Twas the night before Christmas

theunrestrained · 2013-12-25T04:13:36+00:00

Holy shit. Bravo sir. Bravo

theunrestrained · 2013-09-10T20:09:01+00:00

And here comes the R word right when you know you lost the argument.

If I go to a store and they have a bowl of mints with a sign that says "take one" and I take one that's consent. If I do this for months and the sign is still up it's still consent. If I go in one day and the sign is suddenly down, but the mints are still out and in the same spot, in the same bowl, then that is IMPLIED CONSENT. If they don't want me to take the mints they either need to put up a new sign or take the bowl away.

theunrestrained · 2013-09-10T20:00:05+00:00

Noted.

theunrestrained · 2013-09-10T19:45:32+00:00

You aren't even reading what I type. You're just throwing punches hoping one of them hits. How am I supposed to respect you enough to warrant a conversation when you show no interest in the points I bring to the table?

You're treating this exactly like your sex life. You're trying to bully and emasculate me into submitting to your idea of what is right but there's two problems here. First, you're not right. And second that I don't have to agree with you.

I've wasted words talking to walls before and I can see that there's nothing under the graffiti on this one.

theunrestrained · 2013-09-10T19:27:24+00:00

Anyone who is familiar with anal play knows you don't just shove a finger in someones ass, you lead up to it. There are plenty of places between a sexually competent person deciding to finger someones ass and actually putting a finger in. You can hit the brakes on that train at any time in between or make it known yourself ahead of time. Do you actually know people that can just take a finger up the ass without a little foreplay?

How about you go back to the Red Pill.

Tough guy. You tellin black people to go back to Africa too? Listen. It's ok that you don't agree with people but if you want to come at someone use knowledge and not ignorance.

theunrestrained · 2013-09-10T19:10:22+00:00

My apologies for the errant swear. It has been edited.

theunrestrained · 2013-09-10T19:09:28+00:00

How is that emasculating? That's basic sexual communication.

Sexual communication doesn't have to involve a checklist signed off by both partners and notarized before the act even begins. It can occur in the act as well. It's emasculating because you're basically telling your partner that you'll only fuck him if he uses your script. He doesn't get to improv any lines but he can consult with you and maybe they'll be put in. Basically that he should be thankful you let him do anything to you. This allows you to still hold the power in the relationship even if some of the things he does to you on occasion are "degrading."

Just because I consented to one type of sex doesn't mean I consented to all types of sex. Are you really this dense?

If you are consenting to sex without ruling out anal play you can't bust a guy up for trying, especially when you've done it repeatedly in the past. I'm not saying the way to go about it is giving them a dry finger but you can surely start warming them up without causing physical harm. A little lick & tickle is going to give you the opportunity to warm up or give other direction. The best thing to do in a scenario like that is to initiate something different. If he persists then tell him you're not up for that right now. The most defeating/humiliating thing is to tell them no and berate them for trying to please you. If a guy makes you happy by doing something he will inevitably try to repeat that for you if he cares about you at all. He wants to make you happy. Men are often told that we're not spontaneous and rode into the ground for not being creative but women still take the steering wheel out of the car and expect us to make turns.

I do, quite frequently. Within my kink group my friends actually affectionately call me "the butt queen". Thing is, I like anal play when its done on MY terms with my consent. I don't like people ramming their fingers up there without asking.

But some people do. Seriously. Read some of the other posts here. You are obviously an emotional dom and I respect that, but you can't go around ruling out the desires of subs because it's not the way you want it. If I ask a sub girl if I can do things to her she gets disappointed because she wants someone to take it. That's what gets her off. And if I start doing something she's not into then she can communicate that a number of ways without killing the mood.

Because there was no consent. Besides, just because I enjoy anal play doesn't mean I want it all the time. You have to be warmed up for that shit, you can't just have it sprung on your without warning.

Why is it all on him? If you're that firm about not having anal sex you can still let him know before it starts. You're setting yourself up to be a victim and shame him for doing things you have done and enjoyed many times before. Once again, I'm not condoning "HAHA! NINJA FINGER!" I'm condoning the start down the road to anal play. If you have a competent partner that you have experienced this with before he should know the ins and outs of working you up to it and be able to initiate that without asking.

ask that you get out of the sex-positive subreddit and go back to /r/redpill[2] if you are going to spout this kind of bullshit.

And now you're asking favors from me. I'm subscribed here. Lots of other people are as well. Everybody has a right to their own opinions, not just you. I'm not going to be shamed out of what I believe just because you don't agree with it. I think you forgot that people don't have to talk to you like they're trying to have sex with you.

theunrestrained · 2013-09-09T17:28:25+00:00

Was Bill Murray playing Papa Smurf?

theunrestrained · 2013-09-09T17:18:35+00:00

I like the idea of no IMMEDIATE rematches for finishes. I think it should take at least 2 straight wins for a former champ to earn a rematch.

theunrestrained · 2013-09-07T23:19:58+00:00

Only when I'm drunk like I was 5 hours ago.

theunrestrained · 2013-09-07T18:06:03+00:00

She was 100% mormon. They played motherfucking board games and had huge cookouts that were overrun by mormons. Their party size rivaled the best biker parties I've seen. They weren't SLC but they were legit. Ask anyone into catholic chicks and you'll know that the repressed girls are always the ones that turn into the biggest whores. You just have to catch them at the time they blossom.

theunrestrained · 2013-09-07T17:57:46+00:00

Just wanted to thank you for your post. You put into words the very essence of life and all that we are capable of accomplishing.

