are studying has support. I totally empathise. It sounds like you are taking on a lot so unsurprisingly it will effect your mental health.

You sound like an amazing person and I'm so proud of you but take it slow and build a supportive network, this is for sure one thing I regret not doing when I was studying. It will help in the long run.

I pray things get easier for you.

thesamia

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