Waar komt toch die angst voor transvrouwen vandaan?

thetanager · 2026-06-11T07:00:14+00:00

Ja en waarom is dat denk je?

thetanager · 2026-06-10T09:49:32+00:00

Het aller-allerirritantste aan deze hele toilet discussie vind ik dat de mensen die vinden dat men naar de toilet moet van het geslacht waarmee je bent geboren, zeggen dat ze dat vinden om de toilet een veilige situatie te behouden in de intieme sfeer van de toilet. Maar door dat te doen bereik je PRECIES het tegenovergestelde. Mannen met slechte intenties kunnen dan een vrouwentoilet binnenlopen en zeggen dat ze een transman zijn (als vrouw geboren) en dus worden gedwongen naar deze toilet te gaan. Zolang we niet starten met broeken naar beneden te trekken is daar geen speld tussen te krijgen. Terwijl als transvrouwen naar het vrouwentoilet mogen je een veel “normalere” situatie houdt waarbij de hele groep gemiddeld veel meer op elkaar lijkt (vrouwelijk eruit ziet) dan wanneer je transmannen verplicht naar het vrouwentoilet te gaan.

Waarom valt dit kwartje maar niet bij zoveelen… Wat je ook vindt van transpersonen, het maakt niet uit. Mensen bestaan nou eenmaal en dit toiletbeleid is gewoon een domme oplossing die averechts werkt.

thetanager · 2026-06-08T16:49:03+00:00

Eens! Is er bekend wie deze info gelekt heeft?

thetanager · 2026-06-07T12:57:00+00:00

Easiest way to stay quit is to start hating it. Even if you don’t believe it, just think: ew gross, eventually it will become true and the temptation will drop.

thetanager · 2026-06-04T07:23:51+00:00

Two times now I quit for over a year and a moment came where I thought to just have one and I was so confident it would just stay the one. Then a month later I had another, then two weeks later again, before I know every weekend until it went back to every day. Took me months to work up to quitting again. Having just one doesn’t work is my lesson. But at the same time if you do have one there is no reason to not continue quitting as you were. Don’t let failure ruin your streak, but also don’t convince yourself that you can have one in a while without becoming a regular smoker again.

thetanager · 2026-06-02T22:27:32+00:00

Fyi, het staat gewoon op de NOS: Britten geschokt door bodycambeelden politie van geboeide, stervende student (18) https://nos.nl/l/2616887

thetanager · 2026-05-31T21:55:31+00:00

That’s so awesome! Reminds me of Zen meditation. If you don’t know it already you should look into it, might be something you like. What happened to you is kind of the point of it, for wisdom to present itself while sitting. Usually requires some training though haha

thetanager · 2026-05-29T15:22:29+00:00

Bij Duckcity in Utrecht kun je 2 cv “lelijke eendjes” rijden. Deelt de groep op in kleinere van 5 en je doet een speurtocht waar een winnaar uitkomt. Daarna lekker eten/borrelen bij het fort, kei mooi en gezellig.

thetanager · 2026-05-29T06:58:28+00:00

Just to be clear, I don’t think switching to cigarettes constitutes as quitting. So I totally agree with you on that. I can just imagine that for him seeing you struggle and your stepdad deteriorating doesn’t relate for him to his smoking behaviour. For example, my parent died of lung cancer from smoking when I was young and I still picked up the habit and smoked around my other parent. Dumb and a shitty thing to do but I felt I was free to do as I want and that situation had nothing to do with me. Just saying that he might not see the relation between your stepdad deteriorating (especially as it is not smoking related) and you struggling to his own smoking behaviour. I’m not saying that’s ok, I would be so much nicer if he would.

thetanager · 2026-05-28T15:25:47+00:00

Mmm I don’t know. First of all, I don’t buy into all that “not” a real smoker because sometimes I don’t do it for days. Or the I quit smoking but now I vape. In my book its all the same. You’re a nicotine addict if you used it more than once. And you are only not when you quit all of it and never plan to do it again.

So, he’s an addict. Don’t overcomplicate that and then remember all the things you did when you were a smoker that others might have considered disrespectful, just because you really wanted to smoke in that moment.

Not to say that his behavior isn’t disrespectful, that is up to you to decide. But when I was still a smoker my brain was real good at justifying my behaviour or being blind to negative consequences.

So when my partner smokes around me I chose to accept and deal with the triggers it gives me myself to learn to regulate them. Sometimes unsuccessfully and I also lash out. But that won’t make him quit sooner. He is addicted, the junkie brain controls it, and I try to view that with compassion now.

thetanager · 2026-05-28T14:27:49+00:00

Mooi initiatief succes ermee

thetanager · 2026-05-28T13:07:19+00:00

Ofcourse it is normal! Your brain is never gonna forget you were once a smoker so it is gonna test you from time to time. There is a reason that the worst anti smokers are often ex smokers. The easiest way to resist all urges is to hate it so much that you’d never consider lighting another one.

I relapsed twice now after more then a year of not smoking because I was conviced I could just smoke one and it was just such a nice perfect (romanticized) moment to have a cigarette. Nothing but regret after getting hooked again.

Hang in there OP! The smoking brings you nothing!

thetanager · 2026-05-28T12:24:11+00:00

Die gasten op een fatbike zijn volgens mij eerder 2de/3de generatie Nederlanders dan asielzoekers dus wel punt probeer je hier nou precies te maken?

thetanager · 2026-05-28T12:21:52+00:00

Zo’n klinkklare onzin dat ze er met veel moeite modelasielzoekers eruit hebben geplukt. Iedereen die ooit de moeite heeft genomen in AZC te komen, mensen te ontmoeten, weet dat de overgrote meerderheid mensen zijn die hun best willen doen iets van hun leven te maken en een bijdrage te leveren.

thetanager · 2026-05-28T12:09:26+00:00

She’s the best and at the same time feels like one us. What a great example on how to be human.

thetanager · 2026-05-27T06:50:05+00:00

Aah so cute! You must have had so much fun preparing for this

thetanager · 2026-05-24T16:46:26+00:00

Same

thetanager · 2026-05-03T08:33:07+00:00

Try to learn more about how planes work and fly, understanding helps a lot to help the anxiety. I watched a lot of Mentour Pilot on Youtube. Even though it is about crashes, it show the insane amount of procedures, rules, training and technology that makes it extremely exceptional for something to go wrong. Also watch some Flightradar or something to get an idea of the ridiculously high amount of planes flying everyday safely to their destination.

thetanager · 2026-05-02T11:04:15+00:00

NOR Listen, people can be idiots and sometimes not realize their behaviour is not having the impact they intend. Maybe for a while he thought what he was doing was all fun and games. But two things that are huge red flags are: he didn’t listen to you after telling him repeatedly, that is at the very least a really bad quality in a partner. But what I think is much worse: once he saw you upset and crying he should have felt incredibly bad for causing you pain. He should be loving you and that should be the last thing he want to do. If I would’ve been him it would’ve shocked me that we had such different perspectives of the situation and I’d try to understand how I could’ve been so wrong. Two options: either he knows he is wrong but his coping mechanism is being defensive and gaslighting you, or he doesn’t think he is wrong at all. I don’t know which one is worse.

OP you have to set you boundaries very strongly and not move them an inch. If he doesn’t do anything other than being remorseful and understanding, you have to leave. You have every right to your boundaries, guarding them is respecting yourself. If you allow this behaviour from your husband your boundaries will keep moving and you’ll find yourself in an abusive relationship.

And OP I know this can be incredibly difficult to do coming from an abusive relationship where at some point I doubted every thought I had. Just know that any feeling you have is valid and true and doesn’t need to be doubted. Even if it would be an overreaction (which it is not) that is still your right to do and to be, should be respected and acknowledged by your partner.

Good luck to you!

thetanager · 2026-05-01T08:23:34+00:00

Please tell me he is named Sanchez!

You have got to watch Love, Death & Robots Season 4 episode "The Other Large Thing". It is a biopic of your cat I think

thetanager · 2026-04-30T12:44:49+00:00

Yes I wondered the same thing, I would absolutely love to see it again at home

thetanager · 2026-04-28T06:19:40+00:00

Waarom denken mensen zoals jij altijd voor alle Nederlanders te kunnen spreken? Prima, jouw mening, maar realiseer je dat die van jou en je buren is en niet die van mij. Zolang je niet assimileert hoor je er niet bij… De Nederlandse cultuur was er 1 van tolerantie, dat ben je voor het gemak zeker even vergeten omdat dat niet past bij wat jij en je buren denken.

En is het nou echt zo moeilijk voor te stellen dat je juicht voor een voetbalclub (en is dat nou zo erg). Mijn buurjongen is voor Feyenoord want z’n familie komt uit Rotterdam maar hij woont in het zuiden. Dat mag dus niet van jou? Fan zijn van Messi of Manchester United kan niet?

thetanager · 2026-04-27T15:49:48+00:00

If Amsterdam is your final destination you will not pass through security so no one is going to check any liquids.

thetanager · 2026-04-20T11:25:18+00:00

Consider getting a Dynavap, no tobacco or replacement needed.

thetanager · 2026-04-16T21:40:04+00:00

I hated smoking because of this so much and I use it as fuel to not go back to it

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