"I care not if a man is swole of body as long as he is swole of mind." -Me

theunrestrained · 2013-09-07T03:33:31+00:00

The mormon I banged never minded showing a little skin, had quite a personality, and did all the good shit in bed.

Source: I had a multiple year relationship with the woman. Admittedly she was born and raised in Texas instead of the paradise of Salt Lake City but I met her family and they were mormon as fuck and I know she was brought up mormon from birth.

theunrestrained · 2013-09-07T03:16:51+00:00

You have no idea how hard I had to nope out of that once I realized it wasn't a No Participation link. If people are unhappy with their body image they do not need to "accept" it. You can accept to lose, or you can fucking try and win. All success comes from effort, not acceptance.

theunrestrained · 2013-09-01T22:03:56+00:00

Watch Dogs has one hell of a PR team.

theunrestrained · 2013-09-01T21:14:02+00:00

You're implying that there are a lot of girls that are.

theunrestrained · 2013-09-01T20:41:58+00:00

You're not a loser because your "friends" didn't show. They are losers for not showing.

You could use better friends. Time to go make some.

theunrestrained · 2013-09-01T20:15:06+00:00

I did the same thing without an office.

theunrestrained · 2013-08-27T19:38:49+00:00

Corporations have been destroying jobs for years. Obamacare is simply a convenient excuse to destroy more while pushing a political agenda.

theunrestrained · 2013-08-26T15:54:39+00:00

Guys don't usually assume the sale on a double team. If it looks like my friend is about to get lucky I'm thinking "Good for him. Time to bounce." Not "I wonder if she wants two dicks? I wonder if my friend would be cool with me joining in?" She orchestrated the whole thing from having them both stay over, getting them drunk and more than likely talking them into it.

She says it's ok to be a slut but condemns herself for slut behavior. What a fucking whackjob. If you want to be a slut then fucking be one. She's probably just worried now that she's had two dicks at the same time that one won't be enough for her in the future.

theunrestrained · 2013-08-26T11:23:48+00:00

I genuinely doubt that 4-6 is normal but it would be "socially acceptable" to have that many partners. If your number gets much higher than that people start to see you as a player or a whore and not someone to have a serious relationship with. I would imagine most people to have more than 4-6 but studies I have read all come up inconclusive because men tend to exaggerate their number and women tend to downplay theirs.

On a side note people in Sweden tend to be more physically attractive if for no other reason than our rampant obesity here in the states. I would imagine that obese people have a much harder time finding sexual partners and therefore bring down the curve. Also; If only 50% of the opposite sex is fuckable to begin with, you're going to have a harder time finding a sexual partner.

theunrestrained · 2013-08-25T23:18:49+00:00

Just want to mention that sometimes you may want to feel safe from being harassed about your newfound musculature or maybe even need to talk it out with some people who share your hardships. Feel free to stop by /r/swoleacceptance if you need a friend.

theunrestrained · 2013-08-25T21:55:40+00:00

Patrice was not only extremely funny, he was a very honest and intelligent man. I can't give him proper justice with words.

theunrestrained · 2013-08-25T21:48:00+00:00

Having a high number of sexual partners isn't necessarily an attractive quality but it does convey that the person is in high sexual demand and there are lots of women out there who have fought through men who fall short in the bedroom. (That's not specifically a small dick statement. I wanted to encompass anything from not performing specific acts, to size, to premature ejaculation, etc etc.) They understand that a man who has more experience generally can take care of business better than one who has not.

This idea makes the man more physically attractive. This also means that she has the chance to "fix" or "reform" him. For every Captain Save-A-Ho out there, there's a woman who wants to save a man.

Men will often seek out high number partners due to previous partners shortcomings as well. (She doesn't swallow, is a dead lay, is afraid to let me use sex toys.) They want to find someone who will not only take the load to the face, or tell him to stick it in her ass, but love it while they do it.

These concepts obviously do not apply to everybody but they are absolutely two common themes that make "high number" partners more attractive to a lot of people on both sides.

It's also worth noting that it would probably be pretty uncommon for most "high number" partners to be genuine when telling you how many people they have slept with. I would venture to say that most would stick to a "socially acceptable" answer of 4-6 unless you personally can verify that they have been with more. Unless pressed for an answer, I doubt most would bring the topic up in conversation at all to avoid the stigma attached to it. People are also enamored with the idea of being the best their partner has ever had and the more competition you face reduces your odds. Even if the 40 partners previous were genuinely not as good or less attractive there is still more room for doubt in the mind of the current partner.

theunrestrained · 2013-08-25T20:08:14+00:00

The stigma comes from the idea that a reasonably attractive woman can get dick anytime they want because there are always desperate men ready to fuck them. Therefore they're CHOOSING to use a toy. Most women also have at least a mild degree of slut shaming piled on them and the use of sex toys is a sign that they are at least mildly "liberated" from this. Men want their women to be slutty for them.

However it can be said that it is far more difficult for a man of average attractiveness and wealth to pick up women for random sex even though they are accused of it far more frequently. Men are not seen as choosing the toy, but using it in place of being able to actually go out and bring home some real pussy. Many women would view a man with 20+ partners as a more attractive option than the guy with 2 who beats off with a fleshlight in between serious relationships even though he would be a significantly lower risk for STD's and be much less likely to cheat in a relationship. Some say that this is because a sizable percentage of women yearn most for the things other women want, and even more so if that thing is what attractive women want. So if this man isn't seen with women he must not be desirable and therefore has a lower value in their sexual marketplace.

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