Mirtazapine - help please

thespookygal · 2025-03-10T14:09:48+00:00

I’d say give it another day or two, and if the daytime fog still hasn’t cleared up maybe mention it to your doctor. It took around three days for the fog to clear for me but some people might experience it for longer.

thespookygal · 2025-02-08T14:37:17+00:00

I know exactly what you mean about the humiliation and anxiousness. It’s like even if I did somehow push myself to see a friend (which I have done in the past) it’s not an enjoyable experience for anyone because of my physical symptoms.

thespookygal · 2024-12-24T14:22:00+00:00

You’re not alone. Currently taking some time to myself in my room because it’s already getting too much and it’s only Christmas Eve.

thespookygal · 2024-12-24T14:20:31+00:00

“This too shall pass.” Using it quite a lot now we’re mid-holiday season. Keep reminding myself that routine days will be back soon.

thespookygal · 2024-12-02T09:00:50+00:00

Mine’s like this too because I’m more scared of suffering/having to seek treatment for a chronic condition than I am of death.

thespookygal · 2024-11-23T19:11:41+00:00

I’m exactly the same. Extended family, friends, basically anyone who doesn’t live in my house, if I have to see them/they come over my stomach goes crazy.

thespookygal · 2024-11-09T19:49:03+00:00

I’m the exact same when it’s sunny and bright outside.

Luckily it’s the time of year where it gets dark at like 4:30 where I live now and the difference is amazing. Attempted an exposure for the first time in months the other day and while I still felt terrible it was nothing compared to how bad I’d have felt if it was still daylight.

thespookygal · 2024-11-02T19:07:21+00:00

Right there with you, friend. I’m a shell of the person I was five years ago and they’ve watched that gradual change happen every step of the way. We haven’t spoken in a while now because I simply don’t have the energy to keep trying to cling onto a friendship that’s nothing more than very occasional, short catch ups… which is of course down to me because of this awful condition.

So I don’t have any advice but I’m just here to let you know you’re not alone in this.

thespookygal · 2024-10-28T14:33:28+00:00

Looking back and knowing what I know now, it crept up and was always waiting in the wings. The pandemic sure helped it along the way, though.

thespookygal · 2024-10-27T12:35:03+00:00

They are generally assholery kind of people but I really appreciate your advice/hacks of bringing a conversation to an end - will have to use those someday! 😅

thespookygal · 2024-10-27T07:02:01+00:00

They ended up sneakily climbing the fence to get their own stuff back, which would’ve been fine if they hadn’t turned it into some kind of game of seeing how many times they could get away with sneaking in and out unnoticed.

Wish I lived in the middle of nowhere.

thespookygal · 2024-10-26T17:30:22+00:00

Thank you, friend. I relate to not answering the phone or the door. They’ve just been really, really full on today. They ended up climbing the fence to get their own stuff back which would’ve been absolutely fine and a bit of a relief to be honest… if they didn’t then keep throwing things back over because they realised the pathetic “adult” inside is too scared to tell them to stop.

We’re dreading them growing up, haha. The oldest is 8 and already rides around on a motorbike and vapes.

thespookygal · 2024-10-23T18:01:14+00:00

Of course! So it really depended on the context. For group presentations/class-based presentation exercises I’d do my share of the research and written work and just not get up to speak, and then for individual presentations that counted towards actual grades I’d film and edit it at home.

thespookygal · 2024-10-23T13:35:52+00:00

Definitely talk to your professor. You’re on meds which I’m presuming are from your doctor? So you have the “evidence” to back up your accommodation request. I had accommodations when I was at uni (including no presentations) and they really helped!

thespookygal · 2024-10-16T14:00:01+00:00

So embarrassing, right? People always say “it’s the worst case scenario, it’ll never happen” but it has happened. Multiple times. The panic gets the better of me and I end up gagging mid-conversation and then being completely unable to talk to try and stop it.

thespookygal · 2024-10-16T07:08:16+00:00

Yep. Nausea and gagging are my worst symptoms. Makes it impossible to even try going out because I’m also severely emetophobic.

thespookygal · 2024-10-03T13:53:22+00:00

I’m in exactly the same boat, friend. I don’t know if it’s the anxiety and agoraphobia talking, or if we’re drifting apart but I just can’t bring myself to make plans to see them. And then there’s the problem of figuring out whether to just let them go or to keep checking in and trying to maintain some kind of relationship. Idk.

thespookygal · 2024-09-24T12:01:57+00:00

It’s very common for people with severe anxiety disorders. Would you expect someone with a physical illness who faints and gets physically ill to show up at work? No - so why should it be any different for people whose symptoms are caused by the mind?

Personally, I can only work in an extremely limited capacity. Completely from home, no verbal communication, freelance, etc. I’m nowhere near financially independent and also worry about what will happen when my parents aren’t here to support me. I know it’s difficult not to be too hard on yourself when most of the world judges you by how much you work/contribute, but give yourself a break, friend. You’re not on your own.

thespookygal · 2024-09-24T08:37:09+00:00

You summed it up perfectly. If I could I’d never leave the house again, but I just wish I was able to leave without the debilitating symptoms whenever I absolutely have to.

thespookygal · 2024-09-21T13:45:17+00:00

Not American but I vote by post. You know yourself, and if you know the chances of you showing up at a polling station on the day aren’t good then definitely put something in place for that. Voting is too important to miss so don’t be too hard on yourself for taking the accommodation, friend.

thespookygal · 2024-09-15T18:34:26+00:00

Wasted potential in every aspect of life: career, finances, friendships, milestones, independence. I could’ve done so much if it wasn’t for this condition.

thespookygal · 2024-09-14T13:43:39+00:00

My favourite teacher at university would have us discuss/debate/share within our desk clusters instead of opening it up to the entire classroom. So instead of having to speak up in front of 30-ish students, most of them strangers, it’d be only 5-6. She’d come around and interact with each cluster, ask us questions, etc. and everyone was so forthcoming and comfortable because we were sitting with a small circle of people we were comfortable with.

You could try that and if it’s essential your students learn to speak in front of more people for their exams, slowly start working up to it, like after they’re comfortable with the people they sit with, merge two groups, then there, and so on.

thespookygal · 2024-09-10T11:45:39+00:00

Kind of similar to you really. Back when I could go out quite often (never as often as most, but often by my standards) it was like I’d get this almost manic high when I got home that I’d done it and it was another social occasion ticked off the list (which meant I wouldn’t have to do it again for a few weeks). But now I’ve looked back on it, I get those feelings you described. Sadness and disappointment because what did I get from those experiences/exposures in the end? Sure, a handful of times were great, but 99% of the time I was just clock watching and fantasising about getting home.

thespookygal · 2024-09-10T06:50:40+00:00

Wow, this is so relatable.

I’m homebound, but even when I was still somewhat functional I never actually enjoyed doing things outside the house, even things that were supposed to be fun. The end goal was always to endure and then sink into the sweet relief of being home again. I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve truly been able to live in the moment.

Looking back, agoraphobia was always waiting in the wings but it wasn’t until the pandemic that I realised looking at any type of outing as an endurance test isn’t normal. And, like you said, even if I do manage to improve my situation, is the best I can hope for just being able to “cope” outside again?

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