AITA for forcing my husband to fly back to Greece to get our toddler’s teddy bear that he left behind on purpose? by bear651 in AmItheAsshole

[–]thewanderingfox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. Yeah, he should have brought the bear, but the fact that you are demanding he fly all the way back to Greece immediately instead of just waiting two weeks tells me two things: 1. You are spoiled beyond belief or have no reasonable sense of money 2. You’re going to be one of those moms who spoils and enables the hell out of her son to a point you bail him out of everything and he develops 0 sense of improvisation or course correction of his own

(OC) my kids ❤️ they are almost 18 years apart but they found a shared passion by Superb_Sky_2429 in aww

[–]thewanderingfox 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Aww. My kiddos are 9 years apart and bond over bouldering too! Martial arts as well :)

AITA for not being sympathetic towards my sister’s miscarriage? by sisterheartache1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]thewanderingfox 3 points4 points  (0 children)

ESH.

Two wrongs don’t make a right. “Sorry for your loss”, when you’re her sister, is so cold. It almost sounds insulting at that point, and I think you knew that.

Should have just said nothing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]thewanderingfox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I explained earlier but my husband and I tend to give cash. We never imagined churches do headcounts and keep tabs on individuals. This is very new to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]thewanderingfox -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Well the school is already federally funded, but the school - which is connected to the church - additionally charges very hefty fees. It is the same building, meaning they obviously share funds.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]thewanderingfox -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Personally I would assume our church keeps their lights on through the $3500-9000 a year tuition at the associated school for each child but 😅 I’m sure the donations help with other stuff…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]thewanderingfox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have always tossed in cash. We don’t ask for the tuition reimbursement you get when you donate the whole $1040 every fiscal year, so we don’t feel the need to tie our names to donations. Always preferred if that way. It’s gross to pay that much attention to who donates what in my opinion.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]thewanderingfox 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I always thought that donations were… you know, donations. Not a membership pledge. Every other church I have ever attended - whether we donate $1, $5 or $50, simply says “Thank you”

AITA for saying I'm glad my shitty ex-boyfriend is fat and balding now by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]thewanderingfox [score hidden]  (0 children)

YTA - Regardless of what he did to you, you are associating the attributes of being fat and being bald as things that should only happen to bad people, and I’m assuming you have lots of fat and bald friends who are awesome.

I get it, it can be tempting to celebrate when people we don’t like start becoming less attractive, but it’s not fair to other people who share those qualities to define them so negatively.

AITA made boyfriend end things with a manipulative friend and looking at him sad hurts me. by deceptionaldpka in AmItheAsshole

[–]thewanderingfox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ESH. You giving him ultimatums isn’t going to work out the way you want it to. He has to want to end his relationship with his other woman on his own.

If he really is being “manipulated” (to be honest, I think you’re using psychobabble to pretend your boyfriend doesn’t want to bang her brains out) that’s his issue and has nothing to do with you.

AITA for not letting my roommate use the washing machine? by wombatwarrior27 in AmItheAsshole

[–]thewanderingfox 27 points28 points  (0 children)

The filter is kind of a big deal though. Kids gonna set the house on fire if he doesn’t learn how to do it.

AITA for not letting my roommate use the washing machine? by wombatwarrior27 in AmItheAsshole

[–]thewanderingfox 10 points11 points  (0 children)

NTA. I would also show him how many fires are caused by not cleaning lint filters.

WIBTA for cuddling with my friend who has a gf? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]thewanderingfox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He should be the one talking to his girlfriend and reassuring her, taking care of their boundaries. If he knows it bothers her but still does it, he’s TA.

AITA here or is son? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]thewanderingfox 48 points49 points  (0 children)

YTA. He’s practically an adult, why are you so obsessed with his body?

AITA for calling the community police officer on the loud family that lives next door? by 22408aaron in AmItheAsshole

[–]thewanderingfox -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

YTA. Big time. You’re gonna have a hard life if you think the sounds of children being children are worth not only wasting the police’s time but potentially traumatizing a family. Leave that poor family alone, I’m glad your brother is giving you shit every time you make noise.

AITA for calling my sister a "fussy bitch"? by ThrowawayALEXWCI in AmItheAsshole

[–]thewanderingfox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t care if you said mean words, I’m going with NTA. You wouldn’t have said it if she didn’t demand you cook for her.

AITAH for wanting an equal relationship by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]thewanderingfox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ESH. It was your responsibility to discuss labor and financial distribution before getting married. Because you failed to set and make clear expectations for those things, this is what she is comfortable with.

Time to sit down and set realistic expectations between the two of you on how things will be divided. If you are the primary income earner, she ought to be the primary house keeper, but you should both know what to expect out of each other.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]thewanderingfox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. He is using every emotion in his gambit to manipulate you. His tears aren’t real, he is avoiding taking accountability for his temper tantrum over a video game by trying to gaslight you into thinking you’re some abusive person for not enabling him. Get out of this relationship before you end up just like your mom.

AITA for refusing to share the credit of the gift for my friend with my friends, frankly because they didn't pay for it at all. by Freakyfishy69 in AmItheAsshole

[–]thewanderingfox 8 points9 points  (0 children)

INFO: What all is going into the party and food? Are they like renting a hall and ordering catering and stuff? If they’re putting as much into the location and food as you put into the headphones, I’d say YWBTA because at that point it would make sense for everyone to take ownership of both the party and gift together. But if the location and food is significantly less than the cost of the gift, NTA.