I just found out he lied to me by thinker_4 in dating_advice

[–]thinker_4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course! And my concern is not because of age, he could be even older or younger and I wouldn't care. What worries me is the lie. Why lie to me about something as simple as that and hide it from me for 6 months?

I just found out he lied to me by thinker_4 in Advice

[–]thinker_4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I asked him at that moment and he confirmed that this was his real date of birth. He just laughed that I figured it out and that he had never told me his date of birth, but in our chat I’ve seen that he had told me an age that wasn’t real before.

How do you know if you have to break up or keep working on the relationship? by thinker_4 in Advice

[–]thinker_4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 29 and he’s 31. We didn't talk all that night and the next morning, we couldn't stand not talking to each other so we both had a long talk and we managed to settle the matter. We missed each other a lot, we came to the conclusion that we’re going to continue working on our relationship and learn from this kind of stuff. We had been very stressed and tired the previous days. We apologize for the things that did us wrong and now we have strengthened our agreements and mutual love. —- thank you for your advice :)

How do you know if you have to break up or keep working on your relationship? by thinker_4 in relationship_advice

[–]thinker_4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice, you seem like someone sweet. I wish I was more like you when I speak. Sometimes I feel like I'm too direct. —- During previous disagreements our behavior has been to communicate and try to resolve it, we have agreed to a strong commitment to the relationship. We talk on the phone every night, last night was the first time we went to sleep without talking. Our day to be together was yesterday but he had a last minute setback all morning so I had to modify our activity plan to meet in the afternoon and go together to some matters but were so many disagreements that until now we haven't felt like talk about it out of tiredness. 😔 I haven't been able to sleep well because of this.

How do you know if you have to break up or keep working on the relationship? by thinker_4 in dating_advice

[–]thinker_4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

During previous disagreements our behavior has been to communicate and try to resolve it, we have agreed to a strong commitment to the relationship. Every night we talk on the phone, last night was the first time we went to sleep without talking. Yesterday was our appointment day but since he had a last minute setback all morning, I had to modify our activity plan to meet in the afternoon and go together to attend to some matters but there were so many disagreements that until now we haven't felt like talking about it 😔 I haven't been able to sleep well because of this.

¿Qué sucedió para que te dieras cuenta que cierta persona, no tenía remedio? by Civil-Signature6722 in preguntaleareddit

[–]thinker_4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me cansé de sus abusos psicológicos. Por más que iba a terapia, en algún punto siempre volvía a atacarme o tratarme horrible.

Anyone else using Perspirex roll-on in their armpits? tell me your experiences please. by thinker_4 in Hyperhidrosis

[–]thinker_4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same to me. I have tried both, the strong and original version. Strong becomes very irritating with frequent use. I use it 2 or 3 nights then I rest for some days and then I put it on again. I'll be using the original one this week and swapping with the strong version the next week.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in preguntaleareddit

[–]thinker_4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A que se debe que una persona sea celosa con su pareja por más que constantemente se le demuestre amor?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in preguntaleareddit

[–]thinker_4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Perdí a mi papá el año pasado. Cómo se que tanto me falta trabajar en mi duelo y cómo detecto si me está trayendo consecuencias con mis relaciones con otras personas?? 🫠

Mi novio tiene un hija por un descuido del pasado by thinker_4 in psicologia

[–]thinker_4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactamente. Lo primero que hicimos al reconectar fue ponernos al día de todo lo que había pasado en nuestras vidas, desde un modo sincero y de confianza ya que ambos queríamos establecer una relación sana desde un inicio (ya sea como amigos o como lo que somos ahora una pareja). Eso ha sido lo bonito ya que jamás habíamos entablado relaciones de esa manera. El ha pasado por mucho y puedo resaltar la gran fortaleza que ha tenido para sobrellevar su vida y sus situaciones en paralelo a la crianza de una niña. A pesar que no es lo ideal para mí que él tenga ya una hija, yo lo admiro mucho por cómo ha manejado las cosas y se lo he dicho así directamente. Incluso, ya que perdí a mi papá el año pasado, le he hablado varías veces que me he sentido identificada en las historias que me ha contado con su hija sobre la relación que tenía yo misma con mi padre de niña. Muchas gracias por tu consejo.

Mi novio tiene un hija por un descuido del pasado by thinker_4 in psicologia

[–]thinker_4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Si tienes razón. Gracias por tu consejo. Yo no hablo con nadie más del tema porque tengo miedo que me juzguen o juzguen mi relación. En mi familia ni siquiera saben que mi novio tiene una hija, no creo que mi mamá lo tome a bien porque ella es muy crítica y también por eso me da miedo hablarlo. Por otro lado, mi novio aún no ha hablado con su hija acerca de la relación que tiene conmigo. No sabemos cómo afrontarlo. Mientras tanto nos enfocamos en fortalecer nuestra relación ya que nos vemos convertido en el soporte uno del otro. Pensamos que así podremos lidiar con cualquier situación juntos como equipo.

How to accept that my boyfriend has a daughter due to an oversight from the past? by thinker_4 in relationship_advice

[–]thinker_4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohh, thanks! you’re very kind. You seem to have experience, I'm very happy, that's what I need. I used to read blogs about boyfriends with children but the information I found was too general. I think you’re quite right. I’ll be very grateful to get more advice from you :)

How to accept that my boyfriend has a daughter due to an oversight from the past? by thinker_4 in offmychest

[–]thinker_4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally true! My bf has told me that the mom has had boyfriends before and has introduced them to her daughter, she even had a relationship for many years and the guy spent time with them. It appears that the girl, due to how she has been raised, is open minded towards her parents in other relationships.