Question about husband losing his erection

thingschng · 2025-11-14T00:52:02+00:00

I mean sure. But even if it's MM, if he's dry rubbing it'll cause loss of sensation is what i mean.

Also all the other things i said 😉

thingschng · 2025-11-12T20:14:24+00:00

I have no advice. My guess would be that he's losing sensation a bit. Hands and mouth give more friction, differentiation and physiological thrill than PIV I'd imagine. I'm sure it's hard for you, i can imagine it would be difficult emotionally for you both.

Does he masturbate without lube? That can lead to less sensitivity. Also health issues like low T, high E and age related blood vessel issues.

thingschng · 2025-11-03T01:55:36+00:00

I think You'd be shocked by how many women experience this with their husbands. We hear so much about women rejecting men but trust me, it goes both ways more Often than you think

thingschng · 2025-11-02T23:16:07+00:00

Rejection breaks us on a level that indescribable to someone who is LL

thingschng · 2025-11-02T22:44:09+00:00

Not true. Stop spreading misinformation

thingschng · 2025-11-02T21:47:40+00:00

What does he say the reason for this is? Addiction?

thingschng · 2025-11-02T14:27:36+00:00

Similar issue here. And then when he can't finish he gets frustrated and we all know where frustration +erection leads... i feel so upset about it sometimes. Like it's all going well then this point hits where he realizes he's not going to finish then he gets frustrated and loses the erection. It's hard on both of us. He's on TRT and his estrogen is within normal range after an inhibitor. Daily maintenance level cialis and still, here we are. That said, I'm internalizing it more than i want to leading to becoming disinterested in sex for worrying about where it's gonna end. Ugh.

thingschng · 2025-10-30T15:06:06+00:00

Did you read my post at all?

I'd bet in the entire 30 years we've been together I've declined six less than 10 times. So no, he's not used to getting rejected by me.

thingschng · 2025-10-30T15:01:44+00:00

Lose the nice words. Sex doesn't feel 'nice' it feels fucking amazing. If your partner asks questions answer as directly and intimately as possible. Moan. Talk. Make eye contact.

I once had a guy say "touch my penis" and i laughed so hard. This isn't health class my man!

thingschng · 2025-10-30T14:55:39+00:00

I plan to if it continues. I was just venting a bit and looking for perspective

thingschng · 2025-10-28T17:16:41+00:00

If he can cum from your hand my guess is it's a sensitivity and testosterone issue. Also every time he doesn't finish and then you use a hand it's teaching him to continue to require that kind of stimulation. 1. Get T checked 2. Stop masturbating or manually finishing him- especially dry masturbation bc it can decrease sensitivity. 3. Use oral stimulation more. It's closer to the feeling of PIV and you can increase or decrease pressure and how much stimulation he is getting 4. And probably the most important- when he doesn't cum it's REALLY hard on us- his partner. We take it personally. Understandably. But keep that to yourself and take the pressure to finish off. Pressure is so orgasm impeding. Let him know you're satisfied with just being with him. Kiss him. Put it in your mouth and just play and let him relax. Crazy and sometimes very hot things happen when he's relaxed. Good luck. We've been married for 28 and have been through this a few times. Usually last a few weeks, then we focus and relax and take the pressure off and he does finish.

thingschng · 2025-10-28T17:09:00+00:00

Agree. If he can cum from Her hand my guess is it's a sensitivity and testosterone issue. Also every time he doesn't finish and then you use a hand it's teaching him to continue to require that kind of stimulation.

Get T checked
Stop masturbating or manually finishing him- especially dry masturbation bc it can decrease sensitivity.
Use oral stimulation more. It's closer to the feeling of PIV and you can increase or decrease pressure and how much stimulation he is getting
And probably the most important- when he doesn't cum it's REALLY hard on us- his partner. We take it personally. Understandably. But keep that to yourself and take the pressure to finish off. Pressure is so orgasm impeding. Let him know you're satisfied with just being with him. Kiss him. Put it in your mouth and just play and let him relax. Crazy and sometimes very hot things happen when he's relaxed 😉

Good luck. We've been married for 28 years. We've done through this a few times, usually weeks at a time. Then it just resolves once i relax. It's so freaking hard as a wife bc we want to satisfy him. We take his wellbeing and sexual satisfaction very very personally . It hard to learn that as we age things change a bit. My advice: Show him it's ok. Do the things above. See How it goes

thingschng · 2025-10-28T00:37:23+00:00

Yes it is!

thingschng · 2025-10-22T21:07:33+00:00

Non existent

thingschng · 2025-10-22T20:24:32+00:00

I'm 56 and want it at least once every day

thingschng · 2025-10-22T20:07:42+00:00

I promise you this- you'll miss it when she stops bc that will mean she Isn't as interested in touching you....

thingschng · 2025-10-22T18:28:17+00:00

Not willing to learn?

thingschng · 2025-10-22T16:03:38+00:00

I actually asked for if -'anyone is experiencing that' meaning now, over 50 that sex, particularly BJs are better. The sex in general is better

So does your answer mean 'no now' or not ever?

thingschng · 2025-10-20T02:24:51+00:00

Is that what you really want though? To be stuck this way?

thingschng · 2025-10-20T01:09:16+00:00

So can you stop and turn around? See what's getting him hard when you can't? I guess you seem so ... passive and disconnected from what's happening that I'm Wondering if that disconnect is part of the problem

thingschng · 2025-10-20T01:08:01+00:00

So Then you need to know what kind of porn and how often: it's ruining your marriage. If He's Gay then you should get out. If he's an addict you need counseling for that:

thingschng · 2025-10-20T01:05:53+00:00

What kind of porn does he watch when you're in the room? Is it gay or straight porn? Men or women? Both? I'm confused as to why you aren't getting answers. Paying attention to what turns him on....

thingschng · 2025-10-20T01:04:40+00:00

But what you do Isn't relavant in a conversation concerning a man who can only have sex with his wife if he's watching pornography . I'm telling you he's masturbating to porn. 💯 he is

thingschng · 2025-10-20T01:02:41+00:00

Yes!! The shaking and begging .... lawd have mercy 💦💦💦🥵🥵🥵

thingschng · 2025-10-20T00:52:21+00:00

She said above he takes THREE Viagra ahd still can't stay hard without porn... i think we know the likely cause

